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what i know is that she never returned home this summer like she normally does and didn't return to her summer job at this restaurant that i go to often. that was where i originally meet her years ago and where she always worked here.
at the end of last summer 2023 i specifically recall her saying she was coming back this summer yet she never came back. whats also weird is no one at her former work even talks about her and she's barely been mentioned at all so far despite the fact she worked there since 2018 and everyone knew her fairly well.
i'm not entirely sure where she is or why she didn't come back home this year , apparently she might still be in the city where she went to school although not sure why is school is obviously over by now.
it feels weird going to that restaurant and for her to never be around on weekends or such. its almost like the people who still work there aren't even allowed to talk about her although not sure why there is such an issue around her specifically
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Dude that is super sketchy. A couple possibilities I can think of:
- Did you guys have a fight last summer or did something happen between you that she didn't like? Maybe she's avoiding coming back cause of that.
- Might she have gotten into some kind of trouble over the school year, like legal or family issues, that would make her want to lay low?
- You said she talks about always coming back - what if something changed in her life, like a new relationship or job opportunity, that made her plans change without telling anyone?
- Is there a chance she could be mad at someone from work and doesn't want to see them? Or vice versa, someone mad at her?
I'd see if you can find any mutual friends on social media and ask casual-like if they know what's up with her. Or maybe try reaching out directly if you were close, say you missed seeing her at work. Better to get answers than wonder, ya know? Let me know if you find out - definitely strange behavior for sure.
i know it is seriously weird by this point , yes we had some issues the summer of 2022 and 2023 , had gotten along great then things got weird and went south like almost instantly and for no obvious reason
have not seen her inperson or any contact since end of last summer
the girls at place she worked at , will not talk to me about her , almost like they've been told not to or specifically don't want to say anything about her to me
i've also had the though , that there must be something about her that she doesn't want me to ever find out about to just like disappear and lie to me endlessly , something she's done in that other city she was in or perhaps back home.
possible she's done sexual things with other men that she doesn't want me to know about or something about her background / family / religion / politics i don't know
but it makes sense if she did really dirty sexual things with other men when i wasn't around that she doesn't want me to ever find out
but i'm not even sure if that is what she is hiding , but it would make sense that an attractive young women like herself got a lot of play when she was away in another city and at bars and parties
but makes sense too , that to me she was the ultimate tease , a girl from home town i couldn't have who worked at this restaurant downtown
but when she was away in this other city perhaps she wasn't a tease anymore to those guys , as she'd be away from parents and free to go out to bar with her girlfriend's. she could pick up a guy and do things without them knowing , without me knowing.
it makes sense to assume that perhaps she lead almost a double life when there vs back home , and now she's decide to abandon the boring life back home and disappear to this other life whatever she is doing
its possible too her parents found out what she was up to there and maybe she doesn't feel comfortable living with them anymore and wants to be somewhere else where she is more free to do as she pleases
was thinking about this at work and is another possibility , the last time i saw her in our hometown was last weekend of summer 2023 , it was her last shift at restaurant and some of her friends from that other city showed up. after she left they went to her parents water front vacation house. its about 45 minutes from there and i've never seen it before and she's never really invited people there or had parties before
but i saw some pictures of social media posted by one of her girlfriend's who did go and seems they spent weekend getting drunk and going boating. but being a nice hot summer weekend you have to wonder if perhaps more happened then they posted.
i recall back in 2022 she was having some sort of issue with her parents , not sure exactly but seems they weren't aware about things she had done when away from home in that other city and she didn't really know or want to tell them.
which is why i'd really wonder what happened that weekend at her parents place , did the party perhaps get more wild then they liked , did they find out something about her afterwords , they could of found something in the house when she left. after a wild weekend parting at a place on the lake , it wouldn't be uncommon for people to leave behind things like used condoms , drug use stuff , right.
you have to wonder if perhaps they found something after that weekend and she got in trouble and has been avoiding them since , but left wondering what the deal breaker was with them? if she did have a falling out with parents , was it drugs , sex , guys , who knows right
i've assumed she came home for x mas but don't know for sure and haven't seen her here or even seen a picture of her in this area since end of last summer. so if she was avoiding them after that party it make sense she wasn't coming home much if at all and perhaps thats why she didn't come home this summer , she didn't want to be around them or they didn't want her around
Yo man, I can totally understand why this whole situation has you so twisted up and thinking the worst. Going ghost like that after things seemed good is beyond sketch. But you gotta be careful about jumping to conclusions too.
