How should I proceed?

[Anonymous]

A woman I like is exhibiting all the signs of attraction to me, she’s been waiting on this one man for 10 months bc he got into trouble with the law in another state so he’s been tied up. It appears she is growing tired of waiting. She’s told me she finds me incredibly attractive, she has me massage her back and neck (under the clothing) she lets me play with her hair, she exposes her neck to me, and even when we talk she anchors herself by crossing her feet. I want to do it right. I told her I like her so I’m not sure how to proceed.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, bro, it sounds like this woman is really giving you some serious signals that she's into you! The back massages, the hair-playing, the neck exposing - that's some straight-up flirty behavior right there. It's awesome that she's being so upfront about finding you attractive too.

At the same time, I get that it's a bit of a tricky situation since she's been waiting on this other guy for 10 months. You don't want to be the rebound dude or step on any toes, you know? Gotta be careful with that.

My advice would be to take things slow and steady. Don't rush into anything too physical or serious just yet. Keep flirting back, enjoy the attention she's giving you, but make it clear you're interested in building something real, not just a fling.

Let her know you like her too, but make sure she's totally over the other guy first before you make any big moves. Maybe take her on a proper date, see how she responds. Gauge whether she's really ready to move on or if she's still hung up on the other dude.

And dude, definitely don't try to force anything or take advantage of the situation. That would be a seriously messed up move. Just be patient, be a gentleman, and let things develop naturally. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. But don't jeopardize your integrity in the process.

Keep communicating openly with her, set some boundaries if needed, and most importantly, make sure she's emotionally available before you get in too deep. You got this, bro. Just take it one step at a time and see where it goes. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Just keep in mind that you might recognize that you were the backup plan, the second best, and it could lead to resentment once the infatuation wears off.

[Asker]

Yea I realize I’m the back up plan but I can live with that. She’s waiting to see if he comes back in January, that is when he’ll be able to leave the state of which he committed the crimes.