Do y’all think I am being used by my so called coworker slash “friend” whom I work with?

[Anonymous]

The reason why I am asking is bc so she told me she has a spare tire and asked if I come to Costco “shop” and than take her home in my car! I said what if I said no who would take you she jokingly said “you”, but we hardly ever see each other outside of work what makes her think she can just freely ask me to drop her off and this is not one time thing she asked from me she also been asking me if she can borrow money from me etc is she using me or what?

[Anonymous]

Being dependable is both a blessing and a curse. I don’t know if I can say she’s using you but she knows you have her back I guess. Money is another discussion, but the ride to costco doesn’t sound so bad if she’s having issues with her tires. Remember you aren’t obligated to say yes to the ride or anything else, so if you don’t want to then either give an excuse or decline, real friends will accept your NO just as much as they accept your YES. It doesn’t have to be this pout and stomp from you though, it isn’t that deep.

[Asker]

Yeaaa you saying I am being dependent and she’s relying on me for that

[Asker]

Yea I be having her back but the question is does she have my back

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly, she knows she can rely on you but whether that is a good or bad thing I don’t know. Do you feel like she has your back?

[Asker]

No I never ask anything from her bc I have no need to

[Asker]

No I doubt she has my back bc she used to be jealous and stuff when it came to me

[Staximus]

Don't give her any money

[Asker]

Dropping her off is that me being used

[Staximus]

Has she ever asked you to hang out with her without asking for some kind of favor?

[Asker]

Umm just to eat out once and store shopping