Is shaming men for looking at women at the gym justified?

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Like can you explain to me the trend of women now who film themselves at the gym ready to put it all out on TikTok anyway for the whole world to see... Wearing skin tight anus shorts, meanwhile f**ing a barbell - and then get surprised when men look at them?

Is this the summon of victimhood nowadays, that if somebody looks at you they are somehow to be though of as creeps? Are men who go to the gym supposed to walk around like Sandra Bullock in Bird Box to be viewed favorably when women wear stuff like that which serves no purpose but to attract attention anyway?

RavVid · Accepted Answer

I think this is more about women reverse boasting about how they are so hot that men just have to stare.

Of course they can't say that directly nowadays so they have to complain at men objectifying their sexualization of themselves.

Watch this video on academic research into the topic. It goes for 1 hr 17 m but if you watch only the first 5 min then you are ahead.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/NayII1poLcI

It is basically that with economic inequality these girls will use the power of female beauty to level up the field for themselves. It doesn't directly say so but economic inequality is on individual basis and it is not hard to feel economic inequality in a winner take all economy. Invent Facebook and you are a billionaire.

At the end of the day, a girl putting in hours at the gym, can get her a pay rate the rest of us can only dream of if she achieves marriage with a wealthy guy from her beauty.

But female competition has to be done in a non-threatening way to other females. As Dr Blake says it is a vicious struggle but very nice on the surface. So men have to be blamed & shamed for staring. Doesn't get more complicated than that.

So many girls have told me, that girls are so competitive that it is hard to have female friendships, that perhaps I have been made more aware of this.

It is funny watching girls have straight up fights on who is nicest/most charming and the dumbfounded look on a guys face afterwards. He is with his girlfriend and she and another girl compete on who is nicest and most charming. Not that the other girl wanted him. His reactions were just the scorecard and he gets a lot of shit from the girlfriend afterwards because she is very very angry indeed. He is like 'but I thought you were friends' and looks baffled. .

Chris Williamson is doing a few 'Modern Wisdom' videos where female academics explain girls to us. I recommend them. There is quite a good one on female friendships.

Enjoy.

MrBadd · Accepted Answer

I can understand women feeling somewhat threatened by creepy staring at them in the gym, that’s wrong and it shouldn’t happen. Those guys deserve to be called out.

I’ve seen these videos however, and a lot of the time the men actually did nothing wrong at all. They weren’t staring at her or acting inappropriately.

The last one I saw, all the guy did was ask if she was using the machine next to where she was lifting because she’s parked her stuff on there, and then when she said no he used to the machine. Then she acted as if he’d just hit on her.

It’s usually nothing but attention seeking bullshit, or paranoia maybe.

Red-Blaze · Accepted Answer

It feels diffrent letting someone see you in a video that you control, and you decide what is and not to show, you dont see there eyes staring, and over all its counted as more accepatable
How ever if you train in the gym and do it to work out and someone star at you, not givinga fast glance but just stright up googly eyes the ass that is diffrent, it feels very uncomftruble, and very exsposed like someone is going to pounce you in a momment

its a diffrent of choise, one you get control over, the second they got the power to pick, and they pick to be unpolit or with no self control

I personally will not shame someone, but I will likely move away from there, becouse its really uncomftruble, and will say had creeps that follow you around, and dont seem to train at all, that is the creepest thing, and main reason I stay out of gyms as much as I can this days

I will say some just do it for the vine, but there some creeps out there as well and its good to not encrage it, even that it should not be done by shaming someone paticular, and always make sure its true and not just go after for a chance

Razp_Sorbet · Accepted Answer

There's a difference between looking and staring.

You can look but staring is just rude and uncomfortable.

A lot of people just film themselves to check their form. Never intends to go on the internet.

There's definitely people who film themselves and post saying the guy in the background was looking at them and getting all high and mighty about it. Those people get called out for being stupid.

But also if you think clothes make any difference to SA/SH you are a part of the problem and are very much mistaken.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

These chicks are like the definition of a hypocrite. I bet even other chicks are sick of those chicks that purposely seek out attention to complain about any, even a glance, of the attention they receive. This and letting dudes into the changing room to show off their dicks to the girls just because they say they are girls, is the beginning of the end for public gyms.

