How do I become more feminine?

[Anonymous]

I am a masculine girl, I know that. My personality is masculine, I chase men away.

I don't look masculine, I look like a girl. Long hair, dresses etc.

My personality is so masculine that no man likes me. I overshare, I am independent and so on. I'm very insecure about it and I want to be feminine but I don't know how to be feminine without faking being someone else.

[Miraaaa]

The best advice i can give you from reading about what kind of girl you are, I can see that you are maybe raised very independent and you are not used to being vulnerable. I am a very girly girl because i am not scared of being in touch with my feminine side. You dont always have to do thing by yourself or always be right. Woman can vert easily scare man away if they give of the dominant feeling. Its the line between being more relaxed with letting the man take te lead en being oke with it. You wil realise that man are very easy to control when you are showing that your more fragil then when your being hard! This is verg true because i realised that myself. You dont have to be very goodlooking its about what kind of energy you give of. Be confident but also not to confident that you dont look stubborn. Make the men feel more comfortable next to you. Men are very easy whenever they get te feeling that you are having a great time next to them they wil immediatly not see you masculine anymore. Its not a bad thing to look more open and ask questions.

[Pegases]

This is actually something that most women in the states suffer from.. At your core, you're a woman. So you simply need to self reflect on why you act certain ways. Most often, women develope masculine frames as a defense mechanism. So in a nutshell, you embodied what makes you feel safe in a man, because feeling vulnerable makes you uncomfortable. The irony of being a woman in my opinion, is that you have to be quit strong in order to allow yourself to be vulnerable. So I would start with understanding what situations make you feel vulnerable in your every day life. I find that for most women with this dilemma, a childhood where you were neglected by either one or both parents, leads to a child naturally developing masculine tendencies for survival purposes. Good luck.

[Asker]

I was neglected as a child, I was always threatened if I cried. I've been hurt, gone through a lot of depressive episodes, suicidal episodes etc. It's not like that anymore though, that was back in y childhood. But what you say makes sense.

[WindAtMyBack]

I think you need to look at which parts of yourself are your core self, and look at which parts are on the surface. You can't really change the core of who you are. That is the deep inner self. That is who you are and you should accept who you are instead of trying to change it.

On the other hand, there are a lot of superficial things about people. These are the things you can change without really changing who you are.

Are you sure being masculine is driving men away? There are a lot of men with very different preferences. If you are masculine, it might not be what some men are looking for, but other men will be fine with it and maybe even like it.

[oh_k789]

Your question comes with no solution. Because you don't ask how to give others the impression of more femininity, you ask how to actually be more feminine.
When the issue regards the plan of being, you will be what you are, no matter how much you intend to alter that.

Your self-assigned task should be how to grow more and more comfortable with what you are.

[humanearth]

What's wrong with being you

Don't try to be something your not. You'll come off as being fake

Trust me, there are guys out there, that like girls like you. I should know, I married one

[FunkyMonkee]

Start hanging out with a bunch of girls and follow their lead. If you can't find other girls to hang with, spend time in public just watching how other girls do it. Or, become good friends with an M-F tranny.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You can't be masculine. It's impossible if you are born female.

You being independent doesn't make you masculine.

Having long hair as woman should, wearing woman clothing is feminine enough.

[Asker]

I act masculine in personality, my mentality is masculine, my body is masculine, my face is masculine

[misogynistic_pig]

Sit with your legs closed and wear a skirt or dress.

[Asker]

I do that, still masculine looking

[joeldalton]

you just said you have long hair and wear dresses. Those are feminine things.

[Asker]

I still look masculine, I have a strong forehead and a gap in the middle of m forehead, I have low masculine eyebrows, I always look serious, angry, mad, evil or something else. judgmental. I see pictures of myself people have taken of me and damn do I look intimidating

[joeldalton]

I gotta see this..

[Kryzo]

Some guys are into more masculine girls. Just be yourself. You'll find someone for sure.

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

Have you tried changing how you dress and your hair?

[Asker]

Yes I have, still masculine