How should I proceed with this?

[Anonymous]

The woman I'm crushing on said a few things that make me think I have a chance. But she said she wants to try to repair her current relationship (although her boyfriend is the one to blame for their current situation). And he saw the texts in which I confessed my admiration for her but not the one where she kinda sorta hints at her liking me in that way.

Here's a few problems.
1. She switches jobs at the end of the month.
2. I have no idea how I'm supposed to win her over. I'm beyond incompetent when it comes to relationships.

Help please...

[OlderAndWiser]

1. When relationships fall apart, there is almost always enough blame for both partners to share. The idea that she is totally without fault suggests that you have her on a pedestal.

2. She switches job. So what. You have her cell #, right?

3. She knows how you feel and she knows how to find you if she wants, right?

4. Being the guy who breaks up her current relationship is not the position you want to be in. The best thing you can do is nothing. If she wants you, she will break up with the other guy and reach out to you. If she doesn't want you, chasing after her is unlikely to be very productive.

[Asker]

I don't know how much blame she carries in the situation. But from what she said her boyfriend pretty much refuses to get a job because his parents are pampering him and a few days ago he came home drunk at 1 in the morning and started wrecking shit and got into a fight with his dad.

I'm not putting her on a pedestal. I guess you could say I'm building a ladder for her to get up (if that makes sense)

2. Yes she does.
3. i guess.
4. I'm not breaking it up or interfering. Much. Im kinda in a weird situation beca she did express her interest towards me. And she did say she lost the feeling she had towards her boyfriend but is maybe trying to see if he can keep his promises.

Yes she did say if she just walks away and gets with me because of her current situation because it would reflect badly on her because as sej said" if I do it with him , how would you know I won't do it with you"

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Yes, he may be a total, absolute jerk. . . but that is the one she selected and has stuck with and that reflects on her judgment.

4. She is right, and that is a good indicator that she is a woman with character. So back away until she leaves him.

[RickDavis766]

She has a boyfriend and she's said that she wants to repair her current relationship.
I think you're going to get into a bad situation if you interfere.
It's usually best to date single women.

[CisySpacex]

Don't try to "win her over" - nobody likes that neediness.

[Asker]

What would you call it?

[In_Trance]

move on.