What exactly makes a woman lack feminine qualities?

[Anonymous]

What exactly is it what more men have been complaining about?

Would practicing martial arts (Judo), being an atheist and not a fan of dresses nor make-up (except lip gloss and mascara sometimes) make her unfeminine?

Even though I've chosen education over raising kids during my younger years, I didn't sleep around. It's actually a super low count of 1, my goals are different now, I'm in a current relationship and yes I'm looking forward toward forming a family. So what exactly makes her lack feminine qualities?

[Guy13]

Judo NO... I dated a Judo scholarship girl who was/is exceedingly hot in Person. She is, however, a Christian with a warm heart. She has no imaginary enemies such as boys... or anyone else that she can not navigate into a VP Corporate position. She is gracious.

She recognizes and embraces her Feminine qualities, their differences, and insinuates them. She is NOT Corporate and frightening.. there's no defense to it. She also wears make-up. Below the knee or to floor pleated skirt or pants and collared boy-Pink polo, she is "loved"... respected. Team builder, easy to follow, and better person maker.

[_Aragorn]

Feminine is what a woman is doing in daily life and how she behaves.

My girlfriend can talk all day, I can listen to her. (Talkative) She's willing to listen to problems, showing tenderness. She is supportive, giving advices. She's sensitive, devoted, wants my attention. Testing me whether I love her or stick to my principles. Non-aggressive. Home-oriented. Jealous. Desirous/looking for security. Wants me to protect her. Wants to feel a lady next to me. She's competitive but also well mannered.

[Asker]

Interesting. You nearly described me except the jealousy part and talkative. I used to be kind of shy years ago and it has gotten better. I tend to talk more with my boyfriend, in the family or people I'm familiarized with.
Even though I'm tough in Judo and persistent, at the end of the day I found it sweet being protected and feeling small (even though I'm 5'7 and not that skinny either) under my boyfriend's big, strong hands.

[_Aragorn]

haha my girlfriend wants to feel small too. :) so cute!
So you shouldn't think that any kind of (martial arts) sport will make you become more masculine than feminine. From ancient times, if man falls out, the woman tend to replace him. But the opposite is not possible. Again a woman doesn't need to become a man at the end. On the other hand, a feminine girl wants to be valued, wants to be heard. A man wants to feel like a man. And only two opposites can make eachother complete; masculine and feminine man and woman can support eachother to develop a sexual intellectual way. What would be a man without a real woman. And what would a woman be without a man.

[Asker]

Actually my boyfriend is already an experienced martial artist and my sparring partner in class too.

[_Aragorn]

Really cool. In my view, it is the best way to get to know someone and start a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Femininity manifests in a lot of ways, but it is first and foremost about mindset, behavior and character, especially in your interactions with men. But it can also be about how you look and dress. Women obviously like gentlemen, and men like ladies. There are a lot fewer ladies around today.

Prioritizing your career above family until your 30s doesn't necessarily make you unfeminine, but it does paint a picture of you to men that may be less desirable, and perhaps perceived as less feminine in a sense.

[Asker]

The issue with me is that I also had 0% desires/urges for babies in my early 20's. At the time if I would've been invited to a baby shower, I would've been totally indifferent towards the baby and have no interest in the reunion. The sudden urge and maternal instinct kicked in shortly after my 28th b-day and from then on, I've been wanting them.

[Opinion Owner]

But you knew that would happen, right?

[Asker]

Nope, I didn't. That sudden change caught me by surprise.

[chicosuave]

She needs to act like a women not like a man. She needs to be super feminine. Not always on guard. She needs to dress like a women not like a man.

[Asker]

Interesting. So would my description on my question and replies still be a feminine woman?
I do practice martial arts and appeared strong/tough during classes but outside classes, I like feeling small under my boyfriend's grip, love cats and other animals, can be affectionate and open up more with people I know (I'm kind of introvert or quiet with those I don't know at all), family oriented, atheist but believe in commitment and overall still fix myself (I might not wear fancy dresses nor make-up but like having my long hair, mascara and suitable clothes).