Girls, How can you get somone to open up and tell you their deepest darkest secrets without them thinking you will overreact?

[Anonymous]

Say the person has been with you over half of their life.

You have came clean about everything. All of me is out there for them to walk all over. Down to being molested by a family member. They will never share and act like it is no big deal but a lot of time has been invested for us and I just feel like I am not respected and walked all over. It sucks. Mentaly they have taken a toll on me and now I doubt my sanity. I constantly am parinoid that the joke is on me... a significant other should be there to make you feel safe right?

I don't know if this all makes sense... I am just in a funk I guess

[SueShe]

That is exactly where the problem lies. You never open to someone, even if you know that person half of your life. You think you know that person but you can never be 100% sure. You cannot vouch for them. All it takes is to be intoxicated and they may reveal something that they promised never to reveal. People lose control of themselves when drunk.

This is my policy and it has served me well. I never open up to anyone and a secret remains a secret if it is not shared. You don't want to take the risk to have your secret spread by someone you thought you could trust. You cannot have control over them when you are not around.

Once your secret is spilled, it is gone forever and you have to pay the consequences, even among family members.

[Anonymous]

It depends. Some things no one else needs to know.

[Anonymous]

Show how trustworthy you are and be patient

[Wild_princess]

By developing trust