Girls, I need some emotional support. What do you say to the fact that I don’t feel attractive despite having six pack abs and 7.5 on beauty scores?

[Anonymous]

If a female had insecurity about her natural attractiveness, I’d tell her to be damn sure almost any boy would be pleased with her looks, unless she had a severe medical condition. Problem is I feel the same way as a boy towards girls.

What are some words of affirmation you can give?

Thanks a lot.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Lack of confidence is always difficult, I've been fighting it most of my life.
Truth be told. There isn't just some words that will magically cure insecurity.

Maybe think about WHY you feel like that,? Where does it come from?

[Asker]

Maybe because I know people my age are in successful relationships or are approached by the opposite gender, or are complimented. It stems from comparing myself to others.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Aaahhh yes. Comparing yourself to others. It's really a dangerous road that doesn't lead to good things.
There will always be someone better than you out there, in anything and everything.

It's just like going to the gym. Don't compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to yourself.

You are enough.

There's a bunch of things I remind myself of.
Like, you could be the juiciest apple there is out there, and there might still be people who won't like apples.

I also help myself but reminding me, that people have willfully bought cars that I found ugly.

I don't know if any of that helps, but it's some of the things I think of.

Don't compare yourself to others. Because you are you, and nobody can take that away from you.

Be kinder to yourself.
And honestly, practice talking kindly to yourself and about yourself.
It's hard work. But it helps along the way.

[Asker]

Thank you 🙂

[Little_Bumblebee]

I hope it helps. Having a lack of confidence is so tough to deal with, and I don't wish it on my worst enemy.

The relationship you have with yourself is the longest you're going to have

[Asker]

Yeah 👍