How worried are you about your safety when going on dates?

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RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

I tend to go to either places I know the staff or some place public. I am wary when it’s a random date or hookup, as guys can get beaten up and robbed in various honey trap things. It is also a real thing of making sure your date has reassurance, as she also has to think of her safety and not putting her in a place where it’s compromised. If she’s asks me to watch her drink, I watch, i don’t get distracted I make sure it’s okay, even a beer mat over it. I also make sure she gets to place and gets home okay. It’s sort of a Buddy Buddy system on a date as there is often loads of crap going on in the streets after 21:00 or on public transport ( I tend to pay for a taxi or drive her home if that’s okay). A night even with just friends is not a risk free event.

Zestyassmf1997 · Accepted Answer

I think women are more afraid of me than I am of them. Wish it wasn’t the case. I’m always the guy who girls bring their friend with them on dates. Oh well, I don’t mind. And after the first few dates they realize that I’m probably not going to kill them or something.

wiltingrosepetal · Accepted Answer

I'm a bit of a control freak so it's not like I'm jumping into a guy's car and being taken on a trip I don't know all the details about. If I'm going on a date, I know everything about the guy, where we're going, when it'll end, etc. So I'm not afraid of my safety

laly520 · Accepted Answer

I rarely worry but if its first date then I would pick a public place with more people around

MrOracle · Answer

I'm far more worried about HER safety. I take responsibility for her safety whenever she is with me, but if it's a new girl who doesn't know my routine, she can put herself in more danger at times than I like.

A couple of years ago, I took a girl on a third date, and she talked me into going to San Francisco at night. The area wasn't too bad at 7pm during the summer when there was still 2 hours of daylight, but the event ended at midnight, and the safety level of the streets had plummeted. She was still pumped up from the event, and was still having fun and wasn't focused on getting safely to the car and getting out of their, and nearly got us in a confrontation with a guy who was clearly whacked out on drugs (the whole street was like a zombie movie). Nothing happened beyond raised voices, but people get shot and stabbed all the time in situations like that in the area.

This is why I have procedures that I teach the girls I date. Once they are safely in the car or house, it's fine, but in the danger zone, you have to focus on moving quickly and deliberately and maintaining your situational awareness. Too many people are way too lax about their own safety, and sometimes the price for that is very high. I couldn't imagine something bad happening to my girl under my watch. It's my nightmare.

Anonymous · Answer

A bit, depending on where I am. If my home town, I'd feel pretty safe because of one of the lowest violent crime rates.

Where I am now, I drive everywhere and try not to leave anything looking valuable where people can see. But, I also try to be as careful as I can be just in case, so I wouldn't be the easiest "mark." I loop my backpack strap, I have multitools, I park under lighting, and try to do a space close to the store or restaurant, I'm generally not out past dark, I don't get stupid drunk. Hell, I take my drink with me unless I'm going to the can. I try to down my drink and tell the waitress not to bring a refill until I'm back, so even "friends" wouldn't be tempted to do something, even just meant "as a joke," not like GHB or anything. I have fake wallets, keep little cash on me, and am looking for a better theft proof bag. I also keep cash in several hidden pockets. I call friends just to talk when I'm in a car with someone I don't know, especially with women (first few dates, I'd rather just meet so we all feel a bit safer). I've been accused of some pretty horrendous stuff by crazy people with some influence and an ax to grind; (No one involved with me has accused me of anything horrible, just some nut (that has little to do with me)), and had a girlfriend "joke" that she was going to tell everyone I "seduced her against her will" - We broke up quick.

Even stuff like that makes me really cautious. I have to protect myself, too. I call people sometimes when I am heading to my car, with my multitool held at the ready.

I learned to tell my parents where I was going, and roughly how long I would be, giving them an address (and there was an emergency contact list for most friends that they could look up, and they knew or have met many of these people), and I was a pretty good kid, so I never really deviated that much from where I said I would be. I sometimes give that info to a roommate, just in case of emergency. Not every time, but when I am going to be out late.

I'm a small dude, so part of me want to pick up mace and eventually pick up martial arts again, but I stay as safe as I can.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

I’m not, because I’ve arranged setups that allows both parties to exit pressure free during the first few dates. This is why both parties arrange their own transportation at a public location. Also a bad idea to be under the influence. Some people just don’t care and disregard these conventions for the thrill and enjoyment. A dance club casting all this to the wayside would be one such example.

