Ladies, when you were pregnant, were you scared or nervous to give birth? If you haven't, are you scared of it happening in the future?

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Oribi · Accepted Answer

The first time, I was scared. The second time, it actually was harder on me, but I wasn't scared at all. I had forgotten just how much the first time hurt, but remembered how incredibly wonderful it was to meet my baby, so I was going in just thinking about how great that would be... and got caught by surprise by the pain. It was still wonderful afterwards, and totally worth it, though. :)

The thing is, if you're a woman who chose to be pregnant and wants your baby, and if nothing truly traumatic happens during the birth (which it can, and is a totally different kettle of fish), the moment you meet your baby wipes out anything negative that came before it. None of it matters anymore. This is partly because of the rush of love, but also frankly because the pain stops almost instantly when the baby is born -- there will be soreness and pain later as you recover, but not immediately -- and because your hormones are pumping pleasure chemicals into your body really fast right then.

So afterwards, in a fairly normal birth with a wanted baby, it all feels okay even if it didn't during the process. That's not just my own experience; I helped other women have babies for six years too. I don't want to ignore the limitations on this -- it's often untrue for a baby who wasn't wanted in the first place, and it's even more often not true if the birth process involves not just pain but suffering and terror, or shame, or any other emotion that can leave traumatic scars.

But if it's just physical pain, and she's well supported in a wanted birth that goes otherwise normally, that physical pain feels pretty irrelevant very quickly.

charlean · Accepted Answer

I really dislike the idea of birthing so I’ve been considering adoption but that’s a very difficult road as well and surrogacy is very expensive.

I think when it comes down to it, I’ll want to do it because I know the mothering instincts can kick in and you forget all about the bad shit that comes with it and I’ll just want to start a family with my partner. Reading these other woman’s responses were comforting because it wasn’t too bad.

I’ve decided that I won’t be getting pregnant if I’m 30+ though, cause from what I’ve found, it fucks your body up at that point

Smegskull · Accepted Answer

Considering the low statistical probability of being attacked has women in constant fear, I would expect the statistically high (relatively) probability of serious harm from childbirth would have them absolutely terrified.

IsoUser · Accepted Answer

I would imagine that any girl is scared or afraid to give birth as the father I would be freaking out letting alone what my girl had to go through.

19magic · Answer

Nah I wasn't nervous or scared I was more nervous if I was gunna be a good mother then anything else tbh. The brith didn't hurt, the contractions hurt but the actual brith for me lasted about 25 minutes (the second the head started coming out till the placenta also came out). It's funny actually I went to the toilet as they gave me a duce to help me give birth and I remember sitting there bleeding I was so scared I thought she was still born I pulled that red cordvthey always have next to the toilets. Loads of doctors came out and then was false alarm and the two who's been with me were so nice and checked and were just like no no it's fine your just in labor and I was like oh I thought it was supposed to hurt. I sat on this stall thing and then I was moved to this foam block and essentially lied on it in doggy position lol

sage2021 · Answer

I was not afraid at all. I didn't dwell on the giving birth part either. I just went through it like I was supposed to. But I must say that I wasn't a bit nervous when we arrived at the hospital. But once the enema was done, and they broke my water all the way then lady scaped down there, my body changed. I remember my teeth chattering and I got the cold chills. They gave me a pill to relax me, and then I was fine. Not one time did I vomit during my entire pregnancy - that is until I was in labor. I went to work the whole nine months and had to ride the bus to work and back. So, it was pretty much an uneventful pregnancy. I fell so in love with him once he was born and I still love him so very much ❣️

SnakeBoop · Answer

I researched the science behind it more than personal views, I stuck away from YouTube horror stories and learnt all my options.
The contractions are god awful. But gas and air made them bearable. The actual pushing to me was just needing a giant poop.
I birthed two babies, both naturally. I had to have my placenta removed by surgeons after so epidural time. I fell asleep on the operating table first time 🤣 first kid I had one stitch because "he was there anyway" as the doctor said, second and fatter baby that impressed all the midwives size wise was born with no stitches.

Lucy68 · Answer

The day I find out that I'm pregnant will most likely be the happiest day of my life (of course I'll be married and hopefully financially stable). So the giving birth I'll be excited cause I'm getting to meet my little baby. However, due to me having PCOS anything can happen during that time especially during delivery with me either having to get an emergency C-section or me going into premature labor/the baby being born early. So when that day comes I'm going to have a lot of emotions.

Chlo3_2001 · Answer

I have never been pregnant, I don't have plans to get pregnant or have kids, maybe never. I adore and love kids, but being a parent just isn't something I think I want. I have considered youth work and teaching layer in life so I do love working with kids, just that patenting and pregnancy, are not for me. But I am interested to hear what and how others who have chosen different to me may feel.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

I am nervous about giving birth in the future (when I do decide to have kids.)
I know there are a lot of risks with giving birth. You can lose a lot of blood, have issues with the umbilical cord, get torn down there, and many issues that could harm my child.
I know that many doctors are very skilled in what they do, but sometimes accidents happen and I would not want to experience being one of those little accidents.

