Why would a girl want to stay with you if she is barely ever happy with you?

[Finchie40]

What is she holding onto if she is mostly miserable or upset with you? , You tell her to move on and for her to go find happiness but she won’t go , she says she loves you and wants things to work out but they clearly aren’t so What is her deal?

[devilish-cutie]

because you dont get to meet a lot of people you really conect with, like and see the future with so thus she loves you. When you love someone you want to make it work and not give up on it. She is hoping you can find mutual understandin, compromise and do the self work to make your relationship happy one. No relationship is perfect and it needs to be worked on.

[Finchie40]

Ok but she wants me to change , I told her I am who I am , you can’t change me , what you got from me in the beginning is pretty much the same I am going to be forever. You either accept it or not , I told her I am ok if she wants to move on and find someone that makes her happy , I treat her the same way I want to be treated i can only give what I want to receive , I don’t expect her to change for me , I just want her to be happy and not negative and miserable all the time , I am not that kind of person , I like to laugh and smile I don’t dwell on negatives as much as she does , I told her I want to feel wanted not used as a convenience, I want a girl that makes me her priority the same way she does for me , she doesn’t see where I am coming from and just expects me to accept her for the way she is , I told her I am not the right guy for her , if me having some beers on the weekends makes me a bad person sitting on my patio at home after i worked my ass off all week then I am not the guy for you , she suffers from depression like most girl’s I end up with for some reason , I just don’t know what I could possibly do to make her happy , she is barely ever happy , I feel like she is just stringing me along for the most part , When I express my feelings of concern to her she acts like I am starting a war when all I am doing is letting her know how I feel. So who knows, she either wants me or not , Only so much I can take before I throw in the towel

[devilish-cutie]

I think its clear she wants you. I get you dont want to change but maybe you should. In a way it may not be about chenage at first, its about working on understanding where both of you are coming from. Then if u could understand her pov n she yours it can affect you both in a way to change for your own good...

[Finchie40]

That’s the thing she wants me to be what she wants me to be , and she wants her cake and wants to eat it to basically , she only looks at things from her perspectives but when I try to tell her what I want , it goes on one ear out the other , it’s like she only loves me when it’s convenient for her and that’s not the type of girl I want to settle down with , it’s like she loves me and wants me one minute and then the next she starts treating me like I am not worthy
Of her or some shit , it’s so back and fourth , our sexually chemistry doesn’t really match up like it use to be in the beginning so half the time I feel like I am just a convenience to her , like I can no longer initiate intimacy and affection with her unless it’s on her terms, I told her I want someone that treats me equally not one sided , why I will not settle down with her , I see to many red flags , She knows if she cheats on me it’s completely over

[devilish-cutie]

Wwll if ypu dont see future with her than thats that and she should take no for an answer then but you shouldn't also give her any hope.

[Finchie40]

Yea I know I am not perfect by any means , I have my own personal issues and insecurities from my previous relationships , and I know she does as well , All I know is I try to treat her the same way I want to be treated in return , I know that isn’t always going to line up because we are all incompatible people so I am nothing but honest with her , I feel honesty is the only way love can grow between 2 people , if someone can’t be honest they are only hurting themselves , sadly most people don’t know how to be honest with each other because most people assume the worse , because we are our own worst enemy , so I treat her the way I want
To be treated , if I am upset or feel like something is off between us I open up to her and let her know how i am feeling basically putting the ball in her court , what she does with that ball is up to her and that’s pretty much all I can do hoping she passes the ball back to me, I learned to value myself as much as possible , I don’t ask for much , I just want to be loved and wanted and appreciated the same way I want
To make her feel , I am not the kind of guy that runs around sticking my dick into anything, I think that is dirty and degrading period , but sadly the way this world has become it seems so many people are selfish and only do what is best for them , and I have no control over that , I can only give what I want
To receive in return , But there is only so much I will give without receiving until I walk away , it seems the second I am about to walk away she comes chasing me back , so I guess that’s a good thing until she decides not to chase me back , for whatever reason that turns her on , I just have walls up to protect myself from being taken for granted , I can only remove selfishness for her if she removes selfishness for me

[DizzyDesii]

Some people are fine with settling. I am not

[strateguy632]

she can't find anyone else.

[Finchie40]

That’s what it feels like bro , it’s like I am a convenience to her until someone else sweeps her off her feet , like she is this victim when really she is the one that seems to be up to no good , Things we’re great in the beginning but after the infatuation period faded away , she is the one that changed not me , it’s like things need to go her way or no way and that’s why I been walking the other way and not settling down with her , I am not screwing anyone else but I left a door open because I am not being played a fool , Most girls’ think they are slick when it comes to men , but I experienced and witnessed to much shit from girls to have Sucker written on my head , The second I am not a girl’s main priority like she is to me , I start walking the other way , Most girls only want what is best for them , they don’t know how to wear her partner’s shoes like she expects him to wear hers , A girl can tell you she loves you and only wants you to your face but behind your back she is a whole different person. Why I no longer give my heart fulfill to a girl that has red flags waving, Most girls don’t know what it means to remove selfishness for each other , it’s her way or no way