Do I spend too much time wondering WHY people take rude or even hostile actions s towards me or in general and instead I should only worry about what?

[Whaipretn]

Responses I should be having to them so that I can avoid these people or not let them effect my life any more than they already do?

[caring__1]

First off, worrying about anything is fruitless. Worrying is focusing on things out of your control, while caring is focusing on things within your control. If you don't like what others do, disconnect from them as much as possible. Expecting others to change, or focusing on what should or shouldn't be, will only lead to frustration and disappointment on your part. Their perspective makes just as much sense to them as yours does to you, so accept them as they are or move on.

If your words or actions trigger negative responses, you may want to learn effective communication skills, so you discover the words or actions that put people on the defensive and alternatives that might work better. Improve yourself and how you deal with disappointment rather than expect more from others.

[Whaipretn]

Hello. Thank you. I would like to ask for your advice or thoughts on a situation since you are very wise and helpful. Can I contact you or should I post a new question?

[caring__1]

Feel free to DM me.