I wouldn't necessarily assume it's something sexual she's hiding. There could be a million reasons she didn't come back and wants her old coworkers quiet. Family issues, mental health reasons, who knows. Trying to snoop could backfire too.
I say give it more time. If she doesn't resurface or reach out herself, then there's not much else you can do but move on, as frustrating as that is. If it's really bothering you, maybe a casual call to her folks to check she's alright. But past that, ball's in her court man.
Hard not to obsess when stuff like this happens out of nowhere. But try diverting your energy to living your life like normal. Work, hobbies, with the boys, whatever. Easier said than done to not let it consume you. Stay hopeful she'll come explain when/if she's ready. And hit me up if you need a listening ear, man!
Listen man, I know you have concerns about this girl, but you have to be careful making assumptions or jumping to conclusions. Her personal life and choices are not really your business. The best thing is to give her space and stop trying to analyze or speculate about what happened. If she wants to reach out and explain someday, that's up to her. For now, focus on living your own life and moving on. Dwelling on the unknowns won't help you feel better.
never got any answers as to what happened to her , all i know for sure is she doesn't work there this summer or hasn't had any shifts yet.
it wouldn't be so sketchy if her friends or someone there provided some answer as to what happened , it just seems more off that there unwilling or not allowed to say something about this
its possible she reappears at some point there but maybe just as a customer and she'll say something about her life as to why she suddenly moved on. i believe she worked there from 2018 > 2023 so a few years in a row
Dude, it's really weird that no one will talk about her at all. But you gotta let it go, there's nothing good that'll come from obsessing over it. Some ideas:
- Hit her up on social media one more time acting like nothings wrong. Be casual like "hey haven't seen ya around, just wondering how things are going?"
- Ask a mutual friend if they've been in touch, say you're just checking in to see if they heard from her.
- Give it time - if she ends up reappearing chances are she'll explain what happened on her own terms eventually.
But yeah the no answers thing is strange. My advice - distract yourself with your friends for now. Staying hung up on it won't change anything, could end up looking creepy. She knows how to find you if she wants to get in touch. Try not to overthink it too much dude.
a lot of people there knew her so she definitely told them what she was doing this summer instead of being there.
i'm pretty sure she is not in this area but not entirely sure what she is doing instead of serving there.
its weird you think someone there at least say something so i'd know and at least stop wondering
Yeah man, it is super weird that nobody will give you any answers at all. I'd be freaking out too if I was in your shoes. A couple more things you could try:
- Check her social media more closely - look at older posts, stories, followers, etc. Sometimes little clues can be hidden there about what someone was up to.
- Loop in some mutual friend you're really close with. Tell them how stressed this is making you and see if they'll put in a good word with other friends to find out what's up. Peer pressure may get someone to spill.
- As a last resort, you could try contacting one of her parents or family members if you can find their info. Say you're just worried since she disappeared without warning.
But bro, don't do anything crazy or paranoid. I know it's frustrating as hell not knowing, but you gotta stay chill. Could be she just wants a clean break from here and doesn't wanna be found right now, ya know? Keep us posted if you dig up any leads though. Hope you get some answers soon man, not knowing would drive me bonkers too!
i'm pretty sure her friends know exactly where she is and that she is still in contact with them on social media / text messages. there definitely not at all worried about her or why she isn't back at her normal summer job.
i also noticed it was one of her best friends birthdays this week but not sure if she came back to celebrate with her or not. haven't seen any proof that she's actually physically been back here since she left at end of last summer
but if her parents and friends are still here hard to believe she has not been back at some point
Dude it's so weird that her friends aren't giving you any clues either. Like you said, they definitely know what's up with her since she's still talking to them online. It's kind of messed up that they're leaving you hanging like this when you guys were cool before.
