How should I proceed?

[Anonymous]

Situation is that me (Male 19) and my best friend's (Male 45) partner (Female 28) who I become close platonically *Clarification later is playing games with me I think. This is my first time posting on this forum although I am a regular reader so I am trying my best to provide information.

About me:

• Been with a lot of girls before but now not interested in relationships
• Recently found out I am asexual trough psychoanalysis
• Is looking for a close platonic friendship

Her usual behavior:

• When alone together very friendly (Laughing our asses off 24/7)
• When my best friend is around (M45) she (F28) ignores me like I am non existent
• She is touchy when we are alone together
• Usually ignores my texts
• She doesn't want to "label" me who am I to her if I ask
• Since I have Aspersers I am especially dumb at perceiving social interaction clues but she looks at me frequent when I don't look at her

Lets name her J for ease. With J I have "agreed" and we are looking at each other like brother and sister, surprisingly both of us are what you would call "hot af" but at least me I don't want to turn this into a romantic or friends with benefits.

Honestly I just want to have a close platonic friendship without any of the added weights of turning it into anything sexual, but I feel like I am being played and the times when she ignores me are like a stab to my hearth each time she does it, I get sad, frustrated, etc...

The thing that confuses me that every time I confront her about this, she tells me she "loves me as a very close friend" but then she acts the way I described.

Thank you so much If you read it trough

[Qwerrtty]

You've to inform your best friend
Hopefully, she won't destroy your friendship with him OR the best you could do is distance yourself from her

[YesIWouldLikeFries]

Get out now before you get into it too much further. You'll be better off in the long run.
If she keeps at it tell her that its inappropriate to play with someone's emotions like that. She's still a child for behaving the way she is.

[gabby100]

By the sound of it, she is a friend , and you are misreading her. She just wants to be a close friend..

[Iron_Man]

This is extremely complicated If you’re looking for a close friend doesn’t matter how she behaves you’re not involved anyway

[Iron_Man]

Either you’re a friend or you’re not and if you don’t like the way she acts move on to another friend

[WhitneySnow]

I totally agree with @gabby100

[Avicenna]

I’d tell him what she’s doing