Girls what makes a guy creepy and guys what makes a girl creepy?

[Anonymous]

[ObscuredBeyond]

I guess it varies. Some gals in my past got all freaked out when I - by accident - met their bosses, and tried to get freelance photography work without realizing the gal was also at that place.

To the point of going to aggressive lengths to foil my bid, as if it were all about her, when I didn't even know she was there!

Or, I say I'm gonna do something, and do it, and the gal is freaked out because I kept my word. She didn't think I'd actually do it.

Some turn into total bitches the second you ask for the time remaining on the oven at the meeting place you're at. "I just wanted to know how soon to remove the rolls, for cad's sakes!!!"

Flakes like that think that while they have everyone else in the area suckered into having their sympathy, that they wield all the power. But what they don't realize: hurt me enough times, and the wounds will take decades to heal! Forgiveness in theory may be possible; but trust will be a LOT harder to earn!

Especially annoying are the gals who decide to pass judgment on me when I and some other gal were sitting somewhere else, minding our own business! It takes some nerve to disrupt that, and then label me the "problem" in the situation!

Anyway, that was college.

As for women that creep me out? Anyone on Instagram who calls me "hun," or anyone on WhattsApp that, after only one conversation, starts acting madly in love with me.

It can take me MONTHS to fall for a gal! A gal who falls for me in only two days? UNSTABLE!

Also, any habitual liar who turns me off through cheating and lying, then asks me months later out of the blue to come back to her - especially if she never even bothers to apologize; and thinks I'm enough of a simp to just crawl back on demand! The nerve!

Also don't take kindly to gals who try to sabotage my family behind my back, while maintaining some illusion of friendship with me in the foreground. They're proverbial foxes in the henhouse.

Long story short, I get called one for existing. A girl earns the label from me, by inflicting harm on me or those I care about, or else otherwise acting completely insane.

[Giselleselfish]

YOU are the creep here.

[Giselleselfish]

Textbook creep

[ObscuredBeyond]

@Giselleselfish : Refusal to tolerate loony tunes who threaten me or try to f* with me is "textbook creep"? I guess you hate all men who have standards. For the record, the gal that destroyed my freelance gig was way out of line. I even told her outright that I knew nothing about her working there. I just wanted to see them not embarrass themselves with lazy photography and Facebook ads that made their products unappealing.

I was trying to save the business. I thought nothing of her. SHE chose to make it about her. So she was the one tracking my activities, intent on sabotage. How does that make me the "creep"?

[Giselleselfish]

Sounds like you had a lack of awareness about the situation

[yofuknutz]

Not a lack of anything except a good focking beating some of these SJW need across da mouth. Its time to bring back the pimp hand.

[ObscuredBeyond]

@yofuknutz: So here's a scenario. I'll call the gal Kon-sun. Not her real name, but let's use that.

It's the summer of 2006. 4th of July is approaching. I ask her in advance if her and her group of internationals would like to go to the upcoming 4th of July parade, for an outing. She seems interested, but says she'll need to verify if they can make it. I agree to call her week before the event, to verify if everyone can make it.

But when I call... the campus ministry center pastor answers instead, and accuses me of trying to prey on her. What part of "family outing" is so hard for him to understand?

Months later, she apologizes to me for HIM being out-of-line! But I still get labeled "predatory" by others, because the campus ministry guy can do no wrong, apparently!

Another situation: this gal, we'll call her Tammy. Also, not her real name. Tammy starts out a little weird, but a "friend" (or so I thought) from church. Then, she starts getting led astray with some of this 1619 BS, and with since-disproven ABC narratives about police encounter stories that even ABC themselves had to print retractions on. She gets pissed that I won't stick to the original narrative, and that I bring corrections to her attention.

[ObscuredBeyond]

A few years later, she posts an ad for a Mexican restaurant's Facebook page on her profile. I was strapped for cash then, due to my hours at work getting cut back. After a few experiments in Photoshop, I was able to make the restaurant's photos of its food look 50x better, with just a few lighting tweaks.

They published ads with photos they didn't bother to take under proper lighting with a decent camera. Images they never bothered to adorn with info, images they never bothered color correct, adjust exposure, account for lighting, remove haze... nothing. No HDR filtration... it make them look like a bunch of yahoos running a 2-bit joint.

So I inquired about doing some freelance photography, so they could redesign the menu and not embarrass themselves on Facebook. That is, until Tammy, who just-so-happened to work there after Younkers went out of business, decided to make it all about her. And chased me off because she thought I was only talking to her boss so I could be near her and date her.

