How can I be more feminine?

[Anonymous]

I wear black and all my clothes have a skull on them. My hair is hidden in a hard hat or messy bun and I always wear boots. I don’t like the idea of fake lashes, nails, eye brows, hair dye..
I have nice blonde hair and blue eyes. I’m on the heavy side due to depression atm but otherwise how could create a fem look for myself without taking away from the gothy punk Tom boy look that I’ve always had. I want this for myself, no for attention.

[Anonymous]

Somewhat hard to say, but a suggestion would be to show a little bit more skin if you aren't already.

I don't say that in a sexual or perverted way or anything, just that stereotypical feminity often involves showing quite a bit of skin compared to stereotypical masculinity. Like women's shorts being way shorter than men's shorts for example.

With the style you already have of hair hidden in hard hat, messy bun, boots, goth, punk, and tomboy... nothing wrong with all of that, no need to change it, but showing a bit of skin might make you look more typically feminine.

So if your shorts are knee-length start wearing mid-thigh length shorts or shorter. Make sure skirts and dresses show a little bit of leg, too. Also consider sleeveless shirts, and consider showing cleavage.

Not all at once though, obviously. Only show one thing at a time. If you're already showing a lot of leg don't show cleavage, and vice versa.

So overall still keeping your current style, but showing a little more skin.

Not to say you should do all this. Just a suggestion if you're aiming for typical femininity.

[Anonymous]

Wear dainty necklace

dainty bracelet

wear soft scented lotions

soft scented perfumes (just in specific places)

wear soft smooth fabrics

Be sweet not angry or bothered all the time

Walk gracefully.

keep yourself clean.

clean teeth, clean breath, clean face, clean nails etc.

Don’t let depression and food ruin how you look. You don’t have to be perfectly fit but being completely round does make any human loose attractive features, especially around the neck and face. It’s hard especially if you are depressed but ultimately you are in control. Take the lead. Fix yourself. Women don’t need to be muscular or model like to look attractive, just don’t look like a slob. That goes for us as well.

[Tamera952]

Sounds like you answered your own question. You know what you like, and you’re capable of crafting your aesthetic into a more feminine look that suites you. Your “look” sounds very similar to my “look” actually.

[4ngelic]

i went on pinterest for you to find some ideas of more fem gothy punky outfits:

[AI Opinion]

Embracing femininity while staying true to your gothy punk style sounds exciting! You can incorporate softer elements without losing your unique vibe. Consider adding flowing fabrics, like a chiffon top or a lace accessory, to balance the edginess of skull prints. Subtle makeup, like a tinted lip balm or a touch of mascara, can enhance your features without feeling overdone. You might also explore jewelry, such as dainty rings or necklaces, to bring in a feminine touch while keeping your boots and beloved hard hat in the mix. Celebrate your blonde hair by letting it down or trying simple styles like a half-up bun. Remember, it’s all about feeling good in your skin. 😊

[BobbieBoy666]

To be more feminine, you can123:Take care of your personal hygiene, such as keeping your hair and body clean and smelling nice.
Wear girly clothes, such as dresses, skirts, or blouses, and accessorize with silk scarves, headbands, or pearl earrings.
Wear makeup, such as lipstick, mascara, or blush, to enhance your features and express your style.
Experiment with “feminine” hairstyles, such as braids, buns, or curls, or let your hair down and loose.
Embrace your sexy side, by wearing lingerie, heels, or flattering outfits, and being confident in your body.
Practice good posture, by standing and sitting straight, and avoiding slouching or hunching.
Develop good manners, by being polite, respectful, and courteous, and avoiding cursing or interrupting.

[AmeerX]

Just start wearing more Womenly clothes like skirts and dresses and Maxi. I like those Bohemian style dresses 👗. If you are blonde blue eyes, it shouldn't be hard for you lol. They are gorgeous. I don't mind if you are not average weight as long as it's not humongous 😅. Like not 70 kg and you be a dwarf at least not at your age unless you are 5ft10 and broad shouldered.

And you can be feminine in your attitude by letting a man treat you nice. You sound like someone who runs after her guy or at least tried a few times. Nothing bad but just try to relax and let a man hold you and take care of you. Learn to trust you are a female and you are different and meant for a different role. The comparisons between women and men are not going to lead you anywhere but ruins.

[UnusualWeirdo]

Dressing And being more feminine I feel are two difficult things, you can dress anyway you like, just act how you want to, don't hold back, goth tomboy acting girly sounds awesome, there is room for everyone in the world and don't pretend to be someone your not.

[abc3643]

Consider looking up Mojca Zugna, bassist for Clan of Xymox. She's both feminine and attractive, yet she is definitely goth; Xymox is a leading goth band and now over 40 years old.

Mojca does dye her hair at times, but that's not important.

[Berethor]

If you like being tomboy then you can't be feminine, there is many goth girls with dresses.

[fantasticass]

About 20 year's ago when I started my third career, I decided to go into the trades. You need to have thick skin, be mouthy, and stick up for yourself. These men don't deserve to see your feminine side. You keep that for when you are NOT at work.
Go take dance lessons, ballet, gymnastics, or any sport that requires balance. Once you stand tall with confidence and balance on your feet, you will automatically feel feminine. ✌️❤️

[DextroShade]

First thing is first: LOSE WEIGHT!

