PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND THIS! 😭🙏🏻?

[claudia32]

Why as soon as I come in the class, there is this girl who stares at me and sometimes when I catch her she turns her head away and sometimes continues staring, if we don’t see eachother in the staircase after second period, what does this mean? Does this mean that she thinks I’m attractive or actually is gay and her friends are being weird around me?

[misfittoy]

from the sounds of it looks like she thinks you are attractive, and she has a crush and her friends might beware of her feelings

[misfittoy]

be aware **

[claudia32]

What do u mean?

[misfittoy]

auto correct made be aware, into beware i just saw it and corrected it

[claudia32]

Why should I be aware?

[misfittoy]

no it means her friends might be aware that she likes you or has a crush

[Curiosity2006]

Sounds like attraction to me!

[Sparkie460]

It's possible she might like you. If she looks at you and smiles she definitely likes you.

[claudia32]

It’s like I smiled at her and she smiled back so maybe she does

[claudia32]

But why do u think 🤔 that her friends are suddenly so friendly towards me, they see me, stare and then smile at me every time they see me?

[claudia32]

Is it because she talks about me or something else?

[Sparkie460]

She might talk to her friends about you

[Sparkie460]

Are you interested in possibly being with her

[claudia32]

Thank you for answering, it’s like I’m not gay or bi but I’m willing to try sum new dating a girl but I’m not gonna say anything unless she brings it up, I lowkey really enjoy the attention she gives me lol

[claudia32]

And I wanna be friends with her

[Sparkie460]

Would you approach her to be friends with her

[claudia32]

We talk sometimes, and it’s lowkey so fun talking to her and lowkey I’m glad we have two classes together

[claudia32]

But at one football game, I have made eye contact with her cuz I was interested who was behind me and I and her had made eye contact, and I turned back around not to seem to eager to see her and her friend said talk to her and she had refused but the following Monday we started talking

[claudia32]

But if she just wanted a friendship she would not be staring at me after we started talking, right?

[Sparkie460]

If she just wanted a friendship I don't think she would stare. Usually when you stare at someone you feel an attraction to the person

[Sparkie460]

Is she the same age as you

[claudia32]

Yeah she is but few months younger then me

[claudia32]

It’s like I wanna be friends with her and then I may ask her about why she stares at me, if that is a good idea!

[claudia32]

What if all those girls her friends have a crush on me? There is this girl who told the girl who possibly likes me, “she is so pretty” but now that girl as soon as she sees me, looks at me, makes eye contact and then smiles at me, It would be cool as hell

[Sparkie460]

Maybe the whole group likes you

[claudia32]

Or all of them agrees that I’m so pretty and dats why they stare

[claudia32]

But lowkey that would be funny

[claudia32]

Or maybe she just talks about me a lot to her friends and her friends try to be friendly towards me and I feel like they report what I do to her or if they see me and tell her

[claudia32]

And also I never talked to her friends before lol

[Sparkie460]

The only way to find out is to strike up a conversation with her.
There's nothing bad going around about you right?

[claudia32]

We talk to eachother sometimes in class but sometimes in the she stares at me

[Sparkie460]

Ask her if you look funny or something. If she asks why, say I saw you just staring at me.

[claudia32]

On Friday I noticed at the beginning of class (i usually smile at one of my friends in that class everyday), but when I looked up (our room has three steps full of desks, I’m on the second level, my friend is on the first and that girl is on the third so I can see if she stares or not), and she usually stares at me as soon as I come in class, usually happens like that, and I saw her eyes looking away as soon as I looked at her, and den I wanted to tell her something that happened in the law class, so I just stared at her to get her attention but she noticed me waved at me and then we started talking on Friday

[claudia32]

I don't know if I should ask her dat cuz I think she finds me attractive or something lol

[Sparkie460]

What would you do if she was interested in you

[claudia32]

During one football game at the beginning of the school year, I and my best friend were walking towards the football field, and I have heard a car door slam shut, I looked and I noticed her and her friend group, there I and her made quick eye contact, and she told her friend, that’s her and her friend said she is so pretty, I don’t think she finds me funny or something else

[claudia32]

I don't know most likely have a mature talk about it with her

[claudia32]

What do you think I should go about it, if she would tell me I like you?

