Why is she angry at me and not him?

[Anonymous]

I was dating this guy for two months, I didn't even sleep with him and I had no idea he had a girlfriend.

I met this guy on a night out and he told me he wasn't from my area and had lost his mates in the town and one of them had his wallet. Me and my friends helped him find his mates again and somehow I managed to get one of his friends number's. I saw this guy for a bit and I thought he was kinda cute as they offered to buy me a drink to say thanks for helping his friend out.

We ended up talking and before I knew it he asked me out on a date. I really liked this guy I thought he was really sweet, kind and understanding. I was so happy and excited for a while until are last date when we were at a restaurant together and this girl comes matching up to are table kicking and screaming calling him a "cheat" and everything.

She started hitting me and pulling my hair, I was so scared and confused as to what was going on. The staff in restaurant and the guy I was dating were trying to protect me. She started screaming at me saying "did you know he had a girlfriend?" and calling me a bitch. I told her I had no idea what was happening but she said I was lying. Eventually the police came and arrested her and I was took to hospital as she cut my lip and I had to have stitches.

The guy I was on a date with went missing after that and my friends came to look after me. I was so shook up and crying but I'm lucky to have great friends.

One of my friends did some internet digging for me and turns out she was in fact his girlfriend and they'd been together for over 2 years.

He text me saying she was just a crazy stalker and that he was sorry for what happened. Ever since I've ghosted him.

His girlfriend has had to do some kind of community service as punishment for beating the shit out of me but they are back together and now she's labeling me a home wrecker and everything.

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I'm scared she's gonna come for me again and find were I live. I have nightmares and I've really struggled to trust people now. My friends and family have been amazing with me and held my hand every single step but so beat up about and don't understand why she's mad at him and not him

[Danny_dan92]

If you didn’t know he had a girlfriend. Then you’re good, just forget about it. Block the guy, and whatever the girl decides to do is completely up to her. She shouldn’t get mad at you, because you didn’t know.


She should be mad at him, this probably isn’t the first time he’s done this. She clearly has his cock as a blindfold on cause she doesn’t get mad at him for being a scum fuck but get’s mad at the girl that has no idea he’s taken.




Perfect example of negative reinforcement

[FilmGuy93]

Because if she blames him, she has to come to terms with the fact her relationship is fucked up.

[kylee2437]

Because she lacks proper self esteem that eliminates herself from associating with a cheat. She has self worth issues that will never allow her to see the bigger picture which is the fact that her man is entertaining other women and opening up doors himself to cheat. It’s lack of accountability and reflection of why she is still stuck with a man she claims is a horrible man.

[slatyb]

You must live on a different planet from me. I would have called the police and filed charges.

[Asker]

Was abit hard to call the police as I was getting the shit kicked out of me and the police came to arrest her and charges were pressed. Did you read what I actually wrote?