420Rachel · Answer

Oh hell yes I was terrified. But I had an epidural and after that I didn't feel anything except some pressure when my son was crowning. The healing process is worse than the birth itself lol 😂. And it still wasn't as bad as when I had my tonsils removed.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nope birth is the fun part. I have done it 3 times now and loved each time so much. Makes me want to have another so badly just for the experience again. But I have to say I'm lucky to have had all vaginal births with no tearing. I feel very bad for c section moms and moms that tear.

Mess96 · Answer

I’ve always wanted to have kids and experience it myself, being a mother has always been part of my biggest dreams/wishes, but as I’ve heard more from mothers I’m actually scared. Plus I can’t have kids now so I’m just gonna do what I have to to adopt.

KAT247 · Answer

It was one of the times I felt the gravity of the potential of dying since giving birth is no joke, but at the same time, I wasn’t scared of dying either. In many ways, all the other times I got close to dying, I was indifferent. It’s hard to explain since indifferent doesn’t seem to characterize it properly.

Pink2000 · Answer

Yes. Black women have the highest mortality rate during child birth. I am a black woman and I am scared to give birth. Childbirth is the closest a woman comes to death as it is so imagine me telling my doctor something is wrong and they don’t believe me and I die.

Anonymous · Answer

I am currently pregnant.

All my life I was terrified of birth, I planned every way to avoid pain etc... except now when it actually matters, I'm not that afraid. A bit nervous, yes, hoping everything goes well and that the baby is healthy and there's no long term problems for me so I'm not traumatized and can have more. But mostly I just can't wait to finally hold her in my arms and birth is just something that has to be done, means to a wonderful end.

Apulu_3 · Answer

I don't know about that but it was blood curdling to listen my aunts scream while she gave birth to my little cousin brother. I almost started crying because yes I was scared of losing her as she is just like my second mom.

Ronni69 · Answer

I have had 4 children. You are always nervous and scared. (Each pregnancy is different) You always worry if everything will go well with the pregnancy, delivery, how much pain, what to bring, did you plan enough etc…

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I haven't been pregnant.
I am so scared of getting pregnant and eventually giving birth.
And even more so with what comes next, taking care of that goblin afterward.
Scares the shit out of me. Not sure if I ever will get there.

EmmaMary · Answer

I believe it's only natural and expected to be nervous, scared, apprehensive etc. I know I certainly was.

However, the huge plus side is that truly amazing, indescribable moment when you give birth and bring new life into the world.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

Yes I’m very scared. It’s scary. Not only is the actual process very painful and *different* to any experience I’ve had before, but my body is bound to change forever. It’s a beautiful miracle but it’s also very scary.

SweetNevi93 · Answer

It was very scary both times, for me.  I had health complications and needed to be induced for both, so I've never been given the chance to deliver 100% naturally.

melanieeeB · Answer

I'm low key scared to give birth one day, I have watched a few videos on that and things are getting ripped apart and shit and it's scary ngl

sunflower00 · Answer

If I ever decided to have kids I’d be absolutely terrified. My mum had a horrible experience giving birth to me

Needadvice1202 · Answer

It's very scary and traumatizing it could go smooth or completely wrong, I had both one traumatic and one smooth

PhenomenalQueen · Answer

Yes, I was scared the first time I was pregnant because I was very young.. However, now, I wouldn’t be scared I would probably just breeze through it.

Harleigh90 · Answer

Delivered a few babies, doesn't scare me at all. Hopefully one day will experience it

TrueConfection · Answer

Yes to both, but it didn't stop me from doing it again.

sheikalana · Answer

I really want to have a baby. Going into labor scares me a bit but honestly what scares me the most is the post partum.

annabananna · Answer

I’m pregnant and I’m scared of giving birth. It’s just so hard to imaging a whole human coming out of there. All I can say is I’m def getting an epidural.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Yes I was especially when my doctor scheduled a cesarean , It is very painful.

Darine123 · Answer

I actually scared to give birth. Your vagina probably have to open like 10 cm or more and a lot of pain.

Sour-rose · Answer

Honestly no, ain't havin' any mofo give me his little demons.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap. That's why I never let it get far before I put a stop to that shit. Fuck all that.

whosnumber1 · Answer

just go to the birthing ward of a hospital and you can experience the screams first hand...

little_rose · Answer

Yup because I'm not ready yet.  I do want kids but I'm just too young rn lol

Iron_Man · Answer

The skinny girls can really push it out quickly I’ve heard

Nazgol · Answer

Didn't yet but yes I'm actually really nervous about the whole thing 😥

cedarcheese · Answer

yes, this situation makes me nervous, but I'm sure I'll be more happy afterwards.

Kelly6 · Answer

WAs excited and I’m again

RebeccaSJ · Answer

I was excited. I've done it three times now.

Kurdistan1991 · Answer

I don't know because I've never been pregnant. lol

modeve · Answer

Happy and nervous.

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