Daughter has crush on sons friend acting inappropriately around him?

[CarlyClarkson86]

So my little darling has recently developed a crush on my sons friend she’s at the age now where she’s started to notice boys.

She’s been around him lots of times but it’s only just recently she’s started to act rather “Charismatic” around him as a mother I understand how girls can be when they find a boy rather interesting.

But it’s the way she’s going about it and doing the things to get him to notice her which I have a problem with which I find highly inappropriate,

I unfortunately don’t have only sisters just a brother so I can’t exactly go to him for advice I do have a niece but she’s younger than she is so she’s no help.

Say for instance if he comes round she’ll decide to come down in a very short top and a skirt so rolled up you can practically see everything.

Or she’ll sit rather inappropriately in front of him or say she’s getting in the bath and wait for him and my son to come up stairs and leave the door partly open.

I've noticed my son has started to feel uncomfortable when ever he calls to say he’s coming round they’ve been friends for years and I would hate for him to stop coming round because I myself do enjoy his company because he is quite a lovely young man always polite and respects the household.

[Anonymous]

Sorry this is the wrong site for this question. Definitely a Reddit question and maybe even Quora. This site is full of perverts and trolls and you won’t get a real answer.
Her behavior sounds like something she’s learned from either other girls, or seen on social media. There is a “pick-me” movement going around encouraging younger girls to be more promiscuous (because let’s face it, that’s what she’s doing) to get the boys attention, and not to mention tik tok. I do think it’s something you definitely need to address, though.

But, as I said before, this is not the site to get a meaningful answer from. Reddit spaces and Quora have more quality people with more intelligence to answer stuff like this. Don’t even waste your time here.

[DishLady]

She’s watching too many Netflix specials.


You’re her mother. Have a sit down with her and discuss the difference between “hooking a guy” so he looks and “capturing a guy’s attention” so he talks to you an figures he should give a * about this lovely young lady….

[DontAskMePeople]

'humming" Megan Trainer I am your mother.. you listen to me 😂

[RebelinSteel]

You just need to have a talk to her, not just about being at home etc but behaviour in general both inside and out of the home. Explain as a girl what is and what is not suitable behaviour and appropriate attire. As an adult you know what standards should be maintained, just point them out.

[CarlyClarkson86]

Believe me I have tried with her

[RebelinSteel]

As @dustybiker2 says the next step is to up the ante, tell her in no uncertain terms there will be a consequence if she fails to do as she is told. I’m not a parent, however this is a fairly major life lesson, doing the same outside the house could have very major repercussions.

[dustybiker2]

@rebelinsteel 👍

[Loner111]

She's 14 doing that?

Clearly she watches the wrong stuff on TV.

This could be bad for her and the boy as he is 17. Natural, yes, but could land him in trouble. She should cool herself off.

[DontAskMePeople]

All you can do is educate, educate, educate. make sure she has all the knowledge surrounding Boys, birds and bees , appreciate dressing etc. And sorry to say but after that it's out of your hands.. teens will always find a way if its what they truly seek.

I mean how may of us either snuck out at night of told our parents were going to nominated friends house for the night to instead sneak off behind our parents backs?

Judging off her behaviours she's displaying I'd say her time may come sooner than others if she's flashing underwear, dressing very exposed and putting the moves on boys.

Anyway goodluck with it all. Hope it all turns out ok for your son in the end and they remain buddy's 👍

[dustybiker2]

If she isn't listening to you to stop making the friend uncomfortable set down a consequence in front of them. Slight embarrassment might work at 14.

[CarlyClarkson86]

I’ve thought about it but not to sure how to approach it because she acts all innocent when I tell her to sit properly and stuff

[Emanon25]

You need to talk to her, explain to her that is not acceptable for anyone.

[Anonymous]

How old are they

[CarlyClarkson86]

Daughter is 14 and son is 17

[Opinion Owner]

No way way to young stop it

[gorydetails]

fake and gay

[In_Trance]

How old are they?

[mickeysmonkey]

Are you jealous

[CarlyClarkson86]

Jealous of seeing my daughter trying to give my sons friend an upskirt I think not!

[mickeysmonkey]

Your daughter is ok