Girls, I know I should not waste my time waiting for my best friend to love me but I want to stay and not get hurt? Can you help me with it?

[Anonymous]

We both aree close friends but we talk only on texts... and we hang out once in a blue moon.. she know I love her.. but we don't want to give up on each other... we once had been in no contact phase for 6 months but we reconciled after that

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Yes I wanted relationship but she said no coz of her bad experience in past. She doesn't want to date me or anyone else that's what she says. Even her ex wanted to come back but she rejected him to. she knows I have feelings for her. But she says I am the only one who understands her and she wants to stay as a friend. And we had no contact phase coz I wanted relationship and she didn't.. so things went toxic and we stopped talking after a fight.. but reconciled on my birthday

[PrettyPriya]

So, I'm not sure what you are really asking here. Sounds like to me that you love this friend of yours but she doesn't want a relationship? Does that sound right? If that is the case, then you need to leave it be. She has rejected the offer for a dating relationship and wants to be friends.

You don't want to push her or you may lose her as a friend too. Just be respectful of her feelings and the fact that she is not interested in a romantic relationship. You don't want to ruin your friendship over it.

I'm also not sure what you mean you had a 6 month no contact phase. Why? What was the point of the no contact? If you use the update box below the question to provide more info about the situation, users can better answer and give advice. If you do update, I will update my opinion accordingly.

[PrettyPriya]

Ref update: Sounds like she needs some time. She rejected her ex as well. Maybe she just isn't ready to date right now after getting out of a relationship. Because you said things went "toxic" I would wager she doesn't view you as someone to date... at least not right now.

[Asker]

She says if I have problem with being friends I can leave her and she won't ask a single question but she wants me to stay with her... even I want to stay with her coz I value our friendship too... but sometimes it hurts when I realise I want her as a partner too...( I have some information in update box to)... 🙃

[PrettyPriya]

Yep, I saw the update. Thanks! Again, sounds like she just doesn't want a relationship. I know it is tough because you really care for her but all signs point to her not wanting more. I would remain friends and see how that goes. You never know what could change in the future.

[Asker]

Can you suggest me what I should do... I mean i don't want to make things toxic between us... and also not get hurt?

[Asker]

Yeah thanks to you too🤝

[PrettyPriya]

I would say just remain friends with her. She may change her mind in time. There is no guarantee but wouldn't you want to be friends if she does? At least you have contact now.

[Changiis07]

Well just keep contact. Try to set up more friend dates

[Anonymous]

The no contact phase concerns me.

[Asker]

Yes , things went toxic because her ex was approaching her and I to got many signs that i didn't expected from her. But i was just overthinking. I was over possessive for her. She said you are overthinking and hurting yourself. I was angry about the fact that she responded to her ex when he approached her. But she only told me about her ex approaching her. she rejected her ex too. We had fight after that and it seemed like she doesn't care about me. But we reconciled after 6 months on my birthday. She said she didn't try to contact me after fight coz by staying friends she was hurting me as I wanted relationship and my expectations were not fulfilled. She said she missed me a lot but chose to let things be as it is for my betterment. Currently we talk over text a lot. Everything is back to normal. We hang out once in a blue moon. Share details about how life is going and share memes. She wants me to be with her forever. She says I was with her in her worst as well as best time so she wants to be with me forever and asks me not to leave her.