Girls, are you always concerned about your physical safety anytime u go on a date with a new guy?

[Intothevoid666]

Is a major reason a lot of women act so flakey because of fear for their physical safety?

[Anonymous]

Yes always, it’s a prerequisite, if the vibe is off or if I don’t feel safe with the guy I go (or will politely wait an appropriate moment to leave safely). it doesn’t matter what the guy looks like or say. However, if I feel safe then it’s no longer a concern and the fun can begin. Usually we know very quickly, it’s something women are v good at sensing/feeling. It’s like an extrasensorial thing women have I think. Some men are completely unaware of the vibe they’re sending.

If you’re a cool guy with no intention of raping her or take sex for granted then you’re gonna be fine, unless she’s particularly worrying in which case you can reassure her.

[Intothevoid666]

Well I’m a cool guy who is not gonna rape her and does not take sex for granted but I still have this endless problem of women being avoidant. I do look scary just cuz I wear lots of black and stuff tho

[Opinion Owner]

Mmh maybe that’s why, actually I know quite a lot of women who I find stupid and would be avoidant for this kind of stuff like tattoos black stuff etc

[Intothevoid666]

This has been my thought so I figured I would ask these girls if they wanted to do like a video call and they never seem to want to. Why is that? Does it just seem pushy? What should I do if it seems like they are interested in me but don’t seem to want to meet up?

[Opinion Owner]

I would be more than happy with a video call it’s a nice gesture and why not. So I don’t know, maybe they are not interested in actually meeting anyone, if they are like that with you they are probably like that with other men

[Intothevoid666]

Most women who I’ve texted with do this in my experience. There was this one girl who would send me massive texts and text back like right after I texted her every time and seemed super into me but refused to meet up and refused to do phone calls so I gave up. What’s that about idgi? I’ve had numerous women who will act very interested in me and then do this sort of thing in fact the majority of them do this in my experience. Like is there something wrong with me? I don’t really understand.

[Opinion Owner]

They probably just don’t want casual sex? That’s my best guess…

[Intothevoid666]

But why do they assume all I want is casual sex?

[Opinion Owner]

Well they will assume that you’ll want sex at some point for sure, more or less quickly, unless you state clearly that you don’t want sex early/outside of a relationship

[Intothevoid666]

I mean yeah that’s a part of a relationship. I don’t see how that makes me different than any other guy?

[Opinion Owner]

I think it’s hard for men in general to match and find dates on dating apps, so many to give up because they don’t even meet a single women in real life, strangely enough a few men get a lot of attraction with a ‘bad boy’ attitude but that’s it really, unless you can pull that off I guess it’s the ‘normal’ type of response from women…

[Intothevoid666]

So just ignore them the second they start playing games and stop asking questions like I am now. Got it. It’s ok tho cuz I’ve decided I don’t actually want to serious lot date women. So these games they all seem to keep playing don’t really matter to me now. I’ve gotta turn up my level of not giving a fuck a little bit more and I’ll be there

[KBird]

I mean... it depends on how we met. If we met at an event and got along, or we met through friends, then I wouldn't worry as much.

But, if its on online date, for instance, then yes. I always make sure we meet for the first time in a public setting. I also make sure to have his contact info and social media. I tell friends about the date and let them know the location and my plan just in case. I usually dont act flakey as a result of feeling nervous tho.

[SunflowerT96]

It is a concern especially because bad stuff is happening to a lot of girls lately. I got sexually assaulted and I find it hard to trust men I don't know, don't take it personal if girls are avoiding hanging out maybe they've had a bad experience too and it can be hard to get passed that

[Intothevoid666]

But why do these same girls who seem interested bad text with me refuse to do a video call?

[AmandaYVR]

I never was. Never thought this once.

But I feel it on the street sometimes. Guys have gone a bit haywire out there now. There's a lot of random violent crime in my city since covid. (And I think, before.)

[mmaaaa]

yes always. it's scary, and the horrific things that could potentially happen seem to be increasing lately.

[Intothevoid666]

Why would these same girls refuse to do a video call with me tho then?

[mmaaaa]

she's probably not on a level comfortable enough to do that with you yet.

[Intothevoid666]

How does a video call require any level of comfort? What could possibly go wrong?

[mmaaaa]

ask her

[Intothevoid666]

Ask her why she doesn’t want to do a video call with me? Doesn’t that seem like a weird question to ask

[LazerBean]

I might be if I went out with a random guy, but we live in a safe community and I only ever talked to guys who were well respected and from social circles that were well respected.

[KatherineJ]

It’s definitely a concern.

[Intothevoid666]

Is that maybe why women appear flakey to men? A lot of men notice that women almost seem like uninterested in going on dates and I’m wondering if at least part of it is due to fear of their own safety?

[KatherineJ]

There’s probably more to that behavior, but if she doesn’t know you at least a little bit, then she isn’t comfortable being alone with you.

[Intothevoid666]

But what about going out to eat with me? Why are girls constantly avoiding that?

[KatherineJ]

@Intothevoid666 for an accurate answer, I would need to know more details. Like is this some random chick from the internet, such as a dating site? Or is this someone you actually know?

[Intothevoid666]

Met her at a club. No mutual friends. So pretty random. Asked her to hang out at this tea place and then go thrifting was down initially. A few days later asks if she can bring a friend with and I say sure and then the day before she cancels. She still makes and effort to talk to me when she sees me at the club. It’s weird tho cuz I swear she wanted to fuck until I showed too much interest in it. Should I just like ignore her or what do I do? Lol

[KatherineJ]

That means she definitely has concerns. Without talking to her myself, I can’t really say more.

[Intothevoid666]

Why won’t she video call with me tho?

[KatherineJ]

Sorry, I don’t have an answer 🤷🏻‍♀️