Can someone confirm if this is normal or not?

[Lej098765]

Nothing feels right. I am not at peace, I am not happy, and nothing feels right. Everything feels off, like I’m not where I’m supposed to be on any level of my life. Is this anxiety? I can’t remember a time where I’ve felt content or like I’m where I belong. I feel so lost. Is this a normal feeling for someone else or do I need meds?

[Robocod]

It's normal. To a certain extent I'd say it's human. Some lucky people have a content life, but majority will have this kind of thoughts at some point in their lives. Some more than others, some will ignore them, others will drown them in booze, others will listen to them.

Stay away from meds. They're a switch to turn off the bad thoughts, but those won't go away, they'll just set deeper roots. You must instead acknowledge them and process them.

I’m not where I’m supposed to be on any level of my life.

Who handed you a schedule for your life? Throw it away.

I can't remember a time where I’ve felt content or like I’m where I belong.

I personally think that feeling you don't belong to this place is a blessing in disguise. It means you are different, your soul doesn't want to be placed in a box with a label on it: the standard woman, the standard citizen, the standard worker, the standard consumer. You should try to tune into her. Listen to what she wants.

As immediate steps I suggest you this

• Throw away the television. People around you are already pouring on you schedules and expectations. You don't want at home a screen bombarding you with extra doses of role models and insecurities. Can you do it? Seems an easy step to do but for many it's almost impossible. Trust me, your quality of life will improve.
• Same with social media, pictures of happy people in happy places are a façade usually full of digital filters. For what you know they're dealing with depression, or they're cheating on the partner they're hugging so lovely but all you see is that happiness you haven't got.

Then the difficult part: introspection. Acknowledge your thoughts. Don't get sucked in the emotions they carry, observe them with detachment and try to understand where they come from. Are they yours or do they come from other people's expectations?

Spirituality is very important for people that like you feels out of place. I'm not saying you must pray Jesus, Allah, Buddha or some New Age being. Becoming Christian, Muslim etc is another box you're putting your soul in.

I'm saying instead that you should forget the modern aseptic view that we are basically bags of organs that casually learned to talk and now have to become a PhD at 32, start a family in 3 years with a partner ± their age and so on.

I suggest you to explore oriental meditation and Buddhist concept of impermanence. Nothing lasts: sadness, happiness, neither death is permanent as it's part of this world, longing for impermanent things is, at the end of the ride, pointless.

But please do cherry picking, take what resonates in you and from it hoop to new concepts, don't say "oh I like this, I'm meditating so I'm Buddhist now and he rest is wrong".

If you feel overwhelmed then try speaking to a therapist. But pick a good one. I would use the word "enlightened", not someone who is just parrot-repeating what he has learned at school, because he will apply the standard protocol for standard people, not a response tailored on you.

Please keep meds as your last resort.

I wish you you'll find serenity.

[MustafaAl]

Hmm "normal" is subjective word
Put a Muslim arab in an ethnically and religious homogeneous place people
(Lets say a random polish village) will berate you



Perhaps just tell yourself the need to assert to be your self and be authentic to yourself



You can have an appointment with phylogist if you want to have a analysis done in your mental health and/or that analysis will tell you are strength and weaknesses and how to cope and capitalize in your advantage.



And focus on things NOT on people. Period

[PrincessBunBuns]

Maybe a therapist can help you. Sometimes all we need is a little reflection and self improvement in our lives. We have to be comfortable where we are to be happy, but that doesn’t mean we can’t improve. Find what you enjoy about life now. But yes, therapy can also help!

[IslaTheWitch]

Whatever long-term discomfort you experience and whatever prevents you from feeling positive emotions, should be addressed by a specialist. Living that way can have more negative effects than we would like to know about. It's your life, so take care of it.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It's sadness, when feeling sadness it can be very persuasive on changing your mind about many other things but there one main thing you are missing that's keeping you sad and it's possible it's making you feel like your whole life is out of place, it can also come from stress and anxiety, hope you feel better 💯

[exitseven]

Covid has screwed up a lot of things for people. The combination of covid and having Biden as president has made everyone feel like they don't recognize their country anymore. Sometimes I feel like I just landed on Mars. https://www. youtube. com/watch? v=Z1yp5zqYs6w

[Ben487]

sounds normal to me. Its a natural response when you get into your thirties and life's plans have not worked out. If you're still lost its about time to make some changes. If you get comfortable with it that'd be like accepting failure or not making the right corrective actions.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Its called being too poor to get what you want in life.

Drugs can't fix that.

[Luckycharms12]

Sounds like you need some countselling maybe meds but definitely countselling will help.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you might have depression

[Anonymous]

That is not healthy at all.

[Alex8736]

Would you consider yourself as a perfectionist?

[jimmy2]

pR me I know what it is

[Jmmmfi4]

ANTI DEPRESSANTS MIGHT HELP

[Anonymous]

When was the last time you felt happy?

[DaBiggestBird]

That sounds familiar

[OddBeMe]

Yes. And happy pms.

[bigone101]

Beautiful