Why do I get called good looking/handsome by only average/below average looking women?

[Anonymous]

Why do I get compliments from only average/below average looking women and not the really pretty ones?

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+1 y

It's just kind of annoying when women I'm not interested in keep staring at me, smiling at me and trying to talk to me. It's creepy.

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+1 y

If they were hot I would love the attention but when they're unattractive I feel uncomfortable.

[CuriousTommy]

Because that's the type of women ypu interact with mostly. When we see a pretty lady we don't talk to her as we talk to an uglier one, or mediocre, or whatever. We are more comfortable with normal looking people. So they give the energy back, you treat them like you can't speak properly, they'll treat you as he doesn't want to talk to me. Also yoy could be just a good average lookin dude🤷🏻‍♂️ hot Girls see all kinds4of dudes so they aren't used5to complimenting as well. Also average looking women tend to be kinder and show more love languages. Pretty girls are used to the attention. So they don't give it back because it automatically comes to them

[Avicenna]

Well, the attractive ones might not want you to think they're hitting on you. But if you think about it, if someone is attractive to lots of people, they'll also be attractive to "unattractive" people.

Looks are not something I'd want to be known most for.

[cnj421]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Start focusing on the people that are actually showing interest and being kind. Not those that aren’t showing up. You may find they’re more beautiful than you think.

[Asker]

I do have high standards for beauty and will probably remain single if I can't get a 10/10 girl.

[cnj421]

Okay well to each their own.

[HelpfulWoman]

because beauty is subjective. what you think is "pretty" will not be the same as someone else thinks.

[Asker]

same with what I think of "average" might be "pretty" for others?

[HelpfulWoman]

yup!

[BoopBoopBeep]

This seems self-evident. You're not attractive to them ("the really pretty ones").

The 6th grader says your strong because you picked them up one-handed. The guy winning the strongman competition likely doesn't agree with him.

[Asker]

I'm very good looking though, I just don't get why they are too stuck up to say I'm good looking. Could it be because I'm an introvert and keep to myself all the time?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Could be, but your'e not good looking to everyone. I don't care for blondes typically. Some may not like redheads. Some don't like tall/short women. Maybe you're not their type. How many are we talking here that you've noticed this with? Dozen or so? Statistically that's pretty small. You're a blonde and they like brunettes. If we're talking 100 then sure the introvert thing doesn't help, but Brad Pitt is getting talked about whether he sits in the corner or makes the rounds, because attraction can occur from across the room when they've no idea if you're introverted or not

[Asker]

Honestly I'm better looking than Brad Pitt, way taller too and got better eyes than him.

[BoopBoopBeep]

So you've been on the cover of magazines based solely on your looks as well?

[Asker]

I'm not famous like him, so no.

[BoopBoopBeep]

So that's no different than all these women going around saying they're a 10. No, by definition you're not. If you're giving off a lot of "I'm more attractive than Brad Pitt" vibes then that could be a reason why the more attractive ones aren't interested in you.

Are the attractive women in your life (coworkers, friends, people in the same social groups as you) unwilling to share their take? I think that would be the most beneficial, as that would take into account regional differences in behavioral norms as well. Are the attractive women that you go talk to indicating through other means that they find you handsome and just not SAYING it, and the lack of communication is the problem? I think we need to drill down a little deeper to see fully what's going on before we can figure out WHY it's going on.

[Asker]

If Brad Pitt was not famous like he is, he would not be a 10. He's good looking but he's not the most good looking man to have ever existed.

[Ozanne]

Such arrogance. I'm quite sure if I saw your picture I could rip apart your flaws very easily and have you run off with your tail between your legs. No one is that good looking to declare to others that they are better looking than Hollywood's elite, and to carry on in comments saying so, and how much they deserve a hot woman. I've decided that this question and your comments were made merely to troll.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Ozanne Thank you. I was running out of ways to communicate what I though was self-evident

[Asker]

@Ozanne "Hollywood's elite" HAHAHAHA wow you really put them on a pedestal.

[leahzrc]

I could say the same about men. You should feel lucky anyone calls you handsome.

[Asker]

I don't feel lucky but I guess I should take it as a compliment instead of getting annoyed about it.

[SexyBrunetteNY]

I experience the same from way older unattractive dudes, it just happens. No reason for it, people see something they like and give it a shot.

[FunkyMonkee]

Those are the ones that are REALLY horny and can't get anyone else so, they take what they can get.

[Asker]

They have other guys flirting with them though lol so at least some guys find them attractive. However I do not.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, maybe they don't find those guys attractive and would rather have you.

[boggboss]

Because they don't think u are good looking would be my instant thought

[boggboss]

Lol the same way I'm sure women u find attractive would be put off by u complimenting them if they never found u attractive

[Asker]

I don't compliment women lol

[boggboss]

Fair enough

[Asker]

And I'm pretty sure I'm attractive to even the really pretty women but they just never compliment me

[boggboss]

Lol sure thing 👍🏽

[Asker]

I don't know why you are making it sound like I'm lying or making it up. You sound jealous lol

[boggboss]

Lol sure thing 👍🏽I'm jeloouse of a blue anon with a story of being attracted to women he dont like hit the nail right on the head 😅

[Asker]

yeah you are because if you weren't jealous then you wouldn't be trying to pull me down.

[boggboss]

No im calling out what sounds like bullshit has nothing to do with pulling g u down just sounds like u making up stories mate

[Asker]

what do you think I'm making up?

[boggboss]

That u are the picture of perfection yet u are posting as a anon

[Asker]

I never said I'm the picture of perfection. I said close to perfection. Why do I need to show my pic to strangers online?

[boggboss]

U don't but if u make claims about yourself that sound false be prepared to either be called a lier or provide proof

[Anonymous]

What you consider “ugly” may not be to another person.

Please try to realize the difference between opinion and fact.

I find Bella Hadid ugly for example but other people think she’s pretty.

[BrightBubblyKat]

Maybe they’re not average and/or you have unrealistic standards?

[Hermitess]

Because the pretty ones are only interested in men who are perfect 10s and have fancy things

[Asker]

I am very good looking though, and very tall so it doesn't make sense.

[Hermitess]

In your opinion you’re good looking, but are you absolute perfection and dripping with cash?

[Asker]

I'm literally close to perfection. Great jawline, very nice eyes, great hair, 194cm tall. But yeah I don't have lots of cash.

[kakaling]

Because a good looking one is base line for me, I want something more because I have the options, you get this right?

[Asker]

yes, when you have options you want the best looking girl you can find.

[kakaling]

Its not just looks anymore...

[Asker]

what is it then? personality? money?

[kakaling]

Yes, the pretty ones wants more. Handsome is the baseline.

[kakaling]

Not all the same for everyone, that my guess.

[Anonymous]

You attract who you deserve. Enjoy!

[Asker]

I deserve way hotter women lol

[dolemite58]

cuz women date up and across, never down

[Asker]

I'm in the same league as them though

[Anonymous]

I hope you aren't complaining.