Ldr,28f, 32m. Known each for 7mo. We had our ups and down. We both confessed to each other. But we talk through it. Found out by myself she's fearful avoidiant, aquarius. She stream online from cooking, dancing, eating.
2mo ago i haven't been Feeling the connection. 1) asking why she can't view another man page on Instagram. 2) when she not happy and I had nothing to do with it she hits me with "nothing, won't talk much. Need space" later she says it's over what other guys are doing with other girls.( supporting and talking) 3) she don't want me like other girls, and even she has male friends, she thinks I'm going be other guys who like multiple girls. I gave her 0 readons for this. But this is 3rd time this happen. She told me cause past and the other guys mention in (2) does it. 4) I help with her last 2 sessions today. She hardly didn't respond to my text on live. I let it slide even though others caught on. 2nd live stream she was in her feelings about a song she was singing and I asked her, what sing this was. She didn't say anything. Another guy told me. When I brought it up to her about her ignoring me. I gave the benifit of the doubt. She could be busy, she might not see it. Just be on alert for my text. She Said
"Well, it's all my fault. I apologize. I've tried my best to answer and take care of everyone. If you think I'm ignoring you, I really don't think so. Sometimes I don't use my work phone when I do group broadcast live, and I only watch it occasionally. keith already answered you when solo was broadcast live today. I was in a sad mood at that time. I think he has answered you."
So She saw my text didn't answer, but let another guy did. I'm not talking to him. Not only that in other live too. She'll thank other people when they support her or talk to her but me hardly anything. I took a screen shot of her looking dead at her phone when I sent thr text.
Should i make this work on run for it?
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Yo man, that's a tough situation. A few red flags I'm seeing:
- The hot/cold behaviour is playing games. No one deserves that mindfuck.
- Letting other dudes answer you on her lives while ignoring you is mad disrespectful.
- Doesn't seem like she's putting in equal effort if she's constantly hitting you with issues and space but not opening up herself.
- Fearful-avoidant attachment style means she's never gonna be good at communicating when things get real. Always gonna push you away.
Look, LDR is hard enough without all that drama. You deserve someone who makes you feel chosen, not like an option. She clearly ain't meeting your needs for connection and trust.
I'd say respectfully end it bro. Let her know you care but the inconsistency is killing it for you. You ain't got time for games. Better fish in the sea, believe! Go find a girl who wants you 100%.
Don't let the what-ifs keep you on the line either. No relationship is perfect, but this one just ain't healthy homie. Time to dip out and live your best life. You got this!
Yeah she is toxic, you should have already left.
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