Get some adjustable dumbells and a bench or a damn treadmill if that's all you do in the gym. You got banned from the place during the COVID hysteria, they have rules, you have to deal with other people's sweat, the shit stated above... just do it at home people. You'll never have to deal with any of that shit again. Workout long enough and the equipment pays for its self. Add up the money spent on a gym, the gas to get there, and whatever the time not spent working out and just doing the to and from is worth... home gym pays for itself.

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Is shaming men for looking at women at the gym justified?

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Pegases · Answer

It would be odd for anyone to catch someone staring, and they then continue to stare. This trend tho, is just mainly women going to the gym half naked, or in skin tight spandex that are seeking attention online. Dont get me wrong, there are definitely assholes out there that will stare at a woman in the gym, but the vast majority of men in my experience simply look, and go about their workout. Maybe they even spark up conversation if theyre interested enough, and that can be annoying to be fair. But, in most cases if you see a woman post a video about being harrased in the gym these days, it's more than likely just another woman looking for attention online. Don't feed into their bs. If you go to a gym, just go to work out, mind your business, don't try to help them, and you'll be fine. Nothing wrong with a quick look at a half naked woman at the gym.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I mean why can’t they look? I was going to the gym just to checkout hot dudes as i worked out 😂 You think inwas bout to break my neck looking up at the weird angle they have the tvs hanging in. You can look, just dont touch. Plus i enjoyed making small talk while working out. But since the pandemic hit, I haven’t been comfortable going to the gym. I have a bike and other equipment at home to exercise on. I’ve been paying the gym $200+ a year and haven't been 🤣

Sour-rose · Answer

Nah. that shi will get someone regretting that decision of doing that just for the sole purpose of a gym. I believed once I saw a girl ask for help, aaand the guy just... nope. So not at all justified or ideal. :1

Keishio · Answer

There's a difference between look and leering. You have no idea if someone's just trying to figure out how far into your sets you might be so they can jump I'm next, maybe they're getting some ideas off your form/technique and even, God forbid, someone might just think you're pretty and glance over a couple of times. Human interaction happens in shared human spaces

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I should walk in the gym wearing a g-string with my junk perfectly visible and a crop top stringer and any woman who looks at me just start screaming at. Would be a hilarious tik tok. HOW DARE YOU GAWK AT ME! I DRESS LIKE THIS FOR MYSELF NOT FOR YOU TO LOOK AT.

Anonymous · Answer

Most of the time men aren’t even checking them out. They spend more time checking themselves out. A lot of times it’s to gain attention, or make boost their ego that men are really checking them out when they’re not.

Leopard23 · Answer

It's fake drama at others expense all for validation. These tik tokers in gyms are ridiculous.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

You know, the mature thing for any woman to do would be to just politely talk to the guy if they think they’re being stared at.

Not to just record men without their consent and then wonder why they stare at you looking puzzled and bewildered while your busy talking to yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends what they're wearing. I'll support a woman unless she's wearing something that shows off every nook and cranny of her anatomy.

It'd be so much easier if gyms were segregated by gender. But this question was asked on here and a lot of women yelled that they liked to workout with thier partner. But they could still do that, just go to separate gyms in the same building. This kind of proves most women that do this ish just want to instigate.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not.. Here is the rub, I know what you're referring to, some viral tiktoks. What it's lead to is situations where if a woman needs help at the gym, and even if she asks for it, the men are unlikely to give it because the risk of being accused of sexual harassment is way too high.

Stressyalaire · Answer

No I don't think, if you're going to record yourself I feel like you hopw to get caught or something. Seeing someone work out, those posts if you aren't a professional... does anyone really care?

MountAverage · Answer

Many men, but also many women, need to learn the difference between  subtly looking  and  staring . There's nothing wrong with the former.

Rosexøxø · Answer

Not creeps 🥺 let’s have a staring contest, while we both do the dumbbells  #motivashion🤓💪

inhua · Answer

not even blind men are safe

Anemone978 · Answer

A hoe is a hoe I can't stand these dumb bitches..

jshm2 · Answer

You don't understand, kiddo. Creeps like you are who she has on her blocklist online.

Luopio27 · Answer

Yes its justified.  Checking a girl out just ain't mature. Problem solved, here in Finland there are all female gyms. There they only have to fear lesbos checking their ass out.

Randalama · Answer

I've seen a few videos on Youtube on this subject. The LonelyFans girls are predatory and relentless, with a finely tuned killer instinct. A clear and present danger. I work my shit out at home.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on how they do it. But you can't blame them from looking, nor can you blame us from doing it. There are too many "victims" in the world today.

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