Is it better to ask a woman if she has a boyfriend before getting to know her?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

Other

[bubblegunnn]

U can get to know her, see her reaction to u, if he show interest then ask her if she have boyfriend.. or dont ask that way, maybe tell him sum like 'its Saturday night, ur boyfriend dont take u out for date?' By ask such q, we will know if she's single or na by not ask it obvious lol

[Asker]

I talk to her twice a week for about 2 months now so yesterday i asked her if she has a boyfriend. Is that bad?

[bubblegunnn]

Ahh so u asked her already.. well its not bad but she prolly assumed different thing by u asked like that.. by the way does she reply u yet?

[Asker]

She usually replied once a day and sometimes doesn't reply for 3-4 days. Everytime i talked to her, she seemed to reciprocate well and asked me personal questions as well so its like sending me mixed signals. Now i realized its time to face the truth and asked her so i can move on if she actually is taken because i feel like she delaying her msgs is because she's taken but i did asked her once she doesn't seemed like a big texter and she says no. She just takes a long time to reply. I hope to hear from her soon.

[bubblegunnn]

Did u also took a day or more to reply her? Or constantly reply her back an hour or few mins after she text u

[Asker]

I usually reply within 15m. I felt like she didn't wanna let me down cuz she is so facking nice, sweet and shy. But the fact that she takes forever to reply make me feel like something isn't right. Nobody is too busy. She never hint anything sbt her boyfriend eventho i asked about her plans for the weekend. Its really confusing so i felt like its time to ask so i can stop wasting my time fighting a lost cause if she's actually really taken.

[Asker]

Is that a good idea?

[bubblegunnn]

Omg bro u only took 15mins to reply after her.. its not a long time tho fr.. and i believe its not cuz of busy and tired.. like u said, nobody is too busy. Even when im busy i still keep in touch with someone i like tho with around 10 mins gap.. unless she's not interested in u..

[Asker]

I know its not long for me to reply back but i said it tookher forever to reply back. She reply once a day or sometimes after 3 days. So yee its really weird. she's my coworker so i know her schedule 😁
I will eventually find out soon but i felt like deleting the boyfriend question i wrote to her 😂🤣
Cuz i honestly wanna maintain this relationship with her. If she told me she has a boyfriend, i can't be the same around her anymore which makes me sad 😔

[bubblegunnn]

Why sad if she already took it forever to reply u bro

[Asker]

Because i enjoyed talking to her and she's everything i ever wanted. Were both shy and quiet. But i broke the ice one day by approaching her and telling her that i find her interesting cuz were both the same. Thats when i started talking to her every single day at work eventho we only see each other twice a week. She csn never look me in the eyes when we walk by nor does she say anything to me til i say hi. Its as if she's trying to avoid me but she still reciprocate happily which makes me really confused. Right? 😂🤣

[bubblegunnn]

Yea right.. just ask her out if u really likes her tho nd asked were she busy

[Asker]

I notice that she usually only text me during the work days that we will see each other that day but just only one message. I don't know if she want this to be this work related only or something.
Its a work environment so i dont wanna put any pressure on asking her out cuz if she refused, i dont want her to feel awkward and so i asked her yesterday if she has a boyfriend and if i had crossed any boundaries yet. Now im just waiting anxiously for her replies 😔😔

[bubblegunnn]

U said she already replied u "no" tho?

[Asker]

I never said she replied yet 😂🤣😂
I think it will be 2 more days til she replied when i get to see her again at work. Then im prob gonna callout the next day and spend the whole day in tears if she said yes 😭😭🤧

[bubblegunnn]

Oh my bad..
Lol dont be dramatiiicccc.. find someone new. Simple.

[Asker]

What u saying. Im 28yo and never held a womans hand or received my very first flower. What is a shy boy like me gone do 😭😭😭

[PinkRose24]

Lol I'm 28 and never had a boyfriend. too shy to go on dates

[Asker]

@pink u... as my first flower? IMPOSSIBRUUUUU 😳😳

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Normally a woman will offer up the information AS you're getting to know her.

[Asker]

She is quiet, kind, sweet and innocent. Its been 2 months now. I dont wanna be a douche and invade her personal space cuz i felt like she's too nice to say it to my face so im brave enough to asked her yesterday. Hope it wasn't a mistake to ask her status.

[PinkRose24]

When a guy asks if I have a boyfriend, I automatically think this guy wants to be my boyfriend 🤣

[slatyb]

None of your business. Get to know her because it's nice to know people. Never ask her if she has a boyfriend. If you want a date, then ask for one. If she declines, the reason doesn't matter.

[Sandeeppingping]

Nope, do not ever mention the thought of the word boyfriend unless she does, and if she does and you still like her act like the boyfriend doesn't exist

[Asker]

Not tryna be a jerk tbh

[Sandeeppingping]

Ohhh alright bro my bad😂😂

[Asker]

I think its better to find out urself than her flatout telling it straight to ur face. That'd be much more embarrassing in my opinion 😂🤣

[Sandeeppingping]

I see what you mean, it also helps you not to get too invested in the first place, it's just that the way I see it the less I talk about her boyfriend the better it is for me, like shit switches to everyone telling me she has a boyfriend to her telling me "oh it's just a friend's birthday" when in reality it's her supposed boyfriend's bday, and that's strictly from personal experience so it might be different for you, it might be different for me with a different girl who knows, I think while talking to her she'd give out hints she has a boyfriend, maybe some certain guy on Instagram or shit, you wouldn't really have to ask her directly, as I see it it's too overt asking her that and also her responses and the way she interacts with you are far more important

[Asker]

How i see is that im prob too nice of a guy so i dont wanna intrude anyones boundaries and the coworker that im talking to right now, she is so facking nice, shy and sweet so i really respect her a lot. I felt like she is just too damn nice to say it to my face so it makes me feel bad at times like im invading her personal space. Altho the interactions we have twice a week for 20m seems to go pretty well but its just that she barely text back at all. Once a day and sometimes gone for up to 4 days. She told me she isn't a big texter and that she's slow to reply. I dont believe any of that bullship. Felt liek she's too nice to lemme down so ill find out soon. Just waiting for her reply.

[D_Bone_Steak]

What if she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to tell you about him? That's why you don't ask... she'll let you bang. But if you ask and she says yes, then you're responsible for some bad shit when you bang her.

[Midgetmcwidget]

If you want to date her yes.

[Asker]

Yeah i figured it would be rude to cross any boundaries cuz she seemed too nice to be telling me to effed off so im asking her yesterday and just waiting for her reply

[Midgetmcwidget]

That’s a positive sign. Tbh I only tell people to fo if they have been shits to me then try to be nice like nothing has happened

[Asker]

she's like the only person that im most comfortable with at work and she prob knows that. We are quiet and pretty much the same so i respected her a lot and didn't wanna cross any boundaries so im asking just to be safe even if it meant the end of our little relationship we had going for 2 months 🥺

[Asker]

Thats why i asked this question. Was i wrong for waiting this long to asked her...

[888theGreat]

You want to know before you invest anytime

[Asker]

Thats how i felt so i asked her yesterday and still awaiting her response. I figured its time to face the truth.

[Anonymous]

It is none of your business.