I wonder if maybe her and her friends are playing some kind of weird prank on you? Like maybe she told them some story about why you can't know where she is as a joke. Girls can be immature like that sometimes.
At this point all you can do is keep an eye on her socials and see if you spot her in the background of friends' stuff. Maybe she'll slip up if she did come back for the bday party. It's so confusing man.
I'd definitely be miffed at her friends for not giving you any clues. Maybe one will feel bad eventually and send you a DM. Just play it cool for now so they don't think you're freaking out or anything. Hopefully you get answers soon bro, not knowing would drive me insane!
i do wonder if she came back this past weekend for her friends bday but have no way of proving that and her friends don't seem to post any pictures you could view publicly.
have not seen her in our hometown since end of last summer and not seen any pictures of her being here either.
have came across some pictures of her in that other city that she went to school in and has friends in though so would seem she spent some time there but not clear if that is actually where she lives now or if she just went there some weekends to visit friends
but 100% certain she does not work at that restaurant as a server anymore , some of her friends still do , well a lot of the girls there know her obviously which is why its so off no one has commented about her absence or explained to me what happened to her
Man that is super weird that no one will give you a straight answer about where she is! I'd be wondering all sorts of things too in your position. A few more thoughts:
- It is suspicious none of her friends post pics when she visits. Almost like they're hiding something.
- Did you guys have a major fight or falling out before she disappeared? Some girls will ghost just to be petty.
- Could she have met someone new in that other city and not want you to know? Maybe that's why the friends are staying quiet.
- I'd look more into those pics you found of her in the other place. Try to figure out when they were posted. Could give clues about where she's living now.
Honestly dude at this point I'd ask one of her close friends straight up like "bro what gives? Why is no one telling me where she went?" Peer pressure may make them cave. Or maybe do some social engineering and pretend to be friend with an alt account haha.
You gotta get to the bottom of this mystery! Keep us posted if you find anything else out man, I'm invested in the story now haha. Really hope you get answers soon!
its for sure super weird , i haven't seen any pictures of her in this area since end of summer last year.
she's for sure meet other people in that other city although i'm not sure if she's actually still living there or not as in the past she only stayed there when she was in school so from sep - April and then home for summer break. not entirely sure why she would still be there this summer if that is where is she is?
i though about asking her one friend about her the other day but she only seems to work Saturday nights now and it was too busy for such a convo
but 100 % certain she doesn't work there anymore or at least not there this summer
don't know if she's been back home or not , it does seem highly likely if not almost certain she has been but i've never seen her and isn't 1 single picture of her back home
we didn't get along very well the summer of 2023 , seemed to be various reasons and issues that summer , it wasn't necessary a surprise she ghosted or that i didn't see her for a while but a surprise she took it to such an extreme , it feels almost like she's dead or something , like her life here ended at the end of last summer and she's gone
also not sure i'll ever get answers about her to be honest , its hard to accept but does seem to be what happened
looking back feel like there was something i didn't know about her but just can't seem to ever figure out what.
she could of experienced something earlier in life that caused her to act this way later on , her behaviour was kind of out there , heavy drinking / partying well being a fairly attractive female. its totally possible she had some bad experiences with other guys before i came along
its also possible her family life wasn't good or some reason she didn't want to be around them much anymore. i never even really meet them so don't know what it was like
but feel like she has a secret and i just can't seem to figure out what or how it related to my experience with her
but for sure something really off and weird about this person
1. Dude this is getting weirder and weirder. For her to totally ghost not just you but the whole town is super sketchy. A few more thoughts:
- Could she be in some kind of legal trouble? If so maybe her friends are told not to talk about it.
- I'd try to contact one of her closer friends from back home, not just the one from work. Peer pressure a real pal, see if they cave.
- Did you snoop her socials recently? Even look at deleted posts with archive tools online? Sometimes you find clues.
- Long shot but any chance she secretly moved far away and started over totally? Cut off everyone?
- Could try looking her up online in public records databases, sometimes lists addresses.
I dunno man it just seems off for NO ONE to know where she went. Definitely keep sleuthing. And if you do find out please spill, so curious to solve this mystery! Hope you get answers soon dude, would be driving me NUTS not knowing.
