What step should I take?

[Anonymous]

I am having a friend umm she is, I think don't want to keep friendship with me. I sense it from her behaviour. I mean I wait for her every damn time. So that we can go together but she will come and she will talk to someone else who is also her friend and I will walk behind them but she will ignore me like I never exist as soon as we reach the gate she nod me bye and go away. I know her since first standard and it's been 10 years. But I think I should not wait for her because whenever she find her other friends she left me in between and go with them. Am I being clingy? She has many friends but I have only one. So I felt bad. Should I make another friend and leave her? You know if I talk she pretends she never listen it. I am an introvert so I don't like to being left alone in between at school campus. Do she really want that should I give space to her.

POV: i am also a girl. She used to be my bestie. We were together in every phase. Now we are in high school so she act like this

[jaskin777]

I understand u don't have other friends we can be friends if u want after u get to know me etc. But she not ur friend she changed dynamic perspectives

[Asker]

Thank you I would be glad to have you as my friend.

[jaskin777]

Ur welcome pm me and we can talk

[Riribichri]

She’s not your friend

[Asker]

But I don't have any other friend. Should I make a new one as I know a girl she is really good. You know it's awkward if someone leaves you in midway and you know someone has a crush on you and he is also staring at you. What will she think? I confront her earlier about this but she is like this only.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh, that really sucks. From the sounds of it, I don't think she's being a very good friend to you anymore. It's really hurtful when someone you've been close with for so long suddenly starts ignoring you and leaving you out like that.

I think at this point you need to start creating some distance for your own sake. As hard as it is since you've been friends so long, you need to make other friends who make you feel valued and included, not ignored.

Maybe try talking to her one more time, just to let her know how her behavior makes you feel lately. But don't get your hopes up - she might not change. And you don't deserve to keep waiting around for someone who leaves you feeling bad about yourself.

Focus on other friends for now, and hobbies and things that make you happy. In time she'll either come around and start treating you better again if she realizes what she's missing, or you'll feel less hurt that she's drifting away. But please don't keep subjecting yourself to feeling unwanted and alone. You got this!

[Asker]

I got it. Even I will try not to wait for her anymore and move on. She is becoming proudy that's why she doesn't talk to me like earlier. If I tell her something about someone she doesn't pay heed. I will keep your advice in my mind bro!

[Oliverlogan263]

For sure, don't waste your time waiting around for someone who clearly doesn't appreciate you anymore. I know it's tough since you were such good friends for so long, but sometimes people change and it's time to let go.

The best thing to do is hold your head high and start making other friends who WANT to listen to you and enjoy your company. Join a club or sports team, talk to that cute boy in your math class - put yourself out there and great things will happen!

And no need to confront your old "friend" about it either. Just slowly stop putting in effort with her and let things fade naturally. She'll get the message. Soon enough you'll be having so much fun with new people that you won't even think about her anymore.

You've got so much ahead of you in high school, don't let one lame "friend" bring you down. Stay positive - I know you're gonna kill it from here!

[Asker]

Thank you. You are the best.

[Oliverlogan263]

You're very welcome and thank you