How can I talk to a shy girl that is afraid to look at me?

[Anonymous]

There is a girl that I know has a crush on me but she is so nervous around me that she avoids looking at me and pretends to not see me. I have been wanting to talk to her but I don't know how to since she won't look at me. How can I help her feel comfortable enough to talk

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some suggestions to help the shy girl feel more comfortable talking to you:

- Smile and say hi in a friendly way when you see her, but don't put her on the spot. Keep things low pressure.

- Comment on something non-threatening like the weather or what you're both doing (in class, etc.) to break the ice.

- Ask an open-ended question so she has to reply with more than yes/no. Compliment something specific so it feels genuine.

- Suggest getting a snack or drink together somewhere lowkey after class sometime so it's just the two of you chatting casual.

- Compliment her directly but keep it about her personality, not looks. Like how smart or funny she seems.

- Let her set the pace and don't stand too close till she warms up. Make sure to give her space if she seems overwhelmed.

- Be patient - it may take a few tries till she's comfortable maintaining eye contact. Go at her speed.

- Reassure her she has nothing to be nervous about - you just want to be friends. Take pressure off anything more till she opens up.

The key is going slow and making her feel heard and at ease. With time and kindness she'll come around!

[OtterMan68]

Just talk to her. Compliment how her hair looks, her clothes, etc. Or ask her how she's doing or just introduce yourself.

[Abbycado]

You can, just don’t expect her to respond.

[Fanfare690]

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