Is she interested in me?

[Anonymous]

I know a girl for 1 month. She is F29 and I am M25. She is a friend of a friend who entered our friend group. I like her since the very first days, but she also showed some things which make me doubt about her feelings:

1) She used to greet me by saying “Hello handsome” and winked eye when saying goodbye.
2) She is usually the first initiating conversations in person.
3) She accepts to drink from my drinks when we hang out.
4) She replies to my Instagram stories.
5) She tells me she is very happy when she talks to me.
6) My friends tell me to ask her out (like 5 of them) before telling them I like her.
7) She laughs at my jokes.
8 ) Sometimes she acts silly when we are together.
9) She asks my friends if I am a reserved person.

[Oliverlogan263]

Based on what you described, it does seem like this girl is showing some signs of interest in you:

- Calling you "handsome" and winking is flirty behavior that suggests she finds you attractive.

- Initiating conversations and being the first to say hi signals she enjoys talking to you.

- Willingly sharing drinks is a pretty intimate act that people usually only do with friends or romantic interests.

- Replying to your Instagram stories keeps the lines of communication open outside of just seeing each other in person. She's engaging with you online too.

- Saying she's happy when talking to you implies you put her in a good mood.

- Asking about your personality through your friends shows she wants to understand you better on a deeper level rather than just surface stuff.

- Silly, playful behavior can indicate comfort and attraction when around someone you like.

The fact multiple friends are telling you to ask her out also means they likely see signs she may be receptive to that. I'd say overall the signs are looking pretty good! You've got nothing to lose by asking if she wants to grab dinner or do something just the two of you and see where it goes. Go for it dude!

[Asker]

A friend of mine was talking with her yesterday at a group meeting and she said she was dating on Bumble and Tinder and that her filter was 27 to 35 years old. Next, he asked if he found guys his age kids (he isn't into her, was just testing) and she said yes. Suddenly, she asked him what age I am.
Do you consider that interest on me or constating I am too young? Why would a woman ask so?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a tricky one man. On the one hand, it could be a good sign that she specifically asked about your age after talking about wanting guys 27-35. Like maybe she's interested but wasn't sure if you fit what she said she was looking for age-wise. But at the same time, saying guys your age seem like kids isn't really a compliment. Hard to say for sure what she meant by that.

A few things it could mean:

- She's interested in you but wasn't sure if you were "old enough" for her. So she was checking to see if you fall in her age range preference.

- She was subtly dissing you as being too young without actually saying it to your friend. Like hinting you're not really a option.

- She genuinely sees guys your age as immature but might be willing to make an exception if she likes you enough.

Tough call man. If I were you, I'd try flirting with her a bit more to gauge her vibe. See how she reacts. If she seems into it still, maybe ask her out and see what she says. Better than just wondering, you know? At least that way you'll get a clearer idea of what's what. Don't lose hope yet!

[Asker]

Quick update. I asked her out on a coffee date. She agreed.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude no way, that's awesome! I can't believe she actually said yes to the date! I definitely thought for sure after what she said about only wanting older guys that she'd turn you down. This is sick man, I'm happy for you!

I guess all those signs of her being into you must have meant something after all. She must see something in you that makes her make an exception to her "rules". This is your chance to really show her a good time and see if you can change her mind about your age.

Make sure you act all cool and confident on the date. Laugh at her jokes, ask her questions about herself, compliment her but don't lay it on too thick. Maybe even slyly touch her arm when you're making a point. As long as you just be yourself and don't put too much pressure on it, I bet you'll have her head over heels forgetting all about only wanting older guys.

You totally gotta let me know how it goes! I'm excited to find out if you can score a second date. Fingers crossed for you bro. Just play it smooth and I know you got this in the bag!

[Asker]

Well so I tried to arrange a date but she send me sad stickers and told me she is busy the whole week due to a final university project. I wished her luck and cheered her up and she replied: "A thousand thanks". Then, I told her to say me when she is available and she replied: "Of course I'll doooo". So, at the moment it seems she is actually busy. I just wish she keeps her word. (Which I think she'll do since keeps me replying Instagram stories. Last weekend she also teased me). Will keep you posted.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, sounds like perfect timing just wasn't on your side this time! But don't lose hope yet, bro - I don't think she's blowing you off or anything. Sending sad stickers about being busy with school stuff sounds legit.

Girls that reject you usually don't keep chatting you up on Insta and teasing on weekends like she's doing. If she wasn't interested at all, she prob wouldn't have agreed to reschedule either. Just gotta be patient while she rides out this project deadline.

I say stay positive and keep the connection going online in the meantime. Reply to her stories too, be cute and funny so she stays thinking about ya. A week will fly by. Then hit her up again casually like "hey, finally free this weekend to grab that coffee?"

She said she'd let you know when she's around, so trust she will if she's still down. Have faith in your boyish charms, bro! This could just be a small speed bump. Keep your head up - I think once she's done with school stuff, your shot is still alive! N

[Asker]

After 3 weeks, she replied an Instagram story of me in a café and we ended up scheduling a coffee next week. I thought she politely declined me but there it is! I'll keep you updated for sure.

[Oliverlogan263]

Bro, no way! That's sick, I'm so hyped for you! Three weeks is a long time but hey, better late than never, right? Props to you for being patient and not giving up hope man.

Seems like all that keeping it casual on IG paid off - she obviously still had you on her mind if she ended up replying when you least expected it. This coffee date is gonna be money, I can feel it.

Make sure to dress nice and stay confident when you link up. Ask her about her project now that it's over, show you were thinking of her too. From there let the convo flow naturally.

Keep active listening and looking her in the eye when you talk. A little light touching on the arm if the vibes are right too. She'll be putty in your hands bro!

Really hoping this goes well man. You deserve it after waiting it out like a champ. Can't wait to get the deets after! You're gonna smash this date for sure.

[Saramodel]

Yes and a lot actually. Ask her to go out with you and kiss her passionately.

[slatyb]

Ask her out and then you will know.

[Asker]

I did. She agreed for a coffee date.

[slatyb]

Great! Best wishes.

[RelentlessWitch]

It looks like she's interested

[Asker]

I have news and since you are a woman and close to her age I wanted to ask you:

A friend of mine was talking with her yesterday at a group meeting and she said she was dating on Bumble and Tinder and that her filter was 27 to 35 years old. Next, he asked if he found guys his age kids (he isn't into her, was just testing) and she said yes. Suddenly, she asked him what age I am.
Do you consider that interest on me or constating I am too young? Why would a woman ask so?