So I met a girl at work and long story short we were into eachother, however it was quite clear she was very shy and cautious. Eventually she admitted feelings for me but because of how she's been treated she has major trust issues with men and she can't flip a switch and change that.
We continued chatting and made out in her car. Things were going great and we began planning our first day. All was set and ready and then I got a text. She told me that she likes me and really tried but she just can't go on the date and doesn't want to hang out as friends because she knows that's not ehat it'd be. She said she's just got ok with herself and doesn't want to risk heartbreak or being used again and because we work together if it didn't work she feels it's even worse and I'd just have to accept her decision.
The following days she ignored me and didn't even look at me, then the last few days she slowly became chatty after I basically cornered her one day and forced her to talk about something. Then she slowly became herself again and then she shut down on me today pretty much.
I then got bad news and she was all over me like a rash, she completely changed and showed how much she cared, she kept checking in on me, get me a muffin from the local cafe, brought me a bag of sweets and was genuinely worried if I was OK.
She worked a 14hr shift yet when she got home she began texting to see if I was OK, wanted to talk about or needed anything etc and she pretty much fell asleep texting me.
She's such a lovely person and a genuine sweetheart that I adore and get along really well with. Everyone thinks we're suited, but because she doesn't feel mentally ready to risk her heart again yet, especially with a coworker nothing will happen.
Is there a way I could go about this without setting off any of her triggers on the topic?
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I have a strong feeling she likes you but is also using you as an emotional tampon.
Do this: give her space and don't text her unless she texts you from now on. Whatever you do, do not check up on her.
Ask her to meet you in person. Tell her you find her really attractive and would like an intimate connection with her, and that you'd love to spend a night together with her.
If she responds negatively to that, you're being played like a fool.
No such thing as right person wrong time. What’s right for you will find you at the right time. That’s what I believe anyway.
You have that backwards