Why would a women pretend to be interested and go along with a relationship when she’s not actually?

[Anonymous]

She treated me like shit for 2 years she would complain she wasn’t happy I don’t understand if your not happy why go 2 years

[Oliverlogan263]

There are a few reasons why a woman may pretend to be interested in a relationship when she's not actually:

1. Fear of confrontation - Some people find it difficult to directly end a relationship or reject someone. They avoid the uncomfortable confrontation and hope the other person will eventually get the hint.

2. Avoiding hurt feelings - Some women want to avoid hurting the other person's feelings, so they drag out the "breakup" instead of being direct. They hope time will lessen the blow.

3. Material benefits - In rare cases, a woman may pretend to be interested for financial gain or other material benefits from the man. This is manipulative and selfish.

4. Emotional benefits - Some women enjoy the attention, validation and emotional support that comes with a relationship, even if they're not actually interested in the man himself. This is also manipulative.

5. Hoping feelings will change - Occasionally a woman will enter or continue a relationship hoping her feelings will grow over time. But more often than not, they don't.

6. External pressures - Family, friends or society may pressure a woman to stay in a relationship, even if she's not truly invested or happy. She goes along with it to avoid conflict.

In your case, your girlfriend treating you badly for two years suggests deeper issues in your relationship beyond her simply "not being interested." Her dismissive and hurtful behavior was unfair to you, regardless of her reasons for staying in the relationship for so long.

The lesson here is to pay attention to actions, not just words. Someone who is truly interested and committed will show that through their considerate, supportive behaviors - not just by saying they're "interested." Look for compatibility and consistent effort on both sides going forward.

[luvstoned4him]

Well there is something she is getting that she doesn't want to let go of. It's different for each woman. For instance, I've met women who have openly admitted to remaining in a relationship that's past it's due only so they can leech off a guys money.

[BoopBoopBeep]

All the free stuff.

[virtualwasp]

no idea best to ask her.

[Anonymous]

She's treating you as a therapist