2. Dang dude, this whole situation is seriously bizarre. I can tell it's bothering you a lot, understandably so. Some other thoughts:
- You're right, there were probably things in her past/home life she never opened up about. People don't usually just totally disappear for no reason.
- Her behavior partying/drinking heavily could point to issues she was trying to cope with in unhealthy ways.
- It's possible even her closest friends don't know her full story. She may have been hiding things from everyone.
- As much as you want answers, you really might never get them. Some people are good at covering their tracks.
My advice - try your best to accept you'll likely never have all the pieces to this puzzle. Dwelling on it will only make you crazy! At the same time, don't be too hard on yourself either. It's normal to be confused by something like this.
My suggestion would be to start moving on. Spend time with your other friends and do activities you enjoy. Over time talking to new girls may help you see this one with more clarity too. Just take it easy man!
i'm pretty sure her close girlfriends know exactly where she is and she told them what she is doing instead of working at home this summer.
they just won't tell me , none of them have really talked about her at all this summer and its almost mid August , pretty sure there is no hope she's coming back to that place this summer
perhaps she will return one Christmas or something maybe? at some point she might decide to go back in the pace she used to work
but i really don't know and honestly wonder if i'll ever see her again
i got the vibe she had been lying to me and likely not be honest with other people too ( like her parents and such ) so we don't really know her true story or what is going on with her
Man, this whole situation really sucks. I can tell you cared about this girl and just want some closure. A few more thoughts:
- Her close friends definitely know where she is, they're just not telling you for some reason. Super shady of them.
- Maybe she did a lot of lying and hiding things from people. Would explain why no one really knows her "true story".
- Part of me wonders if she got in some kind of legal trouble or something and told friends not to say anything.
- Best thing to do is try to move on dude. Stop checking in with people about her cuz they clearly ain't telling.
- Like you said, maybe she'll randomly come back around one day and you can get some answers. But i wouldn't count on it.
- Just focus on hanging with the boys and meeting new girls who aren't so sketchy!
Sucks not getting closure but you did your best to find out. At some point gotta accept you may never know the full deal with her. Stay strong dude, you'll get through it!
an update she " reappeared " at the restaurant she had previously worked at last night ( Saturday )
unfortunetly i didn't get to talk to her but it was for sure her , her girlfriend's some of who still work there seemed surprised that she showed up although i somehow doubt they were unaware she was back home this weekend
not entirely sure what she is doing career or education wise now , obviously were missing some details as to her life at the moment to entirely be able to fill in the blanks
one thing about her i did notice was she had lost a lot of weight , not an unhealthy thin but definitely way thinner than when i last saw her last summer. ( she wasn't necessary overwieght when i last saw her but not gym girl thin like she is now ) could be she spends way more time at the gym in this other city
also not working at restaurant she no longer gets 1 free meal she got there everyday so that could also explain why she lost weight if she isn't eating as much restaurant food
so same girl but stuff about her has changed in the last year
the restaurant where she used to work just posted a picture featuring her on an instagram story
it was definitely her and showed her beside 2 other staff members cause it was ones birth day
so apparently she is back home and working there again , although the place where she used to work is more of a summer hot spot and not really that busy in the fall so not really sure how long she is planning work there for
its even slower during the winter
so perhaps i will see her there again soon and can talk to her about her absense the last year and see what she has to say about it
People literally have their own lives to worry about
i had been friends with her so just wondered what became of her , that was all. it just seems off that she didn't come back home when she normally does. it feels like her life here just sort of ended at the end of last summer and she started a new life somewhere else
How is anyone on GAG supposed to know why she didn't come back. My first thought is she's avoiding you and you guys weren't friends. She may have said hey to you and let you buy her a shot. That was it. Find a girl outside of the pub lol
well true no one here is going to know the exact reasons for her actions , perhaps people have experienced similar things and can relate or such as to why someone would do this. during the time she worked there we got along fairly well , things just got weird the last summer she was there and now she isn't around anymore.
at this point i'm honestly wondering if i'll ever see her again which feels really weird as i had previously seen her so often. its hard to accept the though she might just be gone forever.