[Sparkie460]

That's up to you. How would you feel if she thought you were attractive

[claudia32]

I don’t know what I would say tbh,

[claudia32]

It’s kinda obvious she finds me attractive by her constant staring at me

[claudia32]

I would feel happy ig lol

[claudia32]

What do u think I should say like I literally don’t know

[claudia32]

I don’t wanna be rude/mean to her cuz she don’t deserve it

[Sparkie460]

Would you feel uncomfortable or would you give it a try

[claudia32]

I don’t know one maybe not feel uncomfortable cuz for some reason I kinda find it cute how much a girl gives me attention

[Sparkie460]

Does she seem shy like she wants to tell you how she feels but she's afraid of how you'll respond

[claudia32]

I think she was shy before we started talking cuz at another football game, I have seen her and her friends on the benches one bench away, and I heard someone behind me and I saw her and her friend tell her go talk to her, and she said no

[Sparkie460]

If she is attracted to you, would you entertain the idea of being with her

[claudia32]

And then the following Monday she started talking to me

[claudia32]

I don't know cuz lowkey I’m hoping she would not tell me she likes me but I kinda love the attention she gives me

[claudia32]

Ik it’s bad if I do this

[claudia32]

And I have noticed that if I do something like I sometimes bite my straw cuz I don't know y I do that, and if someone asks me why I do that, she says how good it is to do it and how good it feels, like to me she try’s so hard to have similar things as me

[claudia32]

I don't know if that’s a sign or not

[Sparkie460]

You can tell her that you'd be willing to see where it goes if you're interested.

[claudia32]

I’m not gonna unless she tells me directly that she likes me

[claudia32]

It’s kinda fun ngl to play this with her

[Sparkie460]

I think she is attracted to you.

[claudia32]

Is it bad to play this game if u are not interested

[claudia32]

Cuz like yeah she is gorgeous but I don't know how I feel

[Sparkie460]

She's afraid to tell you how she feels about you.

[claudia32]

About her and yeah Ik my friends would be cool as hell if I would wanna if she would come out and tell me try but I don't know if I wanna or not

[claudia32]

I don't know how to start the conversation and see if she does

[claudia32]

It’s not that hard honestly

[Sparkie460]

It's bad if you're getting her hopes up just to knock her down by saying your not interested

[claudia32]

If I continue to stare at her and if she comes out and tells me that she likes me do u think she would mind if I would say let’s just stay friends

[Sparkie460]

I don't know how she would feel. I'd say probably a little hurt

[claudia32]

I most likely lead her on everyday, since if she stares at me i stare back lol

[claudia32]

Its like I dont want to but i like the attention it comes with

[Sparkie460]

Maybe if you become her friend it would lessen the blow. By friend I mean talking all the time, hang out together. See how she reacts around you

[Sparkie460]

How does having her stare at you make you feel

[claudia32]

Kinda happy I get attention

[claudia32]

For some reason I find it kinda cute how much attention she gives me

[Sparkie460]

Don't guys give you attention too

[claudia32]

Yeah but it never really works out between me n them, like it’s always a failed talking stage or if not, they cheat and I wanna date people in college rather then high school

[claudia32]

Cuz these boys are players

[Sparkie460]

You must be really beautiful and popular if everyone finds you attractive

[claudia32]

It’s like I think I’m ugly, but people especially girls stare at me in the halls, and sometimes boys too

[claudia32]

I’m like 5’4 or 5’5, blond curly hair, dark blue eyes

[claudia32]

And a little bit of freckles on my nose and no where else on my face

[claudia32]

Md every semester a different girl or a boy had a crush on me

[Sparkie460]

You sound like a beautiful girl.

[claudia32]

I may be but I get so jealous about how other girls look like and like that makes me think I’m ugly

[claudia32]

And I’m like I wanna be them lol

[Sparkie460]

You're just modest. You sound like a very pretty girl

[claudia32]

Thank you

[claudia32]

But I lowkey hope she would not tell me that she likes me

[Sparkie460]

I'll be surprised if she doesn't tell you that she likes you

[claudia32]

You think she would?

[claudia32]

It was so funny how her friends told her to talk to me lol

[claudia32]

And how she refused

[Sparkie460]

She's nervous and shy I think. It's probably difficult telling someone of the same sex that you are interested in them

[Sparkie460]

Especially since you are so cute

[claudia32]

What should I do to make it easier?

[Sparkie460]

I don't know. I've never been in that situation. Maybe just say you don't mind being friends.

[claudia32]

I don’t know if she wants that lol

[Sparkie460]

What do you know about her

[claudia32]

Only basic stuff but I wanna know more dats why I want the friendship but she keeps joking around how she says she is into old man, which is kinda fishy or just a reaction from me, I don't know

[Sparkie460]

She might be bisexual. She might like girls her age like you but she might also like older guys.

[claudia32]

It’s like she says it, and den after a few days after someone brings it up from our table she says it’s a joke

[Sparkie460]

She could be trying to hide it so she doesn't get teased about liking older guys. Or she's just trying to see your reaction

[claudia32]

If she would like older guys, she would pay attention to guys and not girls lol

[Sparkie460]

I always hate seeing girls get their hearts broken. She'll either agree to be just friends or she won't want to talk to you again

[Sparkie460]

Not if she's bisexual

[claudia32]

We can see about that I would joke if she says I like you, I would just say I thought u liked older guys

[claudia32]

Her heart won’t be broken lol

[claudia32]

Ik it’s bad but I just turned out to be a player cuz rn I’m kinda flirting or staring with two guys and one girl lol n my friends joke about it lol

[claudia32]

Cuz I’m tired of getting hurt at this point

[Sparkie460]

What if she says "no, I really like you"

[Sparkie460]

Shame on you. Lol 😆

[claudia32]

I would be damn I don't know what to say

[claudia32]

All my friends are like u can be that

[claudia32]

They lowkey encourage that lol after they seen me always get my heart broken

[Sparkie460]

Your friends think she's attracted to you too? They think you should give her a try?

