Why are you expected to be nice when a woman brutally rejects you?

[Anonymous]

I don't mean if she polititely declines, that's different. But if someone is rude to me I'm roasting them, why should women be any different?

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

Do not repay evil for evil but conquer the evil with the good. By doing so you heap fiery coals on their head.
Does not your wisdom and composer make their acting a fool even more foolish? You are not infected by hate but flush it from your system proving they have no control over you. And they now are not worth your concern.
Will ranting and acting the same way you know is wrong make you feel better about your self and your ability to control who you want to be? Or will sticking to your standards regardless of how someone treats you do a much better job.
Will women who look on at you all composed and dignified, brushing off as little concern the tantrum being heaped on you, be impressed? Oh ya!
Believe in the bible or not the wisdom in there is a rich benefit to all walks of life.

[Asker]

Be quiet, some people need to be knocked down a peg. Those who aren't grow up to be brats

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

So its the proverbial crabs in a pot philosophy you aspire to. Well its pretty hot these days.
Claw and be clawed that'l teach them. After all the only example they are following is you who is following who? Thats right them.
A fool looks at people. A wise man looks at actions. Is the the person or the action that needs to be changed? Then how is it changed when everyone imitates what the first person who does something wrong? Who is left to think of the right way out?

[Asker]

You don't even follow your own advice, that's the thing. You insinuate I'm a fool, as if not being direct about it makes you admirable. But you're still doing the same thing you scold me for, I'm just upfront about it

[Paul_in_Indy]

@Wsx2wsx2ws Amen.

[Paul_in_Indy]

@asker If you feel convicted of foolishness when listening to someone else’s wisdom, perhaps you should listen and learn. Blaming others will not improve yourself.

[Asker]

Are you on fucking crack?

[Paul_in_Indy]

Pearls before swine…

[Asker]

Right, so I'm bad for insulting someone that insults me first, but then you turn around and call me swine. Congrats, you just sold out on your beliefs and have zero self-awareness

[Paul_in_Indy]

L. O. L. That is a very sophisticated reading. :)
Whether you really do not recognize the reference (?) or not, I sense that you truly don’t like even the implication that someone is saying something negative about you. Therefore, if you search your heart, you will realize that you are the last person who should be treating people rudely. If you can’t handle the implications here without being offended, then you really should be very careful about what you say to others. The overly sensitive should be the most empathetic.

[Asker]

Like you're doing right now? My point was if someone insults you you should do it back. Looks like you took my advice, you should! It's good advice

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

"Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools." Ecc 7:9
"A fool" is taken as offensive by the one thinking of himself as wise. A wise man never takes offense for 2 reasons.
He knows he still a fool. Romans 12:16 Never be wise in your own sight.

And he does not believe every word. -Proverbs 14:15 The naive believes everything, But the sensible man considers his steps.
If you want to take "a fool" (a global expression) personally, I commend you for your humble evaluation of your self.
If you are then angry who is responsible?
Considering your responses I ask you to consider why you feel the "rejection" was so brutal. And ask yourself why you might get more rejections in the future.
There is always room for improvement and these things help us see where that might best be started.

[Asker]

This reeks of gaslighting and not taking personal responsibility for anything on your part. "I didn't drive that child to suicide by bullying him, no, he is responsible for his own emotions."

[Paul_in_Indy]

It’s so true. The only fool is the man who does not realize he is foolish.
Likewise, there is no shame in being wrong; only in refusing to learn your lesson.

[Asker]

The irony...

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

Reminds me I have some wrinkly shirts to tend to.

[Slartybartfast]

Always a good policy to take the high ground.

As this point , it's Obviously not accepted behavior to approach women you don't know.

If she wants a man she can go online and pick from millions just begging for any scrap of female attention.. any unwanted approach is harrasiing her. Since you can't know if it's acceptable to her, don't!!

Better to stay single then risk what a women can do to a man with a word..

[Asker]

And be a 51 year old virgin like you? Lol

[Slartybartfast]

I wasn't even a virgin when I met my wife.

[Slartybartfast]

Mr "anonymous"

[Asker]

Doubt you bitch

[Paul_in_Indy]

It really is hard to imagine someone rejecting this kind of suavity, isn’t it? :)

[Asker]

Still you lack the intelligence to grasp nuance, you failure

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I mean, if it's some of the rejections I've seen happen on Tinder, yeah, go for it.