although feel they'll still be some reason for her to come back here eventually , not sure if her parents still live here or not. they did last summer when she was still here although not sure where they are now and i wouldn't even know them to see em. her older sister who i wouldn't know to see either apparently lives somewhere else now but not sure where.
most of her girlfriend's from high school still work at that restaurant or go there fridays nights but that hasn't been enough for her to come out to see them but it would appear she is in another city far away and not here so
the last time i physically saw her inperson was the end of summer 2023 and i haven't heard anything from her since either and never tried to contact her.
its hard to believe she hasn't been back to our hometown since then? is Thanksgiving , Christmas , Easter if her parents were still here? i also though they had a second house on the water on this lake , you think she'd want to go there for the summer? and they had this dog , you think she'd miss the dog.
so perhaps she has been back here but avoiding the downtown area and that restaurant she used to work at like the plague.
but its all very weird like her life here ended at end of last summer and she just disappeared since then entirely
Maybe her contacting you or you not contacting her should tell you something
she has never once tried to contact me or reach out to me in any way even to try and clarify the situation or tell me to leave her alone or anything.
the only times we ever saw each other was at the place where she worked , its like a restaurant / bar and i'd see her there during the summer when she was working and also sometimes she'd be there afterwork having drinks with friends
was also one time i saw her at another summertime bar in this other town , that was the night i bought her and her girlfriend a shot and they ditched me after and never saw her rest of night. i think that was the only time i ever saw her anywhere else other than the downtown area of our hometown and place she worked
i tried to add her on instagram around fall 2022 but she never accepted my request , i also think she had old accounts on twitter and facebook but didn't try and contact her on them
I could scream it a million times to move on but you won't get it until your fed up
i would of been very open to moving on last summer , think the issue was she and her girlfriend's didn't treat me with respect at the time and i didn't feel i got any closure or answers as to why things happened the way they did with her.
they had plenty of oppurtunity to talk to me privately and resolve things but they choose not to
for them to instead choose this option seems crazy , what harm would of came out of talking to me and trying to resolve this so we could both move on knowing we had found closure and weren't upset at each other over the situation
obvivous is other women out there i'd be interested in dating and being friends with instead
its been tough to accept the fact i may never see this person again , i realise in a big city if something like this happened you'd never see the person again but in a small town often you do run into them later at some point somewhere
I know... it sucks. I'm sorry
the situation does suck really
like i wonder if her girlfriend's are going to play this game all summer where they won't tell me anything about her , its almost mid June , obviously they must know or think i've realised she isn't back by now , they can't think i'm that clueless to fact she isn't around that place
like i honestly wonder what they'd say if i was like whatever happened to ? like would they even answer
like is there anything they could say to me , there must be something they'd be willing to share to at least explain her absence from that place cause clearly she does not work there this summer
I think once you ask you'll finally get your answer
Maybe it'll make you move on
i'd like to think that be the case but seems like a really bunch of stubborn and miserable girls there , i don't get the feeling any answers are forthcoming from them. perhaps someone else might talk to me but not them
if they were going to say something wouldn't they have done so by now , its mid June , in past years she'd be back at work by early May so obviously i'd know by now something was up with her
Those are her friends tho... go and ask them or be left in the dark for good
you think at this point it wouldn't matter if they talked to me and offered up some reason to explain her absence as it doesn't seem like she even works there anymore
but they seem unwilling to offer up anything to explain her whereabouts or reasons why she isn't back after saying she was coming back this summer
i talked to one of the servers there who she was friends with , didn't ask her specifically. but she said a lot of girls her age from our town didn't even come home this summer for various reasons either still in school or found other jobs elsewhere. and bar has been less busy cause of that
but she didn't mention this girl specifically as to what she is doing , but seems there is a lot of girls just not around this summer
Okay, I hope you can move on now
but all i know is that she is not here and not working there this summer and is somewhere else. still no real answers as to why she did what she did , there has never really been any closure with her
And you may never get that
i know don't get the feel her or her friends are too willing to offer up much of anything , she lied to me about a lot of things some very odd to lie about so does seem any answers are very unlikely here