OK, so this is a little complicated, but I'll try to simplify it. I went on a few dates with this girl a year ago. I really liked her, but after a month or so, she told me that she just wanted to be friends. I was OK with that, and we started hanging out as friends, and became really close, to the point where we were telling each other everything about our lives (including about our sex lives in very much detail). Then in July of last year, she told me that she had really strong feelings for me. We agreed the best thing to do would be to just stay friends and let things develop if they were going to, but a few days after that, when we were hanging out as friends, we ended up getting drunk and hooking up.
Over the next several weeks, we were kind of in a weird gray area - more than friends but not really dating. After about a month she told me she just wanted to be friends, again. She dated some other guy but she and I would hang out all the time, and the guy she was dating got jealous because of how close she and I were, saying we did coupley stuff together and that she was in love with me. She and I talked about how we had feelings for each other, but I guess things just weren't right. Then I started dating someone new, and my "friend" started getting pissed off at me because I was really into my new girlfriend and didn't spend as much time with her. Definitely a stronger reaction than was warranted given our friendship. My girlfriend broke up with me a month ago, and almost instantly my "friend" was no longer mad at me, and we started spending a lot of time together again.
Now she is very casually dating around (broke up her boyfriend a while ago), but she and I still talk all the time and spend a ton of time together. I have been getting the feeling lately that her feelings for me have resurfaced, she seems to be acting similarly to the way she was before she told me she had feelings back in July. She also gets mad at me for stupid little things, things that one wouldn't get mad at a friend for.
I guess my question is, do you think she still has feelings for me? How should I handle this situation? It just seems like a never ending loop where things look like they'll work, but they don't. I am confused and don't know how to proceed.
Over the next several weeks, we were kind of in a weird gray area - more than friends but not really dating. After about a month she told me she just wanted to be friends, again. She dated some other guy but she and I would hang out all the time, and the guy she was dating got jealous because of how close she and I were, saying we did coupley stuff together and that she was in love with me. She and I talked about how we had feelings for each other, but I guess things just weren't right. Then I started dating someone new, and my "friend" started getting pissed off at me because I was really into my new girlfriend and didn't spend as much time with her. Definitely a stronger reaction than was warranted given our friendship. My girlfriend broke up with me a month ago, and almost instantly my "friend" was no longer mad at me, and we started spending a lot of time together again.
Now she is very casually dating around (broke up her boyfriend a while ago), but she and I still talk all the time and spend a ton of time together. I have been getting the feeling lately that her feelings for me have resurfaced, she seems to be acting similarly to the way she was before she told me she had feelings back in July. She also gets mad at me for stupid little things, things that one wouldn't get mad at a friend for.
I guess my question is, do you think she still has feelings for me? How should I handle this situation? It just seems like a never ending loop where things look like they'll work, but they don't. I am confused and don't know how to proceed.
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