Except, I wouldn't have even known she worked there, if she hadn't come right out and told me so! After destroying my bid with the "wounded" gazelle ploy, she then unfriended me, then lied to my own mother and said I was "hitting on" her!

[ObscuredBeyond]

In truth, my last words to her were defending my right to make side money, and that she needed to stop making everything all about her. Apparently, asking too much. I then blocked her online, and gave her the silent treatment in real life. Never spoke a word to her since then. Couldn't even look at her.

I think she could sense something was wrong, when I went to pains to NOT pay attention to her - even at church. Later, I discussed doing a photography bid with her boyfriend, to his face, as he was also into it. And the whole time, didn't mention her at all. I think she could tell I was going to some lengths to eliminate her from being considered as part of the equation. To avoid the topic of her entirely.

So at that point, if she said anything, she'd look like the lunatic. She knew she had nothing. Gave me the stink-eye, but couldn't say anything. Then, China and the various US airlines worked in tandem to drop toxic mold spores on various American locales, to spread infection in areas. Government went apeshit to abuse this as a pretext for Nazi-style lockdowns, which MIT studies proved ineffective at preventing the spread of any disease.

But long story short, my work schedule and the closing of churches led to me not seeing her ever again. I then moved to another state, relieved to know she'll never cause me trouble again.

And then, there are morons like Giselleselfish, who think this makes *me* the monster!

[yofuknutz]

Um waiter, check please!

[Giselleselfish]

@yofuknutz Cannot read so much!!

[yofuknutz]

a very personal problem

[Giselleselfish]

@yofuknutz It’s not a problem, more so a lack of care to do that

[Knighted2170]

Too needy or becomes too emotionally invested before we even really know each other.

This is just creepy AF when:
- She clings onto you, calls, or texts every waking moment.
- Drops the "L" word on the third date.
- Talks about how good-looking you are before you know their first name.
- Mentions some serious crime they did as if it's supposed to be impressive.
- An hour into the conversation talks about some heavy-duty BDSM they want to do.
- You find her and her boyfriend at your place leaving love notes to you. (they had an open relationship)
- You find a note on your car that says "We need to be together always and have children." But, the only thing you ever said to her was "hey, how's your day going?"
- She sits at the table next to you on lunch break and takes a banana out of her bag. Then leans over and says "Is this for lunch, or personal pleasure?"
- Your working and she stops behind you and talks loudly enough for you to hear her talking to a friend. The conversation is weird and sounds contrived. Then the description of the guy sounds oddly like you. You turn around and she says "Oh, that's him looking at me right now. Do you think he likes me?"
- She asks to hang out and you say you are too busy that day. Then somehow they find out where you live and show up at your front door. "Too busy huh. Doesn't look like your busy to me."
- You're in a big city for a conference as a guest speaker. You're in a packed subway car with no room to move around. Nicely dressed in a suit with some quality cologne on. While holding the handrail the girl in front of you starts sniffing your arm. Then she starts really sniffing. The final straw is when she licks and bites your forearm.
- After talking to a girl at the club and doing some light "make out" sessions she pulls a knife and cuts herself and asks if you want to drink her blood.

Just a few creepy things to remember not to do.

[123lucy]

Um, yeah I don't think I'd have to remember not to do a lot of those things. Like "pulls a knife and cuts herself and asks if you want to drink her blood.".. what?

Just wondering, when do you think is appropriate to "drop the L word" lol

[Knighted2170]

Yeah, that was a weird one. I thought she was going to stab me or something. Either way, uncomfortable, weird, and creepy.

The "L" word. For me, I have stages I go through. I go from someone getting my attention, to attraction. From there I go into curiosity where I see if they have the traits I'm looking for. Then I go into infatuation which is just wanting to spend time with them and get to know them more deeply. When I am past this and all the daydreaming stuff then I take a hard look at where we are. Do I desire her? Does she desire me? Like really desire on a whole new different level. If the answer is yes, then drop the "L" word. If the answer is no, then more work needs to be done or something isn't lining up.

The trick is to not skip ahead and confuse curiosity or infatuation with love. It's an easy way to get hurt.

[Asker]

Damn that’s some creepy stuff

[Knighted2170]

Well, you asked for creepy. :)

[kingykringy]

Did all these happen to you?

