Why don’t men just leave the woman alone that they don’t like?

Question

I’ve been talking to a guy for a few months. Things started out pretty good until he started to display red flags. The honeymoon and love bombing phase had finally come to an end and we went from getting along to him completely treating me like trash so i left.

I guess he felt me stripping my energy back from him and would begin finding reasons to text me again and calling me pet names as if we were still together. I would make it clear several times that I didn’t want him calling me that considering we weren’t together but he still continued.

The other day, he texted me yet again pretending to form a conversation and acted like he was just checking on me just to tell me how he had found a new girl and all this stuff that I of course did not even ask about. He started telling me how pretty she is and how she gives him so much peace, etc. I just continued to be encouraging yet still short because again I didn’t want to talk. He then asked me quote: “what do you think about me”? I replied back that I had no answer for that and he got upset and said that he wouldn’t text me again.

Come that next day, which was yesterday he texts me again asking me if I could loan him money and I told him to ask his girlfriend. He continued to go back and forth which led to huge argument with him throwing jabs at my character and even my physical appearance and constantly comparing his girlfriend to me. The entire time I just laughed at him and asked him why he was even texting me in the first place instead of his girl. I tried to convince him several times to block me as anyone would do who truly doesn’t like someone and his response was “I’ll do what I want, I don’t have to block you” while still proceeding to tell me to go away and calling me derogatory terms.

why do men do everything but leave? Keep in mind I’m not hurt at all by the situation because I’ve already lost feelings for him but if anything this just makes me more curious of the male mindset.

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Wow girl, what a complete mess this guy is! Sounds like a classic case of an insecure narcissist who can't stand the idea of you not wanting him anymore.

Some men just have insane ego trips when a woman rejects them or loses interest. It bruises their fragile masculinity and they lash out to hurt you back. His little smacktalking routine was totally pathetic - shows how small he is inside.

Blowing up your phone after claiming he'd stop then begging for money? Such desperate loser behavior. And openly bragging about this new girl screams rebound to me. He just wants to make you jealous but fell flat on his face.

I don't think he actually cared about getting money from you - he was tryna start drama to get a reaction. But good for you for not giving him that satisfaction!

Some men really can't accept that a relationship is over and you don't want them, even when you directly tell them. Their fragile ego won't let them walk away gracefully. All you can do is stand your ground and don't engage. He'll get bored eventually chasing you if you don't give him supply. Keep slaying sis and forget that loser!

slatyb · Accepted Answer

He's angry because:
1. He's sexually frustrated
2. He's unable to find a partner because he has no social skills.
3. He believes that he's entitled to a woman of his choice and when he's rejected he feels that he's being cheated out of his birthright, and he blames the woman.

Block him completely. Do not respond EVER.

Remember how he behaved at the beginning. There were many red flags. The next time you see this behavior, end it quickly. Lie if you have to. Anything to get the guy to go away quietly.

SugarSugarplum · Accepted Answer

Some guys rate girls on a scale of "how likely is she to sleep with me?". They rate us from 0 to 10, and even if you're at 1 there's still some remote chance.

So they string girls along, collecting up 1's 2's 5's 8's, etc. Some days he's got a bunch of 5+s and he pursues them. But other days he might have 2 2's and a 1, so he'll message them hoping for a miracle.

They will only walk away completely if you become a 0. "I will never ever sleep with you no matter what" status.

rienna888 · Accepted Answer

I think a guy would do that if him and his girlfriend are not on good terms. He would text other women to have confidence boost or something. But you dodged a bullet right there because this guy seems to be the cheating type and not trustworthy. I swear all women have men like that in their lives, attractive or unattractive. He does also seem really insecure

MisterWack · Answer

Advice, at the point “calling me pet names as if we were still together.” Should’ve blocked him. Break up, block. No conversation.

He doesn’t leave you alone because you allow him to get to you.

StBerryPi · Answer

So agree like he had a girlfriend! Just wanted more attention and free money. He probably does this with 9 other girls and his girlfriend knows about it

Just trash need a guys online dating ratings site! Look up your crush see if he is a 5 star or trash human!

