Why does like every woman think playing hard to get is ok but if a guy plays it with then they drop the guy super fast?

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Like there is such a massive double standard in how women think they can treat guys versus how guys can treat them I notice. Every time I’ve just not been interested girls almost always lose interest super fast but then if they don’t show interest it’s like they expect me to keep chasing or I don’t actually like them. delusional! How can u date women when they all do nothing but act like this? Like women are so not self aware it’s like impossible to date them.

Changiis07 · Accepted Answer

I think immature women and immature men play hard to get. It’s wrong regardless but some are exposed to articles saying play hard to get men love the chase. I know because I would read those articles thinking that

razelove · Answer

They play hard to get, your goal is to not give a shit. Your problem is that you're stopping at a dozen. You should be approaching every woman that catches your eye as it is a complete game of possibility vs. probability. That possibility is anything, but the probability is about zero if you don't talk. When just flirting or hitting on women that you're getting to know, there is no such thing as too many.

Anyway, my approach may not work for you. For me I take all women in my region on all dating apps and grind through them, go to bars in the area and burn through them, and I'll find maybe 6-10 women I would want to be with and want to be with me after about a solid 2-3 weeks of work that way. As you get older the numbers will be less and cold approaching may not work as well, art classes, hiking, what have you may need to supplement your approach.

You want to be a plague, a meme, and infect every place any young woman could possibly be to draw all possibilities into probabilities. At the same time you're eliminating everyone that doesn't desire you, that you find undesirable, is in a relationship, whatever else you may feel is important. Any excuse or reason works in this phase, either for you to not want to talk to them anymore, or them to not want to talk to you. Whether you find them attractive or not at a glance, you must talk to them though. They might have a hot friend, you could be seeing things funny like reverse beer goggles because of fatigue due to the grind you've been through. They may have a lot of money.

Anywho, it's worth the work to find who you want. Your next question may be "what about shame, you just said you exhaust an area like a plague of locusts, what do you do, move?" Nope, not necessary, college towns work best as no matter how badly you do, in 3 months there will be an inflow and outflow. 6-10 is if you're being picky and looking for a relationship, otherwise instead of concentrating the work just play the field. Cities will also have a constant inflow/outflow where you will never exhaust the market no matter how hard you try to.

TrueConfection · Answer

What guy plays hard to get? If he's not showing interest, I'd assume he's not interested.

Some girls *are* hard to get because she doesn't want to be used and discarded. If she's not, most guys assume the girl is desperate or available for every guy.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

True story. I'm in my mid 30s. I don't have time for bullshit. If that girl is heterosexual and have a desire to date, what's wrong with getting know guys. You don't have to date them forever. Just try it out of you are interested or just don't if you are not interested. It's simple as that. What's with this playing hard to get bullshit anyways?

Adronicus · Answer

Depends what you're after. I would never consider a relationship with a woman that plays hard to get & I'll explain why. After all the stupid mind games, hoops, hurdles all this does is weed out decent guys; the ones that endure it are either the desperate guys or guys just wanting to get laid & they're resentful after all those games. That's why they treat you like trash after.

Rebecka33 · Answer

Just because they play hard to get doesn't mean bad theyre being respectful by not assuming your into them many girls fear rejection so they want to make sure a guy is pretty into tthem before leting guard down.

treesareold4 · Answer

Usually in my experience if they playing hard to get they wanna make sure they are making the right decision and cam be trusted and if you are it shouldn't really be a problem

SnakeBoop · Answer

I live by the motto "! if you're interested, show it!"

saintsRow3 · Answer

Your wasting your Time Palio if she’s Interested in you then She wouldn’t make it so hard. I have no problem Getting girls
You on the other hand could Learn a few lessons. It’s not that hard to get hot 🥵 and heavy with Females.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

It's true. No girl on this planet is worth chasing. You could be spending that time getting to know each other but instead she wants to play games and be childish.

zagor · Answer

I've known cases where the girl repeatedly rejected the guy time after time but finally consented, and they wound up married. Other times they finally get a restraining order. So take your chances, or not.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Never bother with women who do that, no one is worth chasing, if a girl likes me, she can either say so, or she can't have me. I wouldn't say it's 95% though, it's probably closer to 60%

WhitneySnow · Answer

Because they think guys aren’t supposed to play hard to get. But girls are.

Yiannithelegend005 · Answer

I like easy girls anyway so in my opinion  if she plays hard to get she's hard to want.

Anonymous · Answer

If a I am interested in a woman and she doesn't show interest in return, I have to assume she either is genuinely not interested or she is playing games. Either way, she is not worth my time and attention.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Play hard to get... undateable. Just move on. Is hard to get... wife status jump through some hoops for her but not anything degrading or moronic... got to have self respect.

SignedAutographs · Answer

Nah dude. That shows she's a classy girl, and isn't going to just "give it up" to the first guy she sees

Just4ThisNow2 · Answer

This can be fueled by insecurities, overstimulation, and other factors. In the end, immature mind games don't build healthy relationships.

anon1903 · Answer

And men dont like easy fucks either. Interesting.

Why does like every woman think playing hard to get is ok but if a guy plays it with then they drop the guy super fast?

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