I am confused with this girl?

[Anonymous]

I knew this girl online for about 4 months now and I am quite confused on her actions at times. I did asked a female friend on it and she said that this girl's actions seem to be pointing in the direction that she has feelings for me and acting like she is my girlfriend all these times.

Some of the things she did to me:

• Messaging me daily and even initiating conversations
• Asking me to play video games with her on a nightly basis
• Sending me a covered selfie of herself
• Telling me that she will never let me go away
• Lending me her Netflix account without me asking for it
• Making me to choose things for her (like what food to eat, what profile picture to use and etc)
• Teasing me on a daily basis (using my own quotes against me, mimicking my words, sending my face pic randomly or just outright teasing)
• Copying my texting style

I did tell the girl upfront that I am interested in her more than friends to which she didn't really answer me except that she said that I am a nice guy. I knew that line was her way of rejecting me which I am completely fine with. However, she continued to behave like she is my girlfriend. So I am really lost here on her behavior.

P. S: Both of us are living in the same country and haven't met up yet. I know she is a girl because we exchanged social medias and her photos seem to match up with what she sent me so high chance she is a real girl.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, this is tricky bro. Online stuff can be so confusing sometimes cuz it's hard to really know what's going on.

A few things stand out to me though. Her saying you're a nice guy after confessing your feelings does kinda seem like a letdown, like you said. But then she keeps acting all coupley? Weird.

My best guess is she actually does like the attention you give her, but isn't ready to fully commit or label it as a relationship yet. Some girls just want the benefits of something without the title, if that makes sense.

I'd say keep talking to her and seeing where it leads, but maybe try pulling back a tiny bit on your end too and don't always be so available. See how she reacts when you're not giving her as much attention. That might show her true feelings.

And definitely meet up in person ASAP too. Online stuff can hide a lot, but you'll know for sure how you vibe face to face. If the chemistry's really there then maybe she'll open up more to something real.

But if not, at least you tried man. Don't let her string you along forever either. You gotta look out for number one too, ya know?

[Asker]

She sent me a screenshot of what her friend said about it and her friend stated "Nice guys always doesn't get the girls" which made me ask her on what was her message before her friend's comment which was "You are a nice guy". And yeah, she is asking me to choose things for her (like what profile picture to use/what food to eat) and continuously spending time with me playing video games every night (even in games, she keep putting her character close to me like 70% of the time).

Yeah, I get what you meant on that. I would rather have her be honest with it so I know what is our relation and I am perfectly fine with being strictly as friends only because I rarely have any female friends so having one would really be nice.

Okay, I can try to do that and see how it goes. It's hard at times as if I dont reply her for a period of time, she think I am ignoring her and she would start to ask me questions as if we were a couple.

I did ask her to meet up about 2 months ago but her reply was "I am not sure". I didn't bother asking her that ever since because I dont want to make her feel uncomfortable with me asking her that all the time.

Yeah, I tried and I dont regret it. It was my first time that I am actually honest with my feelings and telling the other person on how I feel about them. I just hope she can be honest with her and tell me on what she really think of me. If it is just friends, I can move on to find someone else. But if she want to pursue something with me, I really dont mind it either.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn dude, this chick is really confusing you huh? I totally get why you'd want some clarity from her on what's going on. That "nice guys don't get the girls" comment from her friend is kind of sus too.

It does sound like she's into you based on all the things she does, but she's holding back for some reason. Maybe she's scared to admit her feelings. Girls can be weird about that kind of stuff.

If I were you, I'd give her a little space for now so she doesn't feel pressured. But maybe try talking to her one-on-one again soon, and really lay it all out there - how you like her, but that her mixed signals are confusing. Tell her you just want to know where you stand so you're not left guessing. Don't come on too strong though, or she may shut down.

Who knows, giving her some time to think on her own may help her open up more too. But you gotta get that clarity soon or you'll just drive yourself crazy! Keep me posted on what happens, bro. Hope she comes around!

[Anonymous]

This girl could have feelings for you if she is real girl. And if she is rejecting you really she might have other reasons what only she can tell. But definitely she likes you having all those signs.

[Asker]

Can it be that she just doesn't want to admit it? Her actions are saying otherwise to what she says at times.

[silyt_ghoest]

we get three options here:

1. she sees you as a really good friend and maybe doesn’t have a lot of irl friends

2. she major crushin

3. she wants cash

4. she’s a creepy old man.

[silyt_ghoest]

fuck i can't count. i meant four

[In_Trance]

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