What makes a girl approach a guy ( stranger ) ?

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I don't mean for hookups by the way... Is it because she finds him attractive and " safe " and he gave her the right vibes she doesn't get from most guys she meets? Is it mainly about the looks? Is it because he fits her type and she doesn't meet a lot of those very often? People ( including girls) say that girls don't do that with just anybody and I'm trying to understand it... Also because I often find myself in that situation with different types of girls so I wanna what's exactly the reason behind it...

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

Do you mean approach like, walk up and chat or do you mean approach like, flirt with or ask out? It is two different things although there may be some things in common.

For the first, walk up and chat, OK so let's imagine I am waiting for the driver license agency to open or a store to open or something, and I am standing w a group of strangers outside while I wait. If I just stand there I might have the last person I would pick walk up and start chatting and not be able to politely get away, so sometimes to avoid that, I will start chatting with the most normal looking, ideally married or engaged, guy just to prevent other situations. It is not flirting at all kind of the opposite.

As for approaching a guy for the purpose of flirting, I don't really do that but I have seen other girls do it, and it is just that she's attracted to him pretty much, which could be for many reasons. JMO!

CA4444 · Accepted Answer

Yes all the reasons you quoted, what do they ask when they approach you? Are they flirting? Girls don’t approach or are not interested in approaching often but many are quite confident they will not get rejected by a man so they may try to flirt. Or maybe you look incredibly friendly and like a fun person to be around and have charism.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

since most of my ex-girlfriends, and girls that are friends approached me first, we've talked about and according to their answers... it is a combination of things

more than anything, a mix of intrigue/interesting... and also the looks

equally important were the vibes, and the approachable attitude as well... and also, the settings, the place (either school or party/reunions/social places like bars, clubs)

in my case, looks are distinctive rather than trendy/fashionable... and consider the approachable attitude a healthy amount of confidence, presence and a balanced "social energy" not too much of an extrovert or an introvert...

and that always funny hints of '"I don't know what vibes" lol

Blackmoonsns · Accepted Answer

He's her type of guy he looks friendly and open he could be funny she likes his style of apparel yes she finds him extremely attractive. His style of guy just might be in season right now. And let's not forget the tall dark mysterious bit that's always a thing to women.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Energy. I don't know how to explain it, but I've only approached 2 complete strangers. I don't pay attention to others when I'm out and only go on dates with people I'm already familiar with. So if someone attracts my attention its a big deal. It just comes down to energy and somehow being drawn to them.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

In order for me to approach a guy, he has to be kind and inclusive and humble. Also I approach cooperative people that do not have a problem with me initiating contact. If he is resistant, I won’t even say hi to him, much less approach him.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Yea you already answered your own question lol it comes down to finding someone interesting or attractive, which is why men will approach certain women.

Nomina · Answer

The guys I have approached were because: . I found them gorgeous and just had to tell them. . We were in a familiar environment with people we both knew around and it gave me something to talk about.

Anonymous · Answer

When you figure that out let me know. They women that approach me are always very random. Honestly based on thier conversation I'm not sure they know why they approach half the time. It's all very confusing. 😆

Noahzaid · Answer

Women shouldn’t approach anybody they don’t know, period.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't really approach guys just out of the blue.

aaron210419 · Answer

Literally almost nothing, it's very rare that a girl approaches a guy that she doesn't know.

Anonymous · Answer

she's a stranger to you but she knows you. She's found out about you already from others.

Summeroflove · Answer

She likes him and really wants to see if she has a chance.

KansasX · Answer

I am the shy one, and all the guys I have been with approached me. I had another 20 who approached me but I told them no and that I already had a boyfriend, and yet that was true only 1/3 the time.

Akam93 · Answer

Probably fits her type of guy that she would go for. I would but knowing I get rejected a lot I would cower away and pray he might come to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Green paper. It will attract GOLD DIGGER GIRLS. Other than that 95% of women do not ask men out.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Generally it's if she perceives that the guy has a lot of money.

trina_x · Answer

i dont do that just in general

sassyredhead · Answer

Confidence Intelligence  Charm

In_Trance · Answer

She wants the D

Sasha0426 · Answer

I don’t approach men

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