Why would some female I don't know accuse me of trying to steal her man?

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Losalt · Accepted Answer

It's about insecurity.
The brain is like a muscle.
You get better at what you do a lot.
If you spend a lot of time worrying about something you get better at worrying.
And our brain is all about seeing patterns.
We have to *learn* to see, hear and feel things.
Otherwise all we see is those many coloured dots firing off that makes no sense that you see in the dark.
There's two big black spots in the middle of our field of vision, but we don't see it because what our consciousness sees isn't the output from our eyes, but a signal processed multiple times.
And we keep processing them.
So we see faces when looking at houses, windows becoming eyes, doors the mouth etc...
And if we worry about not looking good and being "fat" you'll see yourself looking worse and worse and worse because you inject the bias in your brains training into what you actually see to the point where it isn't actually real anymore, and your own look keeps getting worse in the mirror despite your body not physically changing at all, and therefore proving that what you see isn't real.

The same applies to our perception of the world around us.
When we keep worrying we train our brain into thinking that negative thoughts are the important ones.
If someone healthy experiences 10 things, 5 positive and 5 negative, they might remember 3 of each being important enough to remember.
Someone with depression might remember all 5 negative things and even interpretate one of the positive things negatively because they're so good at looking for negative patterns by now that they see them even where there isn't any.
So they might have 6 negativ experiences and one positive that they remember for insurance, or just 6 negative ones.

Now thing of a girl experiencing this.
She's thinking about how bad she is and how he might find someone better.
And in her mind you're about to take him, thing that's innocent just repeating over and over in her mind tormenting her.

It's not her fault at all.
It's how she has been conditioned by her surroundings.

Does that make sense?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I know dudes will act like that towards other dudes when their chick is the cheater type and probably has cheated, and they don't know who it is.

Like my uncle taught me about stupid people... don't get pissed off at them for being stupid... try to feel sorry for them instead. Same goes for any chick stuck to a dude that she catches winking at every chick that walks by and wants to get jealous about it. It's her own fault that she's given up on giving him shit (because it amounts to shit) and tries to scare off any competition she has just because she can't deal or reason with her own dude.

PSA: This goes vice versa and if you're a dude trying to scare off any other dude checking your chick out... but your chick is the one flirting behind your back... maybe, just maybe start to consider that the dudes are not the real problem. Your chick is making it happen. Is what it is and I know it probably sucks to find out your chick isn't your "ride or die bitch," but facts she'd probably suck my dick if you pass out at the party.

Dazed0N0Confused · Accepted Answer

Some people are just insecure & will project that onto others.

Have you been conversing with men without a "chaperone"?
Are we even allowed to talk to other people without chaperones present?
Have we reverted back to a time where people of different sexes can't even speak to one another without one?

laraWM · Accepted Answer

Do you know the guy? Maybe she is mistaken because she knows her man is cheating and thinks he was with you

Shehnaz · Answer

Since you've already mentioned you don't know that woman, it could be that without you being aware, her man would have noticed you and mentioned you in some positive way, (eg: your good manners, your professionalism, or your good looks etc to that woman, which in turn made her think you are making some extra efforts to woo her man.

Nawlins34 · Answer

1.) She's insecure
2.) You know the guy is in a relationship and you like him, HE knows that you like him, but he's enjoying the flirting and doesn't go out of his way to dismiss you.

There could be plenty more but these are the most likely. In either case, she's upset that you haven't excused yourself.

It's not your problem, if she isn't insecure, her issue should be with him.
Kindly remind her and beyond that, stay out of it.

Be safe and good luck.

Dargil · Answer

You look East Asian or mixed.
My random observation is that Western White women FEAR exactly that. Go to the Chinese buffet and watch the sight lines. There's the husband or boyfriend taking an extra long gaze at the slender, young, ponytailed Chinese attendant. Then look at the daggers the wife or girlfriend is looking at her and maybe at her guy. These Chinese girls are friendly and easy to look at, compared to Karen.

jshm2 · Answer

She's just being insecure, or maybe someone has pointed you out to her as "the office whore" perhaps?

