When can a woman hit a man first and when can a man hit a woman first?

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As you can see from the title I didn't bring up the self-defense case.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

You walk away before it even goes there if you're not grown up enough to use your words on how you feel did you're not grown up for anything because you do not use your fist to speak for you
In a man-woman relationship are you a boy and girl relationship you just don't do it and if you know one of these people like drama and would go there then you don't even want to date that really want to be around them I went out with the girl one time and probably about 3 weeks into the relationship she started telling me that every guy that she has gone with he has ended up fighting them or smacking them in the face I just got to like look at her and basically what she was telling me is that it's going to happen between us and then she told me most of the guys didn't hit her back they would walk away she said every once in a while one of her boyfriends did they hit her back so what you was telling me is if she hits me she wanted me to walk away well I just listened and probably about a month later she had stolen something from a friend of mine and I asked her about it I said where did you get this this looks just like my friends and she told me whatever she told me but I knew different for some reason I just had that vibe but anyway I went up to this property that I was working at and she was going to meet me there and I had a motorhome up there they walked into the motorhome and I see about 15 other things that belong to my friend and I walk back over to the house and she's pulled up and I had asked her what is all the stuff doing in my motorhome she said she didn't know and what it was when she was trying to set me up because she's told a bunch of stuff from my friend so I called my friend. I told him that I believed that all the stuff in my motorhome was his after I hung up the phone I told her she was going to have to leave go and get everything that she has stolen from my friend and bring it back and she got all huffy and puffy I walked back up to my motorhome and as I was walking back down she was walking up and I can see it in her eyes she was going to swing on me and I probably got about 8 ft away from her and I said she started to say something I said wait a minute before you say anything I'm going to tell you one thing if you even think about swinging on me I'm going to knock the front of your face into the back of your head that is a guarantee that's a promise I said now what would you like to say and she said nothing she turned around and walked away and went and got her the car because she was going to hit me and she knows me well enough to know what comes out of my mouth it's going to be the truth I don't know if I would have done that but I just wanted her to understand it could happen because she also knows that I'm a nice guy and then I might not do that but she wasn't willing to take that risk but anyway nobody should hit anybody ever is what words are for

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Basically never... I mean we have all heard the old axiom that a man should never hit a women. Well in general thats a good thing to live by. But unfortunately there have been many a women who have taken advantage of it.

So in 2022 I strongly recommend that no women hit a man first, unless your ready to get hit back. Yeah in know there's a lot of bad ass brawling women out there these days... and a lot of panzy ass limb dick dudes. All I can say is tread softly because you beefy cake ladies can catch a guy off guard. But don't get too brave.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Albert camus brings up a really interesting point in his novel 'the stranger.'

If killing is absolutely bad, then does it matter whether you shoot someone once or six times?

While the outcome may be the same (the person died at the result of another pulling a trigger), most of us who aren't sociopaths recognize that there are spectrums to intention, an ability to self control, and an ability to reasonably acknowledge the difference.

While self defense might be a binary scale (you hits, I defend) I think this is more complex. In terms of hitting, I would think there shouls be a reasonable distinction between a 200lb man hitting a 120lb woman who 'hit him first', understanding that we live in a society where injury (and pain from said) IS NOT a binary scale.

Do you count hits by fists pulled or bones broken? We cannot blanket aggregous acts of violence under the binary blanket of self defense (yes according to either gender).

A small to midsized woman will very rarely have an 'equally weighted' punch as a mid-size male, so should both we entitled to knocking each other as hard and as often as we want? No I don't think women should be given a free pass, but if you're a man, punch a woman equitably to teach her punches hurt, but don't punch her 6 times after her first as full force in the good old battle cry of self defense.

Most of us afterall, are not sociopaths.

Saraeclipse10 · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's okay for a man to hit a woman and vice versa. I understand that it's more taboo for a man to hit a woman due to their muscle mass, but there are women who can have that advantage over certain guys so I think it's a case by case judgement call on the level of restraint one needs to use when resorting to violence. It's about avoiding use of excessive force. If some lightweight man or woman hits a wall of a woman or man (like a baby punching your jaw), I don't think that necessarily warrants a powerful strike back from the heavyweight. The exchange would not be equivalent. Not saying that the one instigating the fight is right to go on doing it, just saying retaliation should account for the difference. Should be more about neutralizing the threat than inflicting harm

humpbackjack · Answer

Unless you’re protecting your kid from a crazy person or something there shouldn’t be any reason for hitting a woman or a woman hitting a man I’ve been in a couple relationships where my SO hit me out of anger really the first one tried to rip my hair out of my head and I grabbed her wrists and squeezed until she let go the other one is my wife she’s hit me a few times and she’s hitting for the fences but the last time was a few years ago and as she was cocking back to hit me again I told her if she hit me again I was gonna put her on her ass and she knew I meant and has never pulled that bullshit again.

