Girlfriend (24) Dresses Like Old Lady; Deal-breaker?

[Anonymous]

Everyone thinks she's much older than me because of the way she dresses... but we're the same age; think loose fitting old lady librarian clothing, and that's not an overexaggeration. She even bought those old lady walking sticks for when we walk trails (the trails are flat and free of obstacles).

She stopped dressing nice and it's been over a year like this.. I'm losing my attraction to her, and when I brought it up she just said that's how she wants to look from now on... I'm not into 9pd ladies.

I don't know what to do

[alytaylor]

if you two are seriously in love, it shouldn't matter She could be wearing a garbage sack and still be the most beautiful woman.

[Asker]

Would you date a guy who wears garbage bags haha... I still think she's beautiful... I don't know

[alytaylor]

I love my boyfriend dearly. If he wore old man clothes everyday for the rest of my life, I would still be with him. I don't care about his looks like that, I find him handsome regardless. Would he look better in other clothes? Yes. But as long as he continued to take care of himself, if he wanted a different style and it made him happy that's not my place to mention it.

[steveusna]

There are many possible reasons for the change in dress. It is important to her. It should be important to you as well since you are her boyfriend. You need to reassure her that your attraction to her is based on who she is as a woman and not the way she dresses. Don't belittle or embarrass her over her style choice. This could be a great opportunity for the two of you to grow closer. Never be embarrassed by how your partner appears. Your self-esteem does not derive from her beauty.

[UniquelyBasic]

Play dress up with her, it could be fun to act like an old couple😂😂

[Asker]

Might give her perspective, or she might like it

[UniquelyBasic]

Dress in a way she doesn't like but that seems kinda petty but oh well

[Asker]

She wore her librarian cloths to a literally ball... I was in a suit... and embarrassed

[UniquelyBasic]

Either embrace it or leave her if it bothers you that much

[Iron_Man]

To her to dress like a hot woman