Had the same thing after the love bombing he has a girlfriend and wants money and won't take no for an answer! Just block them 😒

V_Injector · Answer

Before I read the meat of your issue... just the question. I think we do for the most part unless we're just that horny and go for it anyways, but then it's women that start bitching at us about leaving them alone.

Now let me read the meat of your question... all that text beneath the basic question.

Okay you're fucking some guy, but he starts treating you like shit because he's getting tired of your bullshit... keeps treating more like shit but you keep him around because the dick is probably good... bla bla bla and some more bullshit.

Look, I hear this shit 100's of times a day, but you spread your legs for shitty dudes. Now it's just guys in general that are like the guys you attract or give the chance to pound you out and blow your back out. Uh huh, sure. No sweety... you just fuck shitty men.

Anonymous · Answer

My husband used to tease me a bit before we started dating. It annoyed me and I thought I didn't like him, but took me a while to realise I was really into him. Like he said to me one time I should smile more and I was pissed at him, I asked him what was that supposed to mean and he gave me a cheesey line about how pretty I look when I smile and how it brightens his day. I told him to shut the he'll up with his bullsh*t and walked away. Funny thing was though I was annoyed I felt myself smiling as I went and I was in a very happy mood the rest of the day and others noticed.

Anonymous · Answer

For the same reason women won't leave alone the guy they don't like.

I had a woman come on to me. So I asked her out. And she rejected me. Alright fine, but then she wouldn't leave me alone. So finally I'd had enough and just cut her our of my life. And then she started stalking me.

You explain why a woman does this and I'm guess it's probably similar to why a man do we s it.

Matt_M · Answer

The real question you should be asking yourself is, why do you keep engaging with him? "I’ll do what I want,” he says? That works both ways. This guy is obviously a trainwreck. If you don't want to talk to him, then don't talk to him. Ghost him, block him, sever all ties, and never look back. Let him take his opinions about your character and your appearance and shove them up his ass. You owe this guy nothing.

ManOnFire · Answer

The issue with this story is that you ended it with this guy, yet you still have his number and answer his texts. If you don't want him talking to you and you're serious about being done with him, you should've deleted his number or blocked him when he kept texting you. But you haven't.

Again, this is another story a female is trying to tell in a certain way to make it as if it's all on the guy, leaving out the fact that you still allow him to contact you.

Anonymous · Answer

Good on you for dropping and not being with him anymore.
I always wait a while, two years at minimal and it lets me see how they really can be during real life situations. I don’t see how so many people wait a few dates, couple weeks or a few months.. I wait a few years on a platonic level and observe them from the outside, going about our lives. As I say “just wait, their crazies will surface eventually”.
But whatever does surface, is manageable and mutually something the two of you can work with - that’s the point after all 👍

scooogy · Answer

He sounds like my ex about two years after she left. Wanting to come back, trying to make me jealous, insulting me and so on. Led her straight into alcoholism. Only after she got out of rehab she finally turned to normal again and is now in a healthy relationship with someone else.

Apple1996 · Answer

I've heard that when men don't like a woman they find her annoying but when women don't like man they think of him as invisible so men literally do not have the same ability to block us out like we can do to them lol

Radiate143 · Answer

They don't like you but they want to use you. They say "not all men" but it seems a man with empathy who isn't totally self centered is an exception.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Emotionally tumultuous people like that can't make up their minds about anything. They're just totally out of touch with themselves.

Avicenna · Answer

Control freakery/obsession is the usual reason why

Anonymous · Answer

Block him or, even better, disable messaging in your phone.

DtMe89 · Answer

It's not as easy as it sounds It's like asking women why they don't leave guys they don't like. They often fall for what they WERE

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't know any guys that waste their time on women they don't like. I certainly don't do that. If we actually did that, we would never find women we do like.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Its not the men who won't leave them alone it's the women who won't leave us alone

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

You sound too kind. You need to cut him off.

morganherrel · Answer

girl, im not sure there is a generalization here he's just a messed up person good job dodging this one!!

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Because they are bad liars if someone is a good liar you will get laid

KingslayerC · Answer

Block him. Problem solved.

kaucky1 · Answer

If ur symboled shine 🪄💢🎐⚜️break their teeth

Malwi93 · Answer

Yeah why they gotta insult us

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

THIS man does.

noohair · Answer

Why don't you block him?

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