BonnieBoo · Answer

The only time I’d justify a man hitting a woman is in self defence. Us women are crazy ass bitches. As a woman if you’re big & hard enough to hit a man you’re big & hard enough to take what’s coming to you. I’d never personally hit my hubby there’s better ways to sort things out without using violence. husbands never laid a finger on me either. No need for violence in any relationship. Just saying 😊

Guy13 · Answer

In this 🌎 🌍 a woman can hit, slap, throw 💩 or whatever at a man. It’s just life. I have been in dynamic of this sort and had to go upstairs or downstairs and lock myself in bathroom with the Crazy still pursuing me. I would have broke her in half if I didn’t lock myself in. This is life.

coconut94 · Answer

I punched an ex bc he was acting like a punk. Now, I would never do that again because it felt wrong and it is wrong but I didn’t cause him any pain or harm. Im weak and he always teased me to punch him when we were dating anyways. However, if he swung at me, he could have broke my face. Completely different to compare. I don’t think anyone should hit anyone. If the reason isn’t self defense then no hits should be thrown.

Samoht_Sirrom1 · Answer

In theory never...

In reality a woman can hit a man any time she wants (assuming it is a natural born woman) while a man due to his increased muscle mass and bone structure should never hit a woman unless it is say open handed and perhaps on her butt (that last part is less serious then it should be but yeah men shouldn't hit women)

Wade12345 · Answer

depends on situation. If the woman has a weapon and is a female psychopath, the man may need to go on the offensive to save his life or someone else's life. This is rare situation though. Most female psychopaths use poison or seduction to murder, not a weapon.

SmokyOne · Answer

When I was younger I would've said never. I'm 32 now though and I've had friends beaten with fire pokers, hit with bottles, possessions destroyed, etc all by girls that loved them supposedly.
I have kids to take care of.. you attack me physically and I will be defending myself with intent to neutralize the threat. Gender, size, sexuality, religion, race doesn't matter. I may lose but not without a fight.

MCheetah · Answer

People have the right to attack anyone who seriously strikes them first. Don't put your hands on anyone first unless you're open to getting an ass whoopin'. That's my rule.

Anonymous · Answer

A girl trying to rob me as soon as I tossed her the fake money I drew down on her it was a cold night I remember that I told her to take off her clothes and walk to the nearest police station hopefully that got her out of the life of crime if not that's one hell of a mean lesson

cookiecrusher · Answer

Most women have no business hitting a guy ever. You would get absutely wrecked. And guys shouldn't hit weak guys or women. When some verbal nonsense is going on cheating or etc, just walk away.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

A woman can hit a man first if he says something truly horrible and she’s overwhelmed by emotion. A man can never hit a woman first cause he’s inherently stronger than she is.

OddBeMe · Answer

Eesh… chivalric side says never for me. Most of the time (I assume) girls will hit their guy in anger because they believe we can take it. Doesn’t make it right.

If my wife came at me in sudden psychotic terror and I thought my life was on the line, I might have to slap some sense back into her.
Besides, I told her that hooker made me wear a condom. So what’s the problem?

Shy_Steve · Answer

I reckon a Woman can hit a Man to prevent a Man from hitting Her but a Can only hit a Woman if he has already been hit by her repeatedly, Us Guys should try to prevent a Women hitting obviously verbally first then physically for example grabbing her arms.
Guys still have a right to defend ourselves but we don't have the right to hit a Woman first.

Love_girl1290 · Answer

Do or die situations, but never hit someone because you can. Just walk away and be the better person. Protect the weak and innocent people when it comes to dangerous situations if need be if you can't run away.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

- During sparring in martial arts
- During a BDSM fantasy
- They are coming after you with a gun or weapon... trying to kill you or others
- They are trying to blow up a building and are showing you a bomb in their hands

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

In a man's case, if you hit my nephews or nieces, my mother, or my girl (none currently) I will hit you, as if you were a man.

TallAnon · Answer

When can you hit any human first? That's when. If they're endangering someone else and the situation requires it. (Hurting a child/baby, throwing things, etc.)

