Girls, if a guy sent you this text after a year, what would you think?

[Anonymous]

[Rei13]

I’m really glad you got the confidence to say something and it wasn’t bad. I think next time if you reach out to someone like that don’t go so heavy with it from the get go. That is something you can say in person if you got that far or after exchanging multiple messages. I think a message like that just opens you up, is also the type of message someone might read/ignore, etc where if you rebuild a repertoire it can go more smoothly

[Asker]

I see. If a fuy dent you that would it be too much? Is it creepy?

Also i can give some context:

A year ago in July she used to ask me why i get nervous, i never told her why. Then she asked me if i have a girlfriend, i said no.
Our company went to the club and she told me to come outside with her. She grabbed mu upper arm and pulled me towards her and then placed the palm of her hand on my stomach and kept it there. I got nervous and leaned away. She noticed that and put her hand again on my stomach.

[Asker]

Sorry, if a guy sent you that*

[petitedollbabee]

The way it’s worded is respectful, and comes across as genuine. But personally if I received it after a year, I would be a little confused as to why it was sent.

[Asker]

It was sent after a year because i never had the guts to tell her that directly. A year ago in July she used to ask me why i get nervous, i never told her why. Then she asked me if i have a girlfriend, i said no. Then after that our company went to a club and she got touchy with me, by placing her hand on my stomach and keeping it there. Again, i didn't have the confidence to do anything and leaned away.

But after a year i still had feelings for her and i messaged her that.

[ta-ra]

That took a lot of guts. I hope she responds and knows how much that took for you to do that. I wish you the best of luck! That was sweet and genuine.

[Asker]

Thanks for the good luck. Okay, two things happened:

1. She messaged me back and this was her :

“Hey (my name).
I am doing great thanks.
How about you?
Thanks for the confession I respect that. We can be good friends I have no problem with that. Are you still working with (company)?”

She then sent me a follow request. I accepted and sent her one back.

I replied: “im also good, ty. No i left (company) back in mrach 2023. Wbu?”

She read it and I then realized that she blocked me.

2. She called my old coworker. My coworker then called me and he told me that she said this: “it took him over a year to tell me that, it’s frustrating. I have a boyfriend now.”

Why do you find it sweet and genuine?

[Yucy_Gluttony]

PRETTY CUTE I AM HAPPY YOU GOT IT OUT OF YOUR SYSTEM

[Asker]

Thanks. Im gonna copy paste this reply i sent to someone else too:

1. She messaged me back and this was her reply :

“Hey (my name).
I am doing great thanks.
How about you?
Thanks for the confession I respect that. We can be good friends I have no problem with that. Are you still working with (company)?”

She then sent me a follow request. I accepted and sent her one back.

I replied: “im also good, ty. No i left (company) back in mrach 2023. Wbu?”

She read it and I then realized that she blocked me.

2. She called my old coworker. My coworker then called me and he told me that she said this: “it took him over a year to tell me that, it’s frustrating. I have a boyfriend now.”

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Not everybody is as nice as me! But now you learned your lesson!

[Asker]

What’s the lesson here?

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Nevermind then :( lost

[Asker]

Sorry wdym.

[Anonymous]

old coworker? no thanks. creepy. dude needs to move on. i would leave it on read. especially since i have a life of my own.

[Asker]

It’s just that i didn't have the confidence to tell her this back then.