Would you write a letter to this girl in this situation?

[Anonymous]

Me and this girl talked for every month for almost 3 months. She has a boyfriend but there relationship was not good at all (I was being extremely respectful about this). I asked her for coffee and she stopped taking to me and acted extremely weird. It's been two months now we have not spoken and my best friend actually confronted her about her actions. She said some things but said she was going through a very rough time with her boyfriend and he monitors her phone and that's why she could not text me. She was looking down the whole time he said. Would writing a letter be appropriate and give it to her through my friend or leave it on her car or is it too late now?

[RavVid]

Don't. It is not appropriate for a start and if she did start lining you up as Plan B, she will do the same to you at a later date.

A lot of people do line up the next person when they think of moving on and it is immoral in my view. So don't participate in it is my advice. Plus if you are the other man than likely boyfriend will blame you. Does he have guns?

Stay out of it! When she has moved on then swoop in - not before.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

My brother from another mother you are absolutely wasting your time & with all honesty I think you should simply move on & find someone else who isn’t already in a relationship. Don’t be a crazy stalker & leave shit on her car, move on dude.

[Asker]

I appreciate your answer thank you. I just feel like she was talking to me every single day then went cold and couldnt even look at me near the end. I just wanted to really express something to her because i could tell her relationship is toxic. I do understand what you're saying.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

The heart wants what the heart wants & just because someone talks to you everyday doesn’t always mean they’re interested in you. Some people talk to each other because they’re just being friendly. You say she’s in a toxic relationship & that very well could be the truth or it could just be that way your heart & brain want to see it. You can wait & wait & to be honest you might be waiting a lifetime.
How did you meet this girl?

[Asker]

it's a long story, everytime i mentioned her boyfriend her face would drop in sadness instantly. She actually approached me at her workplace. I go everyday to grab coffee before week and when i go her shift ends.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In a relationship toxic or not she’s still in a relationship so do the right thing & respect that & if the relationship is toxic & she’s not smart enough to leave it’s on her. Do you still grab coffee?

[Asker]

I stopped two months ago, never seen her since

[Nikki1989]

She has a boyfriend.

You should leave her alone.

[Asker]

I just wanted un-biased opinion from everyone. I know she does not like her boyfriend, she spent everyday talking to me. i just feel i never really got my point across. However yes she is probably still in a relationship. I'am not 100% certain. But i respect your answer.

[In_Trance]

no i wouldn't

[Asker]

I just wanted un-biased opinion from everyone. I know she does not like her boyfriend, she spent everyday talking to me. i just feel i never really got my point across. However yes she is probably still in a relationship. Thank you for your answer