I sent this text to a girl I like on insta. Girls, what would you think if you received something like this from a guy?

[Anonymous]

[Zeyra]

Hmm... I would feel a little awkward. Better to just be normal friends. I think I might just want you to refrain from talking about it, especially in person and in front of others. I might even avoid you out of awkwardness and fear.

[Asker]

I see, i think should give more context. She was my coworker and she noticed that i get nervous and has asked multiple times why i get nervous, i never told her. She also asked me if i have a girlfriend, i said no.

The next day after the questions our company went to the club and she told me to come with her and another female coworker to do her a favor (just some talking to a random guy). After that we were outside and she grabbed my arm and pulled me towards her and then placed her hand on my stomach. I got really nervous and leaned away, and she placed her hand again. Out torsos were touching and she was staring at me while i was looking at the ground. It felt a bit weird it didn't feel friendly.

After that the next few days she started eating lunch with me and initiated convos while we ate. I always used to eat alone while the others went out, but now she joined me every day. Duringn that time my attraction grew but unfortunately she had to leave in September 2022. I was sad but i thoughts to kyself that i would get over her. Fast forward July 2023 and i still liked her, so i msgd her, and thats the message i sent to her.

She called my former coworker and told him “he told me that after a freaking year”. My coworker called me and told me whatever she said to him.

[Zeyra]

Context? Nah, just act friendly. She'll see for herself. It'll be less awkward for both of you, trust me.

[Anonymous]

Its too much.. it will scare most women away. I'd like the honesty tho but maybe delete it and ask if she wants to meet up for a coffee?

[Asker]

In what sense would it scare women away? In the form of a threat? I just wanted to be transparent and honest to her questions she asked me during work.

I have also written the full context in another reply if u are curious

[Opinion Owner]

yeah sure you can show me.

you are moving very fast its scary.. id seriously delete it asap

[Zeyra]

In the sense that it would be too overwhelming for her. What should she do? How should she act? How will you act?

[Opinion Owner]

@Zeyra i would probblaby think its a lot. I dont know what i would do.. but i would respond

[Asker]

She was my coworker and she noticed that i get nervous and has asked multiple times why i get nervous, i never told her. She also asked me if i have a girlfriend, i said no.

The next day after the questions our company went to the club and she told me to come with her and another female coworker to do her a favor (just some talking to a random guy). After that we were outside and she grabbed my arm and pulled me towards her and then placed her hand on my stomach. I got really nervous and leaned away, and she placed her hand again. Out torsos were touching and she was staring at me while i was looking at the ground. It felt a bit weird it didn't feel friendly.

After that the next few days she started eating lunch with me and initiated convos while we ate. I always used to eat alone while the others went out, but now she joined me every day. Duringn that time my attraction grew but unfortunately she had to leave in September 2022. I was sad but i thoughts to kyself that i would get over her. Fast forward July 2023 and i still liked her, so i msgd her, and thats the message i sent to her.

She called my former coworker and told him “he told me that after a freaking year”. My coworker called me and told me whatever she said to him.
That’s the context @Opinion Owner

[Opinion Owner]

yes i understand thats good for backstory but i still wouldn't write all that. i would just ask if she wants to go on a date.

[Asker]

Is it that its creepy or just that it’s overwhelming?

[Opinion Owner]

both for most women, few just overwhelming

[Asker]

Okay.

But the thing is she has done way more weird stuff than that. Like i said, she started touching me by placing her hand m my stomach, i leaned away and she placed her hand again. isn't that too much?

[Opinion Owner]

i guess but there is female privlige in it

[Asker]

Female privilege? Wdym?

[Opinion Owner]

women can get away with doing more creepy stuff cause we are smaller

[Asker]

That makes sense actually, because guys can defend themselves in terms of physical harm, even male teens can overpower female adults.

Anyway, I’m not sure what to do.

[Opinion Owner]

Yup!

I think you should delete it and ask her out

[Asker]

But i sent her that already.

[Opinion Owner]

loll delete it before she sees it and just ask her out.. dont come back complaining to me if she gets freaked out i already told you

goodluck, bye!

[Asker]

She saw italready

“ She called my former coworker and told him “he told me that after a freaking year”. My coworker called me and told me whatever she said to him.” i wrote that up there.

[sheikalana]

I would disregard the message.

[Asker]

Why?

[sheikalana]

First of all I'm marriage and do not entertain these type of things. Second of all even if I was single I would still disregard the message it looks cheesy you wrote a bit too much.

[Asker]

Oh you mean its an awkward message.

[sheikalana]

Absolutely.