Men leave if the lady isn't good fit for him but women insist on trying to change a man who isn't for her. Why is this?

[DreamLife7]

Ladies and gents, have you noticed that when a man meets a woman and notices she's not a good fit for him, he leaves versus women who instead try to change a man?

I've seen many posts here that stated, " My boyfriend drinks a lot what should I do? " then proceeds to state how she's gonna take his alcohol away call his mom blah blah. My comment to her was, " If you don't like his ways, then leave. You're not his mom. "

[Chazmatazz269]

That’s not entirely accurate. Men have a strong sense of loyalty. Especially if vows were made and/or children are involved, men tend to just settle. A big part of that is that we aren’t sold the same fairytale females were, and nobody is telling us yet to reject what we’ve been taught. Men are subhuman unless a woman loves us, “The Princess and the Frog”. Men are not worthy of love unless we’re prepared to die for a woman we’ve never even met, pretty much EVERY damsel in distress fairytale. Even then, he’s probably still a turd unless she accepts “true love’s kiss”. We are taught from an early age that our entire purpose is to produce and provide for women and their children. The subhuman narrative is perpetuated in nearly every facet of our lives, ensuring we never get to big for our britches and dare set standards and boundaries. Ell oh ell!
You’re probably not wrong about a minority of men who just scram at the first red flag. From what i gather, it’s getting more common. I think that’s a good thing!
Women, despite the other side of the fairytale suggesting that only your true love will be self-sacrificing for you, don’t seem to adhere to that. I get it. Who wants a simpering yes man when the bad boy looks at you the way he does? And somehow women have adopted the notion that she’s not worthy unless she can “make a bad boy good for a (weekend)”. Ell oh ell! Who does she think she’s kidding. Women want to marry the bad boy and tell all their friends how she was the one to tame the beast, “Beauty and the Beast”. In case it wasn’t obvious. Women love drama and danger. Name ONE harlequin romance novel about women swooning for a sweet, honest, hardworking boy with good morals and a sense of humor…. i’ll wait.

[DreamLife7]

Who says men aren't loyal? Men being smart enough to walk away from a woman they know they wouldn't be compatible with is smart not disloyal. They're not interested in fixing or trying to change a woman. But on the other hand woman love to take on men who don't like them back that are projects then try to change the man then when they can't change him complain that men are garbage

[Chazmatazz269]

Clearly you didn’t read my entire response. That’s fine. I can be overly wordy. But don’t bother to respond if you don’t read my response. You just make yourself look like an asshole.

[DreamLife7]

I read it and I agree for the most part. When I seem u mention loyalty I didn't want my saying of men walking away seem as though I'm saying they aren't loyal.

[handsomelad70]

Because historically women were supposed to do almost EVERYTHING to keep a man, even accept physical and/or emotional abuse if the dude were a good provider, so remnants of this situation exist today with women attempting to change their men rather than leave them.

[DreamLife7]

But even with dating 1st date, a man may notice there was no spark they move on. These girls will contact the guy, begging to know why he hasn't arranged a second date, cry about it, and ask the silly questions they ask on social media. And that's just early stages

[DrPepper12]

Women like to take in strays and DIY projects. It's their nurturing nature I think.

[DreamLife7]

🤣😭

[noohair]

80/20 Rule
Men decide if the 80% goo in a relationship is worth the 20% bad and take the 80% and deal with the 20%. Women take the 80% and go to work on the 20%. Result, broken relationships because the only person you have any chance of changing is yourself.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Women pick men they hope they can change. Men pick women they hope won't ever change

[EmisElite]

Women have caused this shift. Men have woken up and realized their value. Men have decided to leave because it is better and safer for them.

[NathanDavis]

I would never end with a woman that isn't a good fit with me in the first place...

[bowenw]

It's an age-old story. You can't change people. What you see is what you get.

[DreamLife7]

Exactly but it seems men are the only ones who seem to grasp that and are smart enough to just move on. I see it as a woman but most women lack common sense

[NTwBWCoh]

Men leave when they can no longer tolerate a woman. I've been in relationships for over 10 years where I left due to disrespect. Men typically don't like to end relationships.

[FuqUFggt]

I could tell you but I'd probably get banned again.

[eagle1951]

beats me, but they do

[DreamLife7]

I feel it's such a waste of time and energy. Men are smart enough not to waste their own time. I see it but majority of women lack the common sense to grasp this