It is unfemine to weigh more than a man.

Wear your hair down, don't get tattoos, and remove any piercings.

Wear skirts and dresses; if you still want to look goth just wear black ones. You can keep the skulls.

You do NOT need fake hair, lashes, or nails as those are just trashy.

[DrPepper12]

Ask your friends (and you with veto power) to PLAN a makeover day with several wine filled planning sessions. Do a closet raid too. Be OPEN MINDED - YOU are asking for feedback and it WILL challenge you and you friends. Suggest that each of you take a turn.

[bobby_bush_eater]

I think taking some time to analyze what could appeal to you that is specifically feminine. It's frequently a term thrown around but try to define it and look at different kinds of examples of how you see it and how you think you'd be perceived doing or wearing X

It doesn't have to be perfect, it can be little by little but ultimately if you just follow others specific advice without some self analysis, your results might feel superficial

[MrPiercedD]

Tomboy is not feminine look. With that said, you can't be looking feminine if you have tomboy look.

You want to look feminine? You need to change your style.

My guess, your depression is caused by your style, which leads to lack of attention by opposite sex.

[Open-minded99]

So your living a demonic life ok gotcha. The devil loves the way your dressing. You need to rid yourself of Satan first. He wants to steal and kill and destroy you. He doesn't care about you. Father Yahwah loves you and created you

[ProbablyClueless]

Feminine is definitely a personality thing more than an appearance thing. But you might be treated more feminine if you wear fewer skulls.

If you're a mellow and sweet person, you'll be like 80% of the way there.

[MisterMystery]

You could dye your hair red. You can work out and get a more toned body. If you complement all this with makeup and clothes that match your style, you could look really beautiful.

[SotiCoto]

... There is a contradiction there.
How can you want to be more feminine if you don't know yourself what that is?
What specifically do you want for yourself. Not just abstract words, but actual physical differences. Then just go for those.

[stratford]

You sound pretty perfect as you are.

Being feminine isn't just about how you look, it's also about how you engage.

But I would just focus on being yourself.

Happy to chat more about the intimate side if it helps.

[Shiprex]

Let your hair out. Wear dark flowing clothing that accentuates your movement and hold yourself in a firm confident way.

[soe11]

• Micro mini skirt are look attractive with boots.
• Wear mini flashback black dress.
• Micro denim shorts.
• Micro crop tops

[virgo2267]

Start by putting g on some new undergarments.
Start using fruity perfumes… by L”Occitane…. And feel sexy with confidence. You will have my attention all day all night

[Babygirl_S]

Be kind, caring, polite etc. and continue dressing the way you feel comfortable

[Lynx122]

I don't think that's a very realistic goal.

[RageBabe]

Be you! Feminine is more of how you carry yourself, attitude.

[Anonymous]

Eat less calories per day, until you have a feminine frame. It saves you money and time. And adds years to your life.

[Kai1997]

A good skirt. Can be long, medium, doesn't have to be short. A good bra - men will secretly admire how your breasts are presented, even under layers of clothing. The rest is your feminine touch, voice and smile.

[Dargil]

Emulate the looks of Motown girls of the 60s and Disco girls of the 70's.

[nawtee_me]

I like the black gothy look but black on black on black isn’t feminine. Try a splash of color with red lipstick to go with the black.

[nawtee_me]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=B8kVmsVJl-c

[Anonymous]

Take off the hard hat let your hair hang loose swap the boots for sandals. You don’t even need to wear any makeup. You’ll look great.

[Anonymous]

Well, a blue-eyed blonde is a good start. How far overweight are you? Have you been trying to work it off? What's your goal weight? And how tall are you?

[Ethan_T]

Well i think just do opposite of the things u said u wear and it will be more girly.

[Anonymous]

I don't have any specific advice but I'm sure you can take inspiration from others by looking up "pretty goth girls" and take note of how feminine they are and what you feel makes them seem feminine.

[DtMe89]

Why change? I mean, what's making you want to change?

[Dongie]

Stop wearing skulls and hardhats with boots. Ah, boots can be good.

[RedInnocent69]

That’s all sounds very feminine actually, except the hard hat 😂

[seeyounexttuesday]

so stop wearing all black. Wear dresses that are colorful. Lose weight. Blonde/blue is good.

[noohair]

Eventually you will realize that you can't recapture your youth. And then you grow forward.

[JohnnyBGood2U]

Acting in a feminine way is the best. And nothing is more feminine then a women wearing a brightly color dress.

[Enginn]

You need to have lots of sex. That should help.

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with the tomboy look. Just remember to shave your legs and armpits.

[Aqualls13]

Wear pretty jewelry and learn how to do your make up

[Amob79]

Posture. Work on a feminine posture and also smell feminine

[Anonymous]

sounds you can wear all those things just be thin and have delicate hands and legs

[lex09xo_]

Dresses heels skirts handbags

[red324]

Let your hair down when not at work.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Be a traditional woman

[lexie_xo]

Dresses skirts heels

[kaucky1]

You are fine the way you are

[Anonymous]

Make them pink skulls?

[jjj101010]

Dresses/skirts?

[TheKillerJason]

Get in good shape first 👌

[cavedweller1973]

Just be who you fe l happy being

[Astarlessnightsky]

Thats perfect.