Guys, what do you think are the causes of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)?

[Rebec18]

[ChrisWaters]

Sometimes I think that there's so many characteristics listed that define a narcissist that almost everyone has at least a few of the traits if they're honest.
However there are some people that I know who are true narcissists, and there's something dark and somewhat sadistic about them. There's no conscience there, they're totally selfish, and they're wonderful at lying.
My ex was one, and when we split up she thanked me for making her a better person, but yet she's still as shady as ever. Heartless to a degree.
I think some people are just that way. They can't empathize or care really. Not only that, but they sort of take pleasure in hurting others. I know a guy like that and there's just something off about him. Everything he says is fake and I don't trust him anymore.

[Rebec18]

That's true. But according to you, what are the causes of this disorder?

[ChrisWaters]

I don't think people are necessarily turned into narcissists. I guess if they came from a very abusive home and went through hell, there's a chance it could affect a person and make them have issues.
It's just that the guy I know has siblings who are polar opposites of him. It's hard to believe they were raised together. My ex didn't have the best life, but I think there's something deeper that's different about her. I lived with her for 15 years and I feel like I never met the real her. She honestly scares me in some ways because she's so two-faced and manipulative. I'm legitimately traumatized from the end of our marriage, and figuring out all that she had done. It's not like her whole family is like that or anything. She has different sides to her, and very little conscience. She accepts no blame for anything, ever, she doesn't self-reflect, or care enough to be better. She is like a shark that just keeps moving, or a tornado that unapologetically leaves a path of distruction. She's just a different breed.

[Lionman95]

It sounds like a turn off because a narcisstic person sounds as not being for a relationship. In my opinion relationship means a giving and taking and building a team. If one person just thinks about her own good that sounds like an obstacle for me I´d rather consider not having a relationship with her than because chances are that she will use me.

[Shyguy206]

Environmental, however it CAN be genetic. If someone were to grow up spoiled and led to believe that they are "superior" to everyone else then they can develop a narcissistic personality. I had a friend who suffered from this and least to say that our friendship didn't last.

[Andres77]

Lack of discipline and lack of consequences for their actions growing up.

[Rebec18]

Yeah right

[Fromdusktilldawn]

hmm can be a character trait you got from your parents or can be obtained by being too spoilt as a child
not really sure

[Rebec18]

That's true.

[Confuzzled1]

I’m not a guy but definite worth exploring PTSD as symptom of narcissistic people

[In_Trance]

Surrounding yourself with assholes is the biggest cause

[Rebec18]

Gotta get rid of these assholes then

[Shy_Steve]

Usually it's their Childhood and how they were bought up.

[Rebec18]

Agreed!

[IsoUser]

I think that child neglect and disrespect have a lot to do with it.