Girls, #1 in a series: What makes women find certain men "creepy"? What is "creepy", Why is "creepy" bad? ?

[HighlyQuestionable]

[Emmss]

He is creepy if acts creepy. Like creepy smile or gestures.. Not saying anything. Acting fishy around you. I'd also find someone creepy if they follow me, copy me, pass comments or do something they won't normally do but do it when they are alone.

[HighlyQuestionable]

"acts creepy" is at best an opinion.

"Creepy" is an excuse to label someone "Other"

Do you ever consider: "He" is acting this way because he is nervous around you?

Have you ever imagined someone might be following you trying to work up the nerve to talk to you or ask you out?

Do you have an "Empathy Deficit"?

What is "pass comments"? and what does the last few words mean?

[Emmss]

A- You can say that, it is my opinion. Agreed.
B- Yes, they are other because if I don't know them I would want them to follow certain social rules and not make me uncomfortable around them.
C- Yes, he might be nervous. But people learn to handle it. Besides, how long can you stay nervous? Really?
D- If he likes me and is planning to keep following me till the end of time, he is creepy. Period.
E- I am an empath. INFJ here.
F- Some people pass weird meaningless comments (indirectly). Some people act differently when they are with a friend or coworker and they become uncomfortable to be with when they are not surrounded with people. That's creepy.

[HighlyQuestionable]

Yay!

Finally someone with something to say.

Error# 1(B and E (references galore, sorry that's just how my mind works)) If you are truly an Empath (which almost no-one actually is, myself included.) No one would be an "other" to you, you would be able to read their ACTUAL emotions, not what you THINK they are feeling. As a result you would never be uncomfortable (unless you were dealing with an actual sociopath).

C'mon, Social rules are for prisses, JK.

C & D: Some people are nervous by nature, even entire cultures.
If, for example you are, like , AMAZING: intelligent, beautiful, open minded , caring , strong, an extreme indiv... OK.. nevermind.

But if you were, he might be so impressed that he literally could not catch his breath, could not form a sentence coherently... couldn't stop thinking about you.

That's REAL love, not hormonal crap, or desire to have kids and a family or even "sexual" attraction. A feeling that transcends EVERYTHING. Few ever understood this, even fewer now.

Romantic love without obsession is like veins without blood... a sad, limp, domestic, bourgeois thing without soul or form.

The True Love gives it's percipients limitless motivation, inspires the unimaginable, liberates the soul, drives us to madness and beyond.

What passes as romantic love nowadays gives squaling children and a mortgage (emphasis on the "Mort") .

Con'd...

[HighlyQuestionable]

Weird typo: the letter "D" converted to a smiley-face or something.

You never answered my question: How does one "pass" comments, as opposed to "making" them... or is it only semantics?

But to continue,

You are so unromantic, don't you think there is something poetic about a man following you, not quite able to push off the "glamour" long enough to ask you out?

Of course a man who is "into" you will act a bit different if there is no-one around, that's the only time two people can start to learn about each other, to really "get into" one another.

There is something here, either so many of you women don't understand men, or I don't understand (other) men.

I am beginning to think it might be the latter, because I have never understood other men, and women constantly misunderstand me.

[Emmss]

Okay, yes no one is completely an empath. I agree. Because we can't be 100% sure about how other person is feeling and our perception can be biased (as it is shaped by our experiences).

But... A person can be labeled as an other even if you are an empath, you are not everyone's friend. If you don't know someone, if the 'other' person is a complete stranger, you can't form any judgement. Yes, you might be able to understand through their facial expressions or body language, but you can't get inside their head.

And my point was, if a complete stranger acts in a way that's socially inappropriate then I'd find it creepy.

[Emmss]

About C and D: I have been there and I actually felt that he perhaps has a crush on me. But he never said anything, never made any move. After few months it became creepy. Because that's not how things work. If he was into me, he could've said something. If he wasn't, why would he follow me every other day without any motive?

I might be unromantic, though I always thought I am hopeless romantic. But the definition of love and the very feeling of love is different for every single person. For me, communication is important. You can't think the other person would magically understand. Nope. For me, if you really like/love someone you won't want to lose them. Not by being a coward and not approaching them anyway.

And yes, real love is like an obsession. I can't say because I've never been there. But again, it's different for every single person.

[Emmss]

And about a man acting differently, nope. I am not talking about someone who is in love with you. I am talking about a stranger who acts differently (like some men start touching themselves inappropriately) and that's creepy.

[Emmss]

And about women not getting men, I felt that too. I feel I should really dig deeper into male psychology... understand how they are different. Because I have soooo many questions and I need answers. I need to know why they act soooo into someone and then they move away like you don't even matter. 😂 I need to understand a lot. Thought about reading this book "Man are from Mars, Women are from Venus", might give me some perspective.

[HighlyQuestionable]

Yeah, that would be disgusting. Didn't know people ("men") actually did things like that! That's beyond just "creepy" and is just disgusting.

Definitely with you 100% on that.