My brother's girlfriend hates me?

[Anonymous]

I keep getting into fights with my brother now because his girlfriend clearly hates me with all the looks she gives and that, even my bigger brother said she was stuck up so we knocked named her the dog. Anyway the dog practically lives in my house & never leaves! These guys were making funny of me and when my brother was away she started laughed and everything! Its so annoying & I tried saying hello to her but the dog just stares into space ignoring me being all stuck up! I don't even care about my brother now he can choose her, but I'm so close to grabbing her by the hair if she bes rude to me again! I'm going through a hard time too having suicidal thoughts & making me feel sh*t isn't helping I want her out!

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btw did I mention she never leaves the house like ever! What I'm I suposed to do? :( my lifes hell enough

[heatherlu]

She's dating your brother, she's not dating you. That's the most important thing - she might be in your house, or around you a lot - and yes it would be common courtesy to be friendly towards you; but she doesn't HAVE to. Just because she's with your brother, doesn't mean she's compelled to be your friend.

I emphasis, I really do, because in the past my brother's had girlfriends who I don't like, or ones who don't like me - and sometimes it just felt like they were up in my space all the time because they were around. But this is your brother's choice, it's not your choice, and you have to respect that he likes her.

I'm not saying you have to like her.

I'm not even saying you have to like that he's with her - but you have to understand that he's not with her out of a vendetta against you - he's with her because he likes her. And if she won't talk to you or whatever, then fine. It isn't your problem.

You don't like her, she doesn't like you - leave it at that, and respect that your brother does.

And I agree with Shaun, going round calling her 'the dog' whether it's behind her back or not, is immature, and spiteful - and I'm sure she gets the feeling that you don't like her, just as much as you get the feeling that she doesn't like you - which is probably why she isn't making the effort.

[heatherlu]

*empathize - typo sorry.

[Anonymous]

I say you approach her about the attitude, and if it's still there just grab her by the hair like you want to. I know, I know, violence doesn't solve everything. But it does happen to solve some things lol

If nothing else, you'll get some of your aggression out and a little respect from 'the dog'. But if you really don't think you can beat her, don't embarrass yourself by starting something you can't finish.

if one of my brothers had a girlfriend around like that I would have popped her loonngg before thinking to come on here and ask for advice. You've done the right thing by talking to your brother about it, but no luck. And it doesn't sound like you've talked to your parents about her not being there so often (sounds like you've assumed they won't believe you?) but do it in a mature and honest way. If there's still no luck, just turn the tables, bullies don't like to be bullied. Make her experience at your household a miserable one every time she comes over. Go out of your way to be rude, throw dirty looks, and make it known that you won't be putting up with anymore bull. Maybe she'll learn to stay her ass home.

[Asker]

FINALLY! Some good advicee! ha ha I bang my doors about when she sleeping and stamp my feet reall loud and she complaind about me dryer my hair in the morning lmao :)

[Opinion Owner]

I expected some 'thumbs downs' for this one but I didn't expect best answer lol

it's easy to say you should just let it go and all that but it's unrealistic and that's NOT how the real world works. you have to do whatever is necessary to gain your respect and most of all keep your sanity. Ur obviously already going through some things and you really don't need that extra stress. seriously, she SLEEPS there too?! wtf she needs to GO! lol if you want to talk more about it I can add you but you can handle this.

[ilovecaylam]

You can't make your brother choose between you or his girlfriend. Just ignore her she's a th*ck. When she's around go out with your friend's. Have you talked to your parents about her? Maybe they can tell your brother not to bring her over anymore. What age are you and your brother?

[Asker]

yeah buh she's doesn't act that way infrount of my parents just her dumb friends and me -.- so they think she's lovely I'm 17 and he's 18 & my biggest brother is 20

[ilovecaylam]

I think you should just say it to her, just be like 2 here what's your problem with me?"

Don't let her get to you .

You said your having suacidal thoughts ? I don't know why or what happened, but if you want to talk you can add me on MSN ? Cause I use to think like that too. If you want ?

[Shaun]

You call her the dog and expect her to be nice to you? If you weren't her boyfriend's little sister, she'd be beating your ass.

[Asker]

i don't say that to her face and we kknick named her that cause she's a bitch!

[Shaun]

I don't care if you say it to her face or not.

[Asker]

yeah well you don't know so whatever iv had enough

[Shaun]

Then move out, it's not your house.

[Asker]

im 17 ass hole were I'm I gonna go its not his house either f*** off and leave me alone! I asked for help so stop shooting me down I'm going through a lot okay?

[Shaun]

He's not the one who has a problem, you are. You don't get to call the shots, you don't pay the mortgage/rent, period. I don't know what 'you're going through', but as far as your question goes, you're making a lot out of nothing.

[Asker]

ummmm neither doesss he you know nothing please stop talking cause were going round in circles here ... eh yeaaah

[Anonymous]

Stick in there it won't be forever just keep trying to be nice to her, afterall if the roles were reversed and it was your boyfriend that didn't get along with your brother you would hate for them to be constantly at each other, and if she doesn't extend the same common courtesy to you then she's not even worth thinking about.

[Asker]

umm no I would dump him if he wasn't being nice to my brother familys more important to me buh ovasly not to him ..

[whathappenedthistime]

I can relate so much my brothers girlfriend lives with me and my family she is always make fun of me and my brother (He has a disability) she always gets mad at me and my brother and her and my older brother always fight, and when I'm changing she doesn't even knock she try's to open the door yet she complains when we do it. i haven't said anything to my parents because obviously they won't believe me.