[claudia32]

I haven’t talked about dating her with them, but even if I chose that they would support me, and yeah my friends think like that after I always say that she stares at me and we sometimes talk

[claudia32]

I lowkey keep telling them what’s happening between us cuz they are interested

[claudia32]

I lowkey didn’t give much thought about me and her dating

[claudia32]

What are some signs u think I should pay attention to?

[Sparkie460]

If she has trouble looking you straight in your eyes when you're talking to her. She might look away or down. She gets flustered or starts figiting

[Sparkie460]

I always say you have to try every once, twice if you like it

[claudia32]

i think i might be straight cuz like i dont really see myself having sex or anything with a girl

[claudia32]

okay ill see that next time ill talk to her

[claudia32]

oh yeah she litterally stuttered once when i was talking to her at the benning of the year

[Sparkie460]

So even the thought of kissing her turns you off?

[claudia32]

yeah ig like generally kinda

[claudia32]

so I lowkey think i might be straight but maybe im willing to give her a chance if it comes to that point

[Sparkie460]

It doesn't hurt to try. If you tried and you really don't like it you can tell her it just won't work out

[claudia32]

Yeah i may try

[claudia32]

But it is kinda cool to get attention from the same sex as yourself ngl

[Sparkie460]

Girls are more affectionate and caring than guys are

[claudia32]

thats true but ngl i love the attention and like the staring cuz it makes me more confident in myself

[Sparkie460]

I think she'd give you a lot of attention if she likes you like that

[claudia32]

It’s like at this point an everyday thing for her

[claudia32]

I always catch her staring at me and sometimes she looks at me and then when I see her looking at me, she sometimes continues staring OR she looks away quickly

[claudia32]

To me it seems like somedays she is more confident while other days she ain’t that confident

[claudia32]

Why do u think she does that?

[Sparkie460]

She is trying to send you signs that she likes you by constantly staring at you.

[claudia32]

Oh okay well that makes sense, I lowkey stare back lmao

[claudia32]

Cuz if someone gives me attention I wanna stare back to me it’s just friendly if I stare back

[claudia32]

Sometimes I feel like that’s the polite thing to do

[Sparkie460]

You like things low-key don't you. Lol

[Sparkie460]

If you stare back it kinda shows that person that you are interested

[claudia32]

Then ig I’m interested in everyone who stares at me

[claudia32]

In my English room, there are “three floors” it’s like a college room, but I’m sitting on level 2 and she on 3 in the same column and my friend sits on level 1 she usually smiles at me, she sits one column before me and like that girl who possibly like me sits one column behind me and I need to look up since there are some stairs and when I look up I notice that she stares at me a lot, but should I may just smile at her whenever I see her staring? Or just stare back

[Sparkie460]

This sounds like a big school.

[claudia32]

Lol what should I do?

[Sparkie460]

I think you should just talk to her. Find out how she feels and take it from there

[claudia32]

I’m scared I kinda like this game rather than asking

[claudia32]

Straight up

[Sparkie460]

It's not a game when someone can get hurt

[claudia32]

Unless she tells me straight up that she likes me or says she is gay I’m just gonna do this most likely

[Sparkie460]

You do what you feel comfortable doing. It looks like this has been going on for a while. She obviously isn't brave enough to actually tell you how she feels

[claudia32]

Ig it will be going on for longer lol, it started the first week of school so most likely for her it was love at first sight cuz that week she told her friends dats her and they said she is so pretty right?

[claudia32]

I feel like as soon as she saw me she liked me

[Sparkie460]

Some people just know when they are attracted to someone, they just have a hard time approaching them to tell them. She must be really shy

[claudia32]

I try to make it easier for her to talk to me

[claudia32]

By talking to her and she seems to like talking to me

[claudia32]

She is shy but not when it comes to eye contact

[claudia32]

Do u think it was love at first sight for her or not?

[Sparkie460]

She just has a hard time saying how she feels

[claudia32]

I mean yeah that’s true

[Sparkie460]

It could have been. It's hard to say since I'm an outsider. I'd have to see her reaction when she saw you. I read body language pretty well when I see it first hand

[claudia32]

On Friday I noticed her staring at me, and den few mins after I sat down in my seat and den I was just in the mood to see how long it would take for her to look at me and surprisingly it took very short and litterally she waved at me and I started talking to her lol

[claudia32]

We didn’t even talk the first week of school that much or know eachother but somehow she told her friends about me pretty quickly while I didn’t even tell mine lol so most likely