Later dates, I started picking her up and we began riding in the same vehicle together. Each little step like that is a checkpoint. I had a date who was worried around me. But every time I followed through, even with something as simple as driving her back to her car and nothing else, made her happy and established trust. I was also grateful because I didn’t find Bubba or some partner in crime waiting to knock me out and harvest my organs.

clovertheminotaur · Answer

Very. I never know what could happen! I'm generally an anxious person and even driving has me a little nervous, since anything could happen. I don't strap myself up with weapons or make myself look dangerous though. I pray for my safety and take a deep breath, taking things one step at a time. Meet my date in public and drive myself in and out. I NEVER want to drink on the first three dates when I turn 21, it sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

My parents would always have to meet the person before I go on any dates with a stranger. But I know a few things: Don't drink alcohol on the first few dates, always take your drink with you or ask for a new one (to avoid any drugged drinks), carry a rape alarm if you don't have one already.

HawkPerception · Answer

I honestly don't understand why women are scared about their safety on dates, unless the guy is picking them up. Just agree to meet in a public area. I can tell you if a man tried to assault a woman in a public area, he'd be jumped so fast he'd be knocked out before he knew what hit him.

Women saying they're scared 24/7 is progressing this shit movement in society that divided sexes and makes it hard to date or for men to approach women. Most men are not psychos.

GregorMclane · Answer

As someone who has been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. Very very worried. She's nice and caring but she isn't the most mindful and often acts impulsively in ways that end with me getting hurt. Totally worth it though. I also just find women scary.

Paris13 · Answer

Never Gave It a Thought. I Did Suddenly "Panic" a Bit when Going to Egypt Alone to Meet my Soon to Be Ex Now Fiance Hubby But Overcame It when He was There at The Cairo Airport. lolxxoo

lightbulb27 · Answer

I never was. Concerned or considerate of the woman, yes.  concerned for daughter yes. should you be. of course.  Solution: NEVER EVER TAKE DRUGS! and don't wear high heels... ya can't run in those.

Samantha36 · Answer

I should have been more careful. I used to meet guys for sex that I'd met online I'd arrange somewhere public to meet then go back to there place and have sex. The risk used to turn me on but luckily its very safe here in this part of UK

Phoenix98 · Answer

I’m not particularly worried about my own safety. If I was going to be worried about anyone it’d be the girl I’m on the date with since she’d be under my care while she was with me.

jshm2 · Answer

Never been worried, and I grew up in the murder capital of Europe!  Safety is about being proactive, not just reacting.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Not scared at all but maybe I have a slight death wish lol

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I wouldn't date someone I don't know, so it's rarely a concern. At least for me.

Monalisa77 · Answer

Probs 1 of the reasons i dont go out meeting strangers

Shark_61695 · Answer

Not at all, I don't care about myself... could be why I don't have the opportunity to actually go on dates.

genericname85 · Answer

i live in germany. nothing happens here. unless maybe you're dating an immigrant from some muslim country.

Anonymous · Answer

None, because I don't date. I'm worried, not for my safety, but because of what I'll. do, if I'm approached by fellow Americans now. I despise them. Chemicals and explosives work wonders... the U. S. is so far behind nowadays.🤫

Anonymous · Answer

That's why I only go out with people I know and why guys wonder why I don't like to be approached in public by strangers.

RingOfFire · Answer

Yes! Some of these women at my age are real predators!

CozyCoffin · Answer

I'm not worried at all about my safety in any situation. If I die, I die.

KillinItHard · Answer

I constantly think these woman are gonna beat me up. 👀

Staximus · Answer

It's going to be a while before I can go on some dates, but what do I have to worry about?

Notherndude84 · Answer

I sometimes worried when I met women for sex, especially if I met a woman when I travelled

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Affraid of what? It's just date, am i going to be raped by the girl whom i'll date 🤣🤣

Agape93 · Answer

I'm always armed for a reason

Alina_980 · Answer

If I know someone little bit I will date

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I can look after myself.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Unlike you I don't use dating apps

Slapmynuts · Answer

I often would hope that she wasn't crazy!🤪

Anonymous · Answer

Never. I always keep Mr. Richard capped.

jahaims · Answer

Not worried

_Derpy · Answer

I don't worry at all

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