Why would a girl I used to text send my a random message at 4 am saying, "You probably aren't still awake are you"? And the next day me she was drunk?

[Anonymous]

She said she was just looking for someone to convince her not to tell her ex happy bday, but I don't know. There is a much longer history with this girl that is too long to type here. I can elaborate if you want elsewhere.

[WhitneySnow]

I believe her. She just wanted to talk.

[Asker]

But why me? That's my question now.

[WhitneySnow]

I would need to know your history to know that. Even if it’s just a booty call she has to like you a little to do that.

[Asker]

I'll try to make it short. We used to go to school together 7 years ago, but I never interacted with her. Our families know each other, and she used to have a crush on my younger brother. I'm a psychologist, so I responded to one of her posts randomly a few months ago. Convo went well, and I thought nothing of it. Later we match on Tinder and she doesn't respond much, so I assume not too interested. We talk more later and start Snapchatting a lot for a couple months. Some flirting happens, some weird stuff happens. I ask her out, she says no. She tells me she doesn't want to date anyone right now but dates someone a month later (only lasted a week 😆). Said he caused her panic attacks. She had an abusive ex before that. Anyway, I don't trust her, so I only text her occasionally to invite her to to something BESIDES drinking. She just confuses me.

[WhitneySnow]

What was the weird stuff? Why don’t you trust her?

[Asker]

The weird stuff is that she would decline my offers to hangout, but would apologize and say she had something else to do like visit a friend. She'd also send me videos of her talking to me a lot (especially about her abusive ex) She even sent pics of the bruises. And some videos of her trying on outfits (like I could see her entire back or leg sometimes, sometimes some significant cleavage). Talked to her late one night when she was sick. She sent a happy St. Patrick's day pic... That kind of weird stuff. Mixed signals.

[Asker]

I don't trust her because she lied about not wanting to date anyone, we agreed to revisit the possibility of going on a date in a month, when the month was up, she dated another dude, then when I confronted her, she said she only dated the guy because his friend threatened her. Sounds insane

[WhitneySnow]

Ok that does sound weird

[Asker]

Exactly, so I have no idea if this girl just wants sex, just wants attention, just wants to be friends, wants something but has reasons for not asking, doesn't even know what she wants, or is just crazy.