[Knighted2170]

@kingykringy A lot of them did. One or two happened to some friends of mine. The blood one happened to me about a year ago. The woman biting my arm happened three years ago.

[kingykringy]

How do you even run into such women?

[Knighted2170]

@kingykringy It's part of my job. I'm a dating and relationship coach so I go out frequently and talk with a lot of women. Sometimes I have a client who is scared or fearful of approaching a woman and starting a conversation. So, I demonstrate how simple it can be and there isn't anything to be really fearful of. Sometimes I run into some really weird women and I get to demonstrate how to break away gracefully.

[yofuknutz]

Did you punch her in the mouth for biting you in the arm

[aintnocandle]

I think what most women find creepy is so ridiculous and unfair. I once worked as a barista when I was 22. I was working alone when a guy aged 45-50 came in looking kinda depressed and maybe he had a drink or two. But he was really wanting a conversation and he was really upset about something. I ended up talking with him for over 2 hours. He was having marriage issues. Sometimes people just need a stranger to talk to. Sometimes it’s just nice to feel like you matter and can talk to others. Anyways, after our conversation he gave me a card from our store thanking me. When I told my female coworkers the next day the first thing they asked me was “ooohhh was he cute/hot?” And when I said not to me, and he was 45-50 they had this horrified look on their faces and said omg gross that’s scary/creepy, etc!!! We have to check the cameras and make sure he can never come in here again!!! You need to carry a knife to your car!!!
... I mean... what is happening with this generation? Was it always like this? I’m sick of flaky people who only base someone based off their looks. The dude was totally harmless.

[aintnocandle]

But to answer the question, I rarely find any guy creepy. I guess there was one guy I do remember I found creepy because I dated him for 2 weeks in college and broke it off because I didn’t feel it, and he kept messaging me saying he’d put a barb wire around his neck and hang himself. Then he’d randomly text me late at night he “Isn’t mentally well” and then blame me. And he lived right beneath me. So yeah I tried to contact his friends to check on him and they all said he’s doing great. I don't know what was up there but I lived off campus the remaining 3 weeks of school.

[yofuknutz]

Some of these newbies need a good fawkin beating!

[Xe6uewdxx]

You sound naive

[angelcolor]

it isn't based off of looks tho. like if you look at a picture of richard ramirez, he's a good looking guy, but he just has a very creepy vibe to him that you can tell just from looking at a picture (matching the disgusting crimes he committed). the aura you feel about someone + your actual bad experience with someone makes them creepy.

[aintnocandle]

@angelcolor ok ya right. That’s such bullshit. If there is some older guy who maybe isn’t rich or maybe has some facial feature that isn’t seen as attractive or maybe he’s overweight a VAST majority of women will think the guy is a creep for even saying hello. I have witnessed this. Try talking to guys, most of them just want to be treated normally not based off a “vibe” girls “get” which is just based off of what society has equated “creepiness” too. What a bunch of bullshit

[aintnocandle]

@Xe6uewdxx no I am not. I have many guy friends and I am social, and I have never felt threatened in situations I’ve seen women freak out over. There are situations that are dangerous and guys that are but they are rare and nobody should be judged based off of a preconceived “vibe” that’s just in the girl’s head

[angelcolor]

you have one anecdote as your witness ma'am. and rip to anyone that works in a nursing home by that logic.

[Siren777]

That person you told many times that you're not interested. So you go from being polite to having to be a total bitch so they get the point and they continue irrespective of the lengths you try to avoid them.

[Asker]

I agree with this, I’ve ran into a couple people like that.

[Asker]

It’s soo annoying when they don’t understand what the word no means.

[AmandaYVR]

1. Observing from afar without ever interacting.

2. Interacting with a girl when the girl clearly does not want it.

[NatalieKeller95]

what if he's asking for help or directions to somewhere?

[yofuknutz]

I'm with you some of these sjw women are beyond help

[NatalieKeller95]

@yofuknutz sjw's should be put in concentration camps

[Still-alive]

@NatalieKeller95 whoa there. you may not like them but thats a bit too far.

[ObscuredBeyond]

@Still-alive : Have you heard the shrieking eels lately? Natalie may be out of line, but she has a good point.

[Still-alive]

@ObscuredBeyond regardless of how we feel we shouldn't wish people to go into concentration camps... because you know...

[NatalieKeller95]

@Still-alive ok so let the rabid far left nutjobs take over everything then?

[Still-alive]

@NatalieKeller95 take over? What di you mean?