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

The only acceptable time is in self defense (or some sport match). That doesn't necessarily mean the other person hit you first. But if your safety is endangered by this person by all means hit them.

laraWM · Answer

I don't think you should hit people. In my opinion, it is not about being first or not

Chattyguy44 · Answer

Well a man should never put his hands on a woman in any case. It's different if your learning self defense, but in any other circumstances a man should never hit a woman no matter the circumstances, even if she does something to piss him off.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I would not hit a woman vice versa if things get that heated in an argument I would just walk away go to another room, leave the house, pack bags go to a motel to things blow over

weysally · Answer

I prefer the word slap. if either has hysteria then maybe a slap could bring them out of it, otherwise, no one

kellytheman · Answer

Well nobody should be hitting anybody especially a man should never hit a women unless he needs to protect himself. Maybe women think if they hit a man it doesn't hurt as much but I feel that's not true.

UsernameXLTX · Answer

If a woman is trying to seriously harm my kid or a kid in general , imma fuck her up.

dolemite89 · Answer

the only time i could think that would be justified is if they were about to hurt you or your children

KatieB713 · Answer

Self-defence only... There is never a good reason to hurt someone if you were just arguing

dustybiker · Answer

In my area it isn’t legal to strike someone with intent.

JosyJosy · Answer

The one being attacked should have the right to hit back. And if you attack someone I care about, I'll hit first too

Iron_Man · Answer

Only when she’s trying to do serious damage hit you with a baseball bat cut you with a knife or she’s real strong trying to damage your eyes and pound you

jshm2 · Answer

Whenever they feel like they need a day in court, and a lawyer isn't making enough money.

Citizenkirk · Answer

It is always O. K. not too hit each other at all, unless you are in a boxing ring wi

Djaay · Answer

As soon as i declare that its " Aparrent " that your about to give me s premptive strick... leagally i can strike back at you one good one. And i will.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

Neither should be hitting anyone and if someone does, the thing that is in between their legs shouldn't be the determinant of whether you should defend yourself or not.

exitseven · Answer

You should never hit a woman unless she had a gun and will kill you.

_Lucian · Answer

Nobody should hit or abuse anyone. It's not less ok for a man to hit a woman and it's not more ok for a woman to hit a man.

MrInsensitive2 · Answer

You shouldn't what does it solve? If it happens own it and reflect on what got me here. Especially if you hit first.

GalaxiesAmong1808 · Answer

In my opinion it is never acceptable to hit a woman first.  The fact is that men are far stronger, and can do far more damage.  It is better to just move on and forget

cocoo52 · Answer

No one should ever hit their partner. No matter how mad or upset you are.

BillyBalls · Answer

Hitting first implies being the agressor. No one should be aggressive.

Valso · Answer

A man who beats a woman is not a man, he's an insect and a coward!

RHK36 · Answer

People shouldn't be hitting each other outside of defending themselves or playing around.

ragooo8 · Answer

Never. If your a woman you will get equal rights and lefts

Subarugirl · Answer

the only acceptable time to hit anyone is in self defense, and that goes both ways.

Mr1derful · Answer

I'd never hit a woman ever! But that doesn't seem to go both ways!

ManHater · Answer

When a woman hits a man it's game on. Beat the bitch. No man deserves to get hit and that women should know what comes next.

msc545 · Answer

Nobody can hit anybody first, but it happens. Women do this a lot more than men do and usually get away with it.

Nazgol · Answer

When its well deserved, in both cases regardless of gender just to be fair. But I generally believe men should avoid it.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If the threat to physical harm is immediately then both should hit first. You have to protect yourself.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Never. But whomever hits first, ought to expect to get hit back.

Staximus · Answer

Only in defense of their life and safety or in defense of another's life and safety.

Fuentes · Answer

Nobody should hit anyone, keep your hands to yourself

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

A woman should never hit a man and a man should never hit a woman.

rebeliouse · Answer

@marish01 never by the way love your lips

nawtee_me · Answer

Never, It is not right to hit anyone... press charges instead...

driven159 · Answer

no hitting at all just shows lack of intelligence and being able to talk things out

SHREYASH007 · Answer

Inever hit a woman. I generally walk away so that she cannot attack me.

krin_m · Answer

No one should hit anyone unless it is, as you mentioned, in self-defense.

fireforeffect · Answer

When he insults her. The answer to part two of your question is never.

Anonymous · Answer

Only in cases of self defense or when defending another person from an attacker.

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