Men hate feminism yet whenever a woman complains that a man hurt her she gets shamed for not knowing how to exist in a world where men are expected to prey on women. Suddenly the argument to “pick better men” is thrown out as a device to silence her. Whenever a woman speaks out to rebut that men should be better (which actually may empower men as it’s meant to help them improve their morality and character) many men get defensive and even argue that women don’t deserve better because we ourselves are not good enough to be treated well in the first place for one reason or another. Or it’s argued that if a woman was deserving of a good man she would attract one. So when women decide to raise the standard of the men they will allow to be with them in order to make an attempt to pick the better men, it’s argued that we are basing a man’s worth on how he benefits us and not on his value as a person. Its argued that we are gold diggers or that we want security or status or some other superficial reason. And even though men are often excused for wanting women for superficial reasons like her looks, body, or her service/submissive to men, it becomes an issue -yet again- in the woman’s choices. Men literally push, urge and even encourage women to have feminist ideals And then shame us for it.
Why do men hate feminism yet everytime a woman complains about being hurt by a man we are urged to have the skill set to “know better”?