[yofuknutz]

Look around

[Still-alive]

@yofuknutz nope not good enough give examples. How qre they taling over? And why is that worthy of rounding them up and stripping them of their rights into death camps?

[yofuknutz]

One minute into a conversation with these people they explode on you that's how you know bring a Bible with you see what happens

[Still-alive]

@yofuknutz whatever you think its still not worthy of putting them into camps. Ill let this go if either of you state that you were being facetious in saying that...

[yofuknutz]

Why are U so quick to defend the narrative are U getting extra pussy points, nope.

[Still-alive]

@yofuknutz why are you so quick to strip people you dont like of their basic human rights?

[yofuknutz]

U know what fuknuts, bing bong yah outta here!

[Still-alive]

@yofuknutz im stil here though 🤔

[MCheetah]

"Creepy" is usually defined as someone who could POTENTIALLY be a threat, but it is unknown how much of a threat they could be. If they are a known threat, they get upgraded from "creepy" to "scary/dangerous."

For me, very few women could be creepy. Almost nothing creeps me out. For most women, generally, any unattractive guy who gives them positive attention is considered "creepy" (a threat to their safety). Cause only Chads are allowed to make eye contact to, and talk to, women, dontcha know?

[123lucy]

It's hard to describe in words, but something can just feel off about someone. Besides the looking through a fence bit, I don't really find that man in the picture creepy. But I can't really tell if someone is "creepy" to me from just a photo with no context.

[Asker]

Ah I get what you are saying

[Ryfyle]

@123lucy Just tells me that the dude wants to lose some eyes.

[Dragonpurple]

Wish I knew, I've been known to be going about my business and people will say I'm creepy. I'm like uh, I didn't say or do anything to you. In fact I pretty much ignore most people... but somehow I look creepy.

I often chalk it up to personal preference, someone once told me... if you look like someone's preconception on things. Say someone had a gang banger that threatened or hurt them once, or even Hollywood's perception of things like motorcycle gang members... bad truckers, etc...

Others will make opinions including creepy just based solely on how you look.

[HugoThe2nd]

A woman is creepy when she acts like I'm into her when I gave her no reasons to think that.
If they start bothering women you have been hitting on and telling them to back off and making up shit about you being "theirs", and you barely know who tf they are, we are in the "whoah, whoah" territory.

[Anonymous]

People R such pussies try working in LEO or newspaper reporter/ investigator and your mark has NOW marked U and U can't GO home for a while, dead serious, I had to hide with my friend in the PJ'S. That he got arrested and I had to find another out you know you just never know when the shit going to come to you and if it does you better have an out by being triggered yourself you might actually set off a trigger in other words, "you're calling me a creep okay now I'll give you a creep" and the drama starts.

[Sonorous]

For me, it's all about how they communicate and whether or not they come across as normal or abnormal (not to my benefit). For instance, if a girl is acting as if she may want to harm me, then I'd find it creepy. And if she's unsettling to look at or be around, then I'd REALLY find it creepy.

[Biancam13]

- won’t leave me alone if I say I’m not interested
- touchy feely when I don’t want to be touched
- way too over eager
- pretty much ties back to the first point, but can’t handle rejection and reacts in an inappropriate way like stalking you

[Mofunfour20]

A creepy guy is unattractive so his advances on women are not desired by women, thus causing them to cringe or vomit a little bit. A creepy girl is a woman that thinks she is more attractive than she really is and has to do all the approaching because she is never approached. It doesn't help that most women believe theyre a 10/10

[BUNroaster]

There is undoubtable truth here but also the desperation from men because they typically have horilrible experiences with women make them come off immature and or simpish as in desperate. Definitely nothing attractive. The standards women make have reason usually but just mean they'll be pickier and hopefully simpy men can learn from it as well instead of always taken offense

[BUNroaster]

A big part of dating culture has evolved emensely and the focus can be more well balanced but the lack of communications and true understanding cause relationships to almost inevitably fail.

[Mofunfour20]

@BUNroaster simps have to understand their value and biological duty to themselves to take the red pill

[Smashingdoozy]

When you think you're having a casual chill conversation with someone then they say "I'm gonna go jerk off then go to bed" or people who constantly message you asking if I would be ok if they jerk off to my picture. You're not only a creep you're fucking nasty.

Other things like staring, cat calling, following, persistence after you've told them no. All creeps.

[Rob17792]

hey that whole jerking off then go to bed and jerking off to the picture that's my thing i say that to somebody i know close to me.

