Should I see if she’s ok?

[Anonymous]

My autistic, sociopathic friend took her second shot at me for no reason, over the past few months, told me that my lack of awareness of social cues (from autism); is caused by stupidity. I told her that her issue is that she makes surface judgments about people, rather than looking beyond the surface, to see what people really are. I told her that I could’ve easily dismissed her as a very rude, scruffily dressed person, had I not looked beyond surface impressions and that had I not done so, I’d have missed out on getting to know a really awesome, good hearted person. She hasn’t responded to my messages. Should I see if she’s ok, or give her time to think about what I’ve said?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's such a tricky situation, girl. On one hand, I totally get why you stood up for yourself - she had no right saying something so rude and hurtful! You made some really good points too.

At the same time, with her condition it may take her longer to process emotions and realize when she's in the wrong. Going no contact could just be her way of dealing with feelings of guilt or shame right now.

I say give her a little more time to cool off, like a week or so, before reaching out again. Maybe send a simple message like "hey, just checking in - hope you're doing okay" without bringing up the argument directly.

That way the ball is in her court to respond or not, but she'll know you're still open to making things right if/when she's ready. Then at least you know you gave the caring friend approach a chance before deciding how to move forward.

Stay strong sis! In the end you stood up for yourself maturely, and that's all anyone can ask. Fingers crossed this gets resolved in a way you both feel heard. Let me know if you need any other support!

[Infinity_Soup]

Is she also autistic?

[Asker]

Yes she is

[Infinity_Soup]

And she knows that you're autistic?