Personally I love seeing when women who bash on a guy's height have their weight called into question.

It's not gonna do you any favours, but I understand it.

[Paul_in_Indy]

You should be respectful and courteous to people. The fact that someone offended you does not give you some kind of special license to abuse or berate them.

In the case of someone you care about, we doubly expect you to treat them with respect. If you respond badly when rejected, that will confirm, to everyone, that the girl was right to avoid you.

[Asker]

Read description you stupid fuck

[Paul_in_Indy]

Ah, so you are rude and unkind to everyone; not only the girls that you like.
I’m shocked (shocked!) that a lady would reject you.

[Asker]

No you moron, rejection is one thing. Being a jerk and about it is another, you get what you give

[Paul_in_Indy]

Apparently, when I’m talking to you, I get rude abuse regardless of what I give. This will never be attractive to women.

[Asker]

Cause you're an idiot

[Paul_in_Indy]

Actually, when you put it that way, I am kinda attracted to you. I’m sure you’l treat me right. We should get married.

[Asker]

That how you cope, by deflecting? What happened, wisdom man? :(

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

Too funny too funny.

[Asker]

Is it as funny as not taking personal responsibility for how you make others feel, like a sociopath does?

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

What is perhaps sad, but makes others laugh anyway, is one who cannot take responsibility for his own emotions. Then blames his lose of self control on everyone but himself.
A wise advice I read and do my best to apply Romans 12:18 "As far as it depends upon you, be peaceable with all men"
That whole chapter would really help anyone who struggles working on everyone else and not themselves.
The last bit if advice I will put effort into on your behalf. I wish you well.

[Asker]

You mean like you're doing right now with your passive aggressive tirade? Normal people get mad when you insult them. Anger is a natural emotion, not something to be demonized, get over yourself

[Paul_in_Indy]

Normal people control themselves. I encourage you to try to get a handle on your spiteful reactions. They will cause you grief all your life, otherwise.

[Asker]

Normal people get angry from time to time, especially when provoked. Stop demonizing anger, it doesn't make you look virtous or wise at all. It makes you look like a condescending, passive aggressive doormat

[Paul_in_Indy]

You never get tired of new ways to insult people on the internet? What’s the point? You can continue to scramble for bad things to say about me—but it doesn’t harm me. It just reflects poorly on you. You should learn that lesson and move on.

No one is demonizing anything. You know that you should have empathy and be kind to people -even when you are angry. We all know that’s hard and requires work. …but you prefer to scramble for the next insult that you think mike stick and hurl it back reflexively.

Stop and think about it: Doesn’t that seem like a waste of time? And it’s not good for your blood pressure, either.

[Asker]

Bud, the fact that you even reply and keep on with these passive aggressive remarks is proof that you don't practice wht you preach. Your ego prevents you from dropping it, you need to get the last word. You aren't nearly as humble or open-minded as you think you are. I'm supposed to consider your perspective but have you considered mine? Nope, not whatsoever.

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

@paul_in_indy You have to get that he wants to prove his point about people insulting back by being just like the girl he introduced in the opening question. Then he is trying desperately to get some one to insult him back. Even digging for ways to turn anything some one says into an insult so he can feel good about himself. Its all a ploy.
Careful where you toss your pearls and where there is no wood the fire goes out. Just let him smolder alone. He doesn't want help he only wants to tear down.

[Asker]

No, you're both just hypocrites and I have self respect

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel. Some do this because they hope you will say or do something nasty in response. They will then almost always gaslight you and play victim. They have themselves convinced that they are beyond reproach.

For most of my life I have taken the higher road when it comes to shitty female behavior. That’s supposed to be the mature and “grounded man” way of dealing with it.

But lately I’ve become so jaded I am starting to think these women really do need to be (verbally) bitch slapped. They are getting more common thanks to modern feminism. They literally asking for a (verbal) ass kicking. They need it.

[JakeS00]

I wouldn't even give her the satisfaction of "roasting" her. You can definitely show defense at that because it's uncalled for.

[jasco]

Oh no if she's a bitch than yea you get to be bitch back but if she nicely says no than you don't have the right to do so

[KrakenAttackin]

So you don't end up in jail.

[In_Trance]

you're not