[Smashingdoozy]

Okay has that person expressed distaste for you doing this? If the answer is yes then you're a creep.

[Rob17792]

no she hasn't

[Rob17792]

she knows i jerk off to her pictures especially sometimes before going to sleep

[Xe6uewdxx]

@Rob17792 disgusting animal. Fck off

[Rob17792]

@Xe6uewdxx why so butt hurt for?

[courtney06]

I think if my cat were human he’d be considered creepy. Sometimes stares at me for long periods and if I say something he sits down and continues to stare. Sometimes he doesn’t blink for several seconds or he blinks one eye at a time. Imagine a person doing the same thing 🤣

[RingOfFire]

I would say that women who can't take a hint that you're not interested can be creepy.

[Asker]

Agreed I’ve ran into a couple of guys like that too

[InfobotLives]

Creepy is defined by being unsettling and often incorporates invasion of privacy and of personal space. It is attention that is unwanted and not sanctioned in any way. Anyone can be creepy if they cross boundaries.

[SandandWaves]

when I feel bad vibes right away and sometimes i am not even near him.

[JamieLoves]

You’re psychopathic like me !!!🙌🏻🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[SandandWaves]

@JamieLoves yup

[JamieLoves]

😊...

[SandandWaves]

@JamieLoves smiles..

[SandandWaves]

I have no mental disorder. Everyone has vibes about things. you need to listen to it. I do.

[JamieLoves]

Yup... some people just ignore it.

[SandandWaves]

@JamieLoves i agree

[SandandWaves]

sometimes though, when super stressed, you cannot even feel the vibes

[yofuknutz]

you carry a weapon like I do you learn to read people fast how many times a motherfuker comes up to me already got my hand on my pistol ready to rock and roll I'm like you've got something you want something tough guy by then know it's too late

[SandandWaves]

@yofuknutz yeh, these feelings are always right

[yofuknutz]

You're damn right they are even animals when I go hiking sometimes they go right up to you and I pull out my piece and I'll tell fuck with this bo and usually they Scamper off into the woods if they don't well my piece is already out you better develop feelings fast when you're out on the street

[SandandWaves]

@yofuknutz ;) ;)

[yofuknutz]

^^^ you're from Brooklyn or your English either way I cannot help you

[Lisa_grl]

Guys can be creepy if the girl sends a nice but definite message that it's going to be a friends-only relationship and he still keeps hanging around and even says stuff about oral just cause u did it one time on him.

[yofuknutz]

See but you make that intimate connection with somebody it's kind of hard to shake that Loose people like to cry wolf because think it's all fun and games until you hear that growling at the door then the fun and games are over it just got real.

[JackofSpades]

I don't know why but I've always felt like the word creepy kind of implied like you feel this person is dangerous but you can't exactly explain why.

So I guess being overly possessive or stalker like behavior could considered creepy, but I just don't see women as a physical threat unless she's holding a chefs knife or something.

[kidvid80]

if the person stares blankly at you in the face/eyes but never smiles or waves or says anything this goes for both genders.

[Wild_Surpise]

Ugh, truth and I’ve caught myself doing that too. I glance at a girl and it sparks a thought. After daydream fora bit I realize I’m still awkwardly staring at her. So sorry. I’ll do better.

[kidvid80]

@Wild_Surpise im always like uh oh whatd i do? there is a guy at the store stares at my face i never know if i should just yell hi and thats what he is waiting for or he is pissed at me, we know each other in passing, so i do the samething stare back lol as you see its not working out too well

[Wild_Surpise]

If it’s a blank stare my mind is elsewhere. If I’m starting, you catch me, and I look away, it means your hot and I think you’re probably out of my league. If you catch me looking and I smile it means I really want to meet you.

[NatalieKeller95]

they could be nervous or have social anxiety, and may not know the appropriate social routines

[NorthShoreCalling]

I think either sex becomes creepy when they don’t get the message that the other person isn’t interested.

[BUNroaster]

A big part of dating culture has evolved emensely and the focus can be more well balanced but the lack of communications and true understanding cause relationships to almost inevitably fail. I don't consider anyone creepy but misunderstood. And if I can help I would.

[Anonymous]

Creepy is not really a term most guys use. But creepy is a widely overused term among girls and is typically used when a guys approaches a girl and she does not find him attractive. Another, more attractive guy who approached the same girl in the same way would be the opposite of "creepy".