How do you go through life if you’re a passive person and can’t handle confrontation?

[Anonymous]

It’s hard for me. Some people seem to love confronting others over minor issues. And some people are strong and keep cool under pressure like that.
some people know how to explain their POV when offended by another’s actions.

but then there’s me. If someone is trying to confront me I try to avoid responding and avoid having to deal with that. Sometimes Im to blame but if I feel like the confrontation might not be soft and gentle I will have a hard time facing it and so try to avoid it. For example I keep calling out of work and my job is calling me. Lol. I know I’m on the wrong but I simply cannot face being confronted so I don’t answer my phone.

I worry about myself. Sometimes I wish life was a bit easier. I know I need to stop calling out and/or explain that I’m getting sick and have to call out but it’s just hard for me.

im so emotional and sensitive.

I don’t want to get in situations where I’m doing things I don’t want to because I’ve been forced by a pushy person or whatnot. Most of the dates I’ve been in with guys in my life were because I didn’t want to let them down by saying no.

I can feel peoples emotions too and I react more to that than the words. People say it’s my imagination and that I can’t really tell what people are feeling. I don’t get that. I am primarily an emotional being.

I like making others feel good/calm/pleased.

[noemiii]

You should take this as who you are and study being a mediator. This is not a bad trait to have ultimately. There are a lot of people on earth like this, but it is important to set boundaries. I don’t like saying no either, but unfortunately for me with this passive mindset I’ve just become a very unapproachable person as a defense mechanism. No one bothers me anymore because I’ve put up a layered wall. Not the best mechanism but it keeps me safe.

Just realize, it may only feel like an issue in the environment you’re in. While people who live in NYC may feel they need to be confrontational, if you were to travel to Japan you’ll see that the passive mediator personality is almost the whole population.

Don’t feel bad for who you are is the first step. You don’t need to learn anything but boundaries. You don’t need to learn assertiveness or confrontation skills, but the only way you would learn them is if you put yourself in these situations repeatedly.

[_Maya_]

People really can't change who they are and this is just the way you are. You have to accept that it isn't exactly a bad trait or characteristic to have. The important thing is to find a guy (if that is the point of the post) that matches your personality and isn't one that gets into confrontations and stuff. I mean it is bound to happen once in a while but if you find someone that is just similar to you then the odds of it happening go down. That is all about trial and error and hopefully finding the right person.

[Anonymous]

ironically the woman i love is like that but yet for some odd reason she can't tell for shit when i'm depressed or sad or upset or wanting her to say she loves me or show some sign of affection towards me at times it feels like a lost cause with her

[Opinion Owner]

especially when i feel unappreciated taken for granted with no thank you given directly to me and not some bullshit in general nonsense crap

[boggboss]

Most tend to become doormats and get bullied or pushed around by others that are more assertive from my expirance

[Iron_Man]

You have to defend yourself and handle adversity