Either way, last thing you want is bitch coming at you with a knife. So speak to her or people who know her to find out what's going on.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Maybe because she saw your name and number on her man’s constant calls/dms… She just won’t accuse you out of the blue if she doesn’t see any signs leading to you.

cth96190 · Answer

Because a quarter of the adult female population are on prescription psychiatric drugs and at least another quarter should be, but are not. Consequently, bitches be crazy. 🤣

MC1100 · Answer

I would stay away from her, its a bad sign. They don't have a healthy relationship. Just ask on anther post how to respond to this unhealthy girl..

Anonymous · Answer

She’s likely nutty and psycho. I wonder if this other guy is really even her boyfriend. That might be imagined too. Just stay clear of her.

Just curious do you even know what the other guy looks like?

Anonymous · Answer

Because either you ARE trying to steal him by being flirtatious and texting him and doing all kinds of different acts on him. OR you’re just being nice and trying to get him out of your way. Gotta be careful.

NZGirl07 · Answer

He may have cheated in the past and she is suspicious of him being around women. Or, she may be jealous or untrusting generally.

Katybell · Answer

Insecure, immature, maybe her man has cheated before and somehow thinks he is interested in you.

KelleyNice · Answer

Probably because you are pretty; she noticed her man looking at you, and she views you as a threat.

IJhonnyI · Answer

Because you that cute, making other females think you can steal there man😐👍🏼😂

1GoldTwins · Answer

She's insecure and doesn't like you being around him. Poor guy.

lightbulb27 · Answer

She's afraid and the easy answer is to blame someone else.  stay away...

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I would assume that she probably saw her man do something that made her believe you were trying to flirt with him.

AviatorTom · Answer

She's just very insecure and is looking to blame someone for her own insecurity. Just ignore her.

Anonymous · Answer

Were you? lol Assuming you're "friends" with her boyfriend? Many women are insecure and don't like their boyfriend to have female friends.

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

Because the other women may or may not have a reason to accuse someone or it’s only a strong insecurity

altaboy · Answer

You are obviously so beautiful that just by walking into a room, you are attracting too much attention from her boyfriend. It's like a super power.

Eugene_JKR · Answer

Some couples have nothing else left, but to play this game of jealousy, just to support the flame between them. Sometimes people around are just the victims of their plays.

exitseven · Answer

The guy probably got caught red handed and he blamed it on you.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Sheldon Cooper once said "Bitches be crazy" and some ladies are extremely insecure and view pretty ladies as a threat.

Adronicus · Answer

Insecurity. & that in my opinion is unattractive AF. Says a lot about the man that puts up with it.

boobliker · Answer

maybe you to opne with other people my SO thinks I always flirting with others

standardguy · Answer

Perhaps you a flirting with men who are in fact husbands 😂

maximumpower · Answer

poor self esteem and overwhelming desire for emotional drama.

Waldoe · Answer

because you were talking/flirting with their man... they don't NEED to know you...

spartan55 · Answer

So she just picked your name out of a hat?

Ironmunkee · Answer

Did this happen in real life or online?

Anonymous · Answer

Because you are dating her husband?

jahaims · Answer

Immature or mentally ill

Ryfyle · Answer

Sounds like a Type Green, Buy a Gun.

Anonymous · Answer

Because you were flirting with her man. duh!

bamesjond0069 · Answer

she's so jealous and going crazy.

Alex8736 · Answer

Insecurity issues and fear of abandonment

anylolone · Answer

I don't know, tell me the particulars.

melanieeeB · Answer

Insecurity

Jackson619 · Answer

Well if your beautiful you be a threat

Anonymous · Answer

She's jealous and insecure.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

She is a idiot

eagle1951 · Answer

don't know, were you lol

Marianna546 · Answer

Lol this is weird

glennos89 · Answer

jealousy

RuthlessAggression · Answer

How do you know him?

Browneye57 · Answer

Cuz women poach men.

WraithRogue04 · Answer

some women are crazy

EaterPeter · Answer

Jealousy

Joker_ · Answer

she's accusatory

Why would some female I don't know